The Guide to Being a Good Human Being

Ten steps to being likable and loved. Source: The Guide to Being a Good Human Being

What 20 Seconds of Hugging Can Do for You

Read the article: What 20 Seconds of Hugging Can Do for You

Love and ‘limerance’

No, you’re not crazy. Source: The Reason You’re So Obsessed With Him Isn’t Love, It’s Limerence

How Stoics Deal With Loneliness

Until you learn to love yourself that door is locked to someone else…

The Art of Nurturing Self-Talk: How to Tell Yourself What You Need to Hear

Rita Loyd writes “by speaking to myself kindly, I am better able to practice unconditional self-love and make healthy choices for myself. Here’s how I do it.” Source: The Art of Nurturing Self-Talk: How to Tell Yourself What You Need to Hear

The Journey by Mary Oliver

One day you finally knew
what you had to do, and began,
though the voices around you
kept shouting
their bad advice—
though the whole house
began to tremble
and you felt the old tug
at your ankles.
“Mend my life!”
each voice cried.
But you didn’t stop.
You knew what you had to do,
though the wind pried
with its stiff fingers
at the very foundations,
though their melancholy
was terrible.
It was already late
enough, and a wild night,
and the road full of fallen
branches and stones.
But little by little,
as you left their voices behind,
the stars began to burn
through the sheets of clouds,
and there was a new voice
which you slowly
recognized as your own,
that kept you company
as you strode deeper and deeper
into the world,
determined to do
the only thing you could do—
determined to save
the only life you could save.

Source: The Journey by Mary Oliver

How to Stop the War Against Yourself

This conversation between Tara Brach and Dan Harris dives into strategies to deal with your own self-hatred and cultivate a forgiving heart. Source: How to Stop the War Against Yourself – A conversation with Tara Brach & Dan Harris – Tara Brach

Only you can tell yourself to giddyup!

Behold, the power of the cartoon to communicate…

Upgrade Your Mindset

Learn to accept the realities of life with ancient wisdom. Source: Upgrade Your Mindset

Not The, but A Truth About Anger

As I get older and hopefully more emotionally mature, things like ‘THE truth trigger me’. As Khalil Gibran said ‘do not say I have found the truth, instead say I have found A truth’ — that’s the reason for the change in the title. Now, enjoy the article…

You’re not angry; you feel powerless. Here’s what you can do about it. Source: The Truth About Anger

7 Ways Childhood Trauma Shows Up in Your Romantic Relationships via @TinyBuddha

Without healing and inner work, we unconsciously play out patterns from the past and stop ourselves from having a fulfilling relationship. Source: 7 Ways Childhood Trauma Shows Up in Your Romantic Relationships – Tiny Buddha

Understanding Defensiveness As A Coping Skill

Why Do We Get Defensive?

Defensiveness can mean trying to counter or deny criticisms in areas where you feel sensitive, afraid, guilty, or deceitful. In some cases, defensiveness may arise if you felt the need to use specific coping skills in childhood or adolescence to survive, and those skills were helpful at the time. As an adult, however, defensiveness may no longer serve you. Additionally, defensive habits may cause difficulties in pushing others away or communicating. Source: Understanding Defensiveness As A Coping Skill | BetterHelp

The Most Eye Opening 10 Minutes Of Your Life by Dr Gabor Maté

I Worry I’ll Never Change – Here’s Why I Still Accept Myself via @TinyBuddha

I no longer fool myself into thinking anything is wrong with me. I embrace all of who I am, with compassion for the parts of me that struggle. Source: I Worry I’ll Never Change – Here’s Why I Still Accept Myself – Tiny Buddha

Gabor Mate: The Childhood Lie That’s Ruining All Of Our Lives

Gabor Mate is a multi-bestselling author and a world leading expert on trauma and how it effects us throughout our whole lives. A holocaust survivor and a first generation immigrant, Gabor’s knowledge and wisdom on the scars trauma leaves behind is deep and drawn from personal experience.

How Childhood Trauma Leads to Addiction

Gabor Maté CM (born January 6, 1944) is a Hungarian-born Canadian physician. He has a background in family practice and a special interest in childhood development and trauma, and in their potential lifelong impacts on physical and mental health, including on autoimmune disease, cancer, ADHD, addictions, and a wide range of other conditions. Now retired from clinical practice, he travels and speaks extensively on these and related topics, both in North America and abroad. His books have been published internationally in over twenty-five languages. Maté’s approach to addiction focuses on the trauma his patients have suffered and looks to address this in their recovery, with special regard to indigenous populations around the world.


Richard Rohr in Simplicity: The Art of Living

God calls all of you to take the path of the inner truth. Source: Richard Rohr in Simplicity: The Art of Living | Spiritual Practice of the Day | Spirituality & Practice

The One Thing #recommended

The one book that had the biggest impact on my year last year was The ONE Thing. Funny thing is that the book had been on my shelf for at least three years and I never read it. As the woman said ‘when the student is ready the teacher appears’…

The book resonated with me — I had already been thinking along those lines most of my life — and it reorganized my thinking in ways that had a big impact, especially at work!

One of the most important concepts in the book is this: a domino can knock over a domino 1.5x its size…

Resolve to read this book and apply its lessons this year!

Mindfulness Vs. Self-Compassion: Which Matters More?

3 studies show self-compassion is a more powerful mental health predictor. Source: Mindfulness Vs. Self-Compassion: Which Matters More?

How to Build a Happier 2023

Rebecca Rashid, the producer of the Atlantic podcast How to Build a Happy Life, talks about the science of happiness. Source: How to Build a Happier 2023

Our Deepest Fear

Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate.
Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.
It is our light, not our darkness
That most frightens us.

We ask ourselves
Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?
Actually, who are you not to be?
You are a child of God.

Your playing small
Does not serve the world.
There’s nothing enlightened about shrinking
So that other people won’t feel insecure around you.

We are all meant to shine,
As children do.
We were born to make manifest
The glory of God that is within us.

It’s not just in some of us;
It’s in everyone.

And as we let our own light shine,
We unconsciously give other people permission to do the same.
As we’re liberated from our own fear,
Our presence automatically liberates others.

‘Our Deepest Fear’ Poem by Marianne Williamson (also attributed to Nelson Mandela) and ‘The Invitation’ by Oriah Mountain Dreamer – a deeply inspiring poem and quote.

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