“Today, I offer a journal entry from Etty Hillesum (1914–1943), a young Jewish woman who was killed at Auschwitz. In her diary, she recreates a conversation with her friend, writer Klaas Smelik, about the hatred and bullying she saw within her own community: Klaas, all I really wanted to say is this: we have so much work to do on ourselves that we shouldn’t even be thinking of hating our so-called enemies. We are hurtful enough to one another as it is. And I don’t really know what I mean when I say that there are bullies and bad characters among our own people, for no one is really “bad” deep down. I should have liked to reach out to that [bully] with all his fears, I should have liked to trace the source of his panic, to drive him ever deeper into himself, that is the only thing we can do, Klaas, in times like these.” Source: https://email.cac.org/t/ViewEmail/d/62082DE5E9C4AC972540EF23F30FEDED/95BE6BBD9631A2EE6D5E5F9A8728A5A6
When we’re stressed, the first thing we need to do is relieve the pressure where it’s generally the most intense: within our own minds: How to Let Go of the Stress and Pressure That Weigh You Down – Tiny Buddha
We need to focus on what we want (not what’s missing!): Signs of a Healthy Relationship
Consistently investing in your emotional health builds emotional resilience over time. Resilience allows you to maintain groundedness, clarity, and compassion in the face of challenges. When resilience is present a hard hit to your heart, like an argument with a family member, still hurts: Emotional Resilience During the Holidays — Wise Heart
To expect someone to meet all your needs is unrealistic. If you want to good relationship, start by choosing the 3 qualities that you need most: Want a Good Relationship? Try Limiting Your Expectations
Finding the Right One is the Gift that Keeps on Giving: 5 Ways to Know You Found the Right One
Why some couples walk down the aisle and into the sunset: One Simple Way to Maintain a Happy Marriage
Exercise creates this sense of self-efficacy, or confidence because we accomplish something each time we set out to exercise.
Build self-efficacy to help manage work and life: Can Exercise Help With Work-Life Balance?
It might not feel like it in the heat of the moment, but being single proves better than being in a toxic relationship. Here’s the proof: Psychology Explains Why Being Single Is Better Than a Toxic Relationship
You should be able to spend a few days apart from each other without self-destructing: 7 Things Your Relationship Should Be Able To Withstand
New research finds that rituals may help reveal your relationship’s fate: Is Your Relationship Headed for Marriage?
To the borderline, everyone is either a saint or a devil: The Emotional Toll of Living With a Borderline Individual
Routines, even boring ones, actually bring you peace of mind: The Importance of Simple Routines and Solid Connections
Unemployed in lockdown and relying on their partners for support, the problems go far beyond just wondering how to pay their bills: They Lost Their Jobs to COVID. Will Their Relationships Be Next?
The dangers of comparison: 12 Ways Social Media Affects Relationships, From Research & Experts
Like an annual physical, maybe it’s time to get a check-up on your relationship: 9 Questions to Assess the Health of Your Relationship
Knowing if residential therapy is right for your teen and finding quality care: What Parents Can Learn From the Paris Hilton Documentary
In this one minute happiness tip, learn 5 things to STOP doing so you can START being happier! How many of these habits do you need to change so you live your best life?
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