We Worry About Problems We Don’t Even Have

Two people attend a house party, where they socialize with the same guests, drink from the same beer tap, and are exposed to the same music and atmosphere. They decide to share a taxi and drive home when the party is over as they live closely together. “That party really sucked,” one person says. “The beer was terrible, the DJ was really bad, and the guests were insufferable.” Then the other person says smiling joyfully: “Really? I just had the best party in years. It was awesome.”

This example shows how different we see, in essence, the same thing. How come someone experiences outside events as very pleasurable while another person is annoyed by the same circumstances? It seems that everyone has different interpretations of what’s happening around them. What’s gold for someone is mud to someone else. So, what’s preferable, unpleasant, beautiful, or undesirable, although consensus exists, ultimately lies in the eye of the beholder.

Nevertheless, many people have difficulties seeing their realities for what they are: subjective, based on opinion, and not the absolute truth. If someone believes a party inherently sucks, then this person doesn’t see it as a mere observation but as a fact. And as a consequence, the person believes he suffers from the party, but in reality, he suffers from his attitude towards it.” Go to the source: We Worry About Problems We Don’t Even Have – Einzelgänger

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