Making Peace with Selfishness and Setting Healthy Personal Boundaries

Evita Ochel has a thoughtful article on a difficult topic for me to understand. I share it in hopes that it may help both of us:

One topic that seems to pose some of the greatest challenges for the human species is that of personal boundaries. We want to interact with others, we want to be loving and caring, but we also want to honor our personal space and needs. In this essay, we will address how to expand our consciousness on the topic of selfishness and explore its many dimensions, as well as become more effective in our personal boundary setting.

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Some people’s boundaries are too tight. Some are too loose. Some are non-existent. When should we say “yes” to others and when should we say “no”? How do we know what decisions to make when it comes to other people’s happiness? These questions and considerations do not have easy answers. Whether you officially consider yourself an empath or not, nearly all of us will deal with the challenge of creating healthy personal boundaries at one time in our life, if not many.

As human beings, we are very social species. And while it would be challenging enough to satisfy everyone within a particular reality, or on a planet that shares a common level of evolution or conscious awareness, doing so on planet Earth is a whole other story. On our planet we have a diverse assortment of beings who span a wide range along the spiritual evolution scale. Often we think we are all talking about the same things, seeing the same things and understanding the same things (at least on a general level), but nothing could be further from the truth. The level of perception and awareness on this planet is as diverse, as the living species it houses. It is no coincidence therefore as to why we have so much conflict on both a micro and macro level.

Whatever our external faults may be, deep down almost every single human being seeks to give and receive the same things: love, respect, kindness and compassion. Even though it can be easy to give that to ourselves and others at the same time, more often than not it is a great challenge. How do we stay true to ourselves and satisfy our personal needs, while we offer the same to another? How can we always be there for others without sacrificing our self in the process? Are we selfish to think of ourselves before others? It seems that the more we explore this topic, the more questions, rather than answers come up. But there is light at the end of the tunnel. As always, it comes down to expanding our consciousness and grasping a bigger picture perspective about a certain topic to understand it most fully and effectively. So let’s dive into expanding our perception and understanding of the concept of selfishness and personal boundaries.

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