How Pain Can Cause Us to Act “Crazy” in Relationships

But “crazy” behavior might not always be what we think. Sometimes crazy behavior is a symptom of trauma and pain. A lot of times crazy behavior hides deeper issues.
From the moment we are born we start to develop a sense of self and belonging. We start to develop an idea of whom we are, how others feel about us, and where we fit in the world.
Our first feelings and ideas of self come from the relationship we have with our parents.
Generally speaking, if children have healthy parents and feel loved and secure at home, they will grow up secure and will have secure adult relationships.
But if children come from homes where there is any type of trauma, abuse, or abandonment, where they don’t learn to build a secure sense of self, then they will grow up anxious and insecure and will have difficulty trusting others and themselves.
Most of the time, people who act “crazy” are subconsciously playing out their childhood wounds. These wounds need to be worked through; otherwise, they continue to manifest over and over again with every new relationship.

3 thoughts on “How Pain Can Cause Us to Act “Crazy” in Relationships

  1. Hear, hear. The challenge is getting out of that negative spiral. But how? I’d really like to see a follow-up to the article with further detail.


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