Being Open-Minded

Craig Harper shares some thoughts on being open-minded:

If nothing else, the last twenty years have taught me the value of being open-minded. Of being prepared to unlearn. Of being more humble and less self-righteous. Of asking better questions. Of listening to others. And of looking at old things in new ways. They have also taught me that it’s okay to not know things; which is great because I don’t know most things. And that it’s okay to be wrong. And to make mistakes. And to be scared. Which is also great because I’m often wrong, scared and mistaken.

Oh, to be omnipotent.

I’ve also learned that, in many ways, most of us feel obligated to be ‘certain and absolute’ about some things that – if we’re being totally honest – it’s almost impossible to be certain and absolute about. God. Life after death. Love. Relationships. Happiness. The meaning of life. Right. Wrong. Justin Bieber. The Matrix. Just to name a few.

A State of Flux

It’s fair to say that my beliefs, standards, ideas and even my world-view (we all have one) have all changed significantly over the last decade or two. In fact, it’s also fair to say that, in my world, all those things are in a constant state of flux. That is, they are constantly evolving. As am I. They’re always up for discussion. And analysis. Unlike the past, these days I’m not particularly attached to them. Emotionally, that is. I don’t always need to know. I don’t need to be right. And I don’t need to win.

Despite what we’re taught, life is not a competition.

For me, letting go of the need to be right, certain and absolute was one of the most liberating and empowering journeys I’ve ever allowed myself to take. It was like stepping out of chaos and into calm. It was a relief. Looking back, I think it was my insecurity and lack of self-esteem that compelled me to (want to) be all-knowing, certain and right.

Or, at the very least, to appear that way.” Full story at: Being Open-Minded.