“The world is full of suffering. It is also full of overcoming it.” ~Helen Keller
You’ve probably heard the saying “Pain is inevitable; suffering is optional.”
For a many years, I didn’t understand how pain and suffering were different from each other. They seemed inextricably wrapped up together, and I took it for granted that one was the inevitable consequence of the other.
However, as I have grown to understand my own capacity to create happiness, I noticed something interesting about the nature of my suffering.
As I reflect back on painful episodes in my life, I can recall losing people who were dear to me. I remember abrupt changes in jobs, housing, and other opportunities that I believed were the basis of my happiness.
In each of those experiences the immediate visceral pain was searing, like a hot knife cutting through my heart. Then afterwards came grief, an emotional response to loss that arose quite naturally.
But closely on the heels of physical pain and emotional grief comes something else, something that I create in my own mind even though it feels quite real. That something else is “suffering.” Full story at: 6 Ways to Decrease Your Suffering | Tiny Buddha.
- Is suffering merely a word or an actuality? (teachingsofmasters.wordpress.com)
- You Can’t Be In Pain! #3 (thedistinctdot.com)
- Love, Impermanence, Uncertainty, Fear: Which Wins? (realtruelove.wordpress.com)
- Pain and Suffering (legendofanomad.com)
- bearing the pain for all sentient beings (justdharmaquotes.wordpress.com)
“There is a great deal of pain in life, and perhaps the only pain that can be avoided is the pain that comes from trying to avoid pain.” – R. D. Laing
“The more you try to avoid suffering, the more you suffer, because smaller and more insignificant things begin to torture you, in proportion to your fear of being hurt. The one who does most to avoid suffering is, in the end, the one who suffers most.” – Thomas Merton, “The Seven Storey Mountain”
“We, who are like senseless children, shrink from suffering, but love its causes.” – Shantideva
John, I loved the first quote so much I posted it here; http://toddlohenry.com/2012/10/24/avoiding-pain/
Thanks Todd, for the kind words and the repost. It looks great!
I just use a presentation in Google Drive, pick an appropriate font and background and save it as a png. Just a little bit of a nicer touch for that really great quote…
Thanks for letting me know that I am not alone….
I think making us feel alone is one of the best strategy the enemy uses to bring us down. Don’t buy into it. You are never alone…
Yes, happy that I started blogging, though humbly :-)
The dirty little secret? It’s the blogger who benefits most. Good luck on your journey…
The dirty little secret? I didn’t get what you meant!
I was pointing to the sufferings of life- mine as well as others
Sorry, Mridula! I think this is a language misunderstanding. I was referring to you starting blogging. To me the secret about blogging is that the blogger benefits most… ‘dirty little secret’ is just an expression and I meant no harm…