Good stuff from Melody Beattie…
One of the silliest things we do to cope with life is devaluing ourselves when bad things happen to us.
We might have experienced a lot of pain while we were growing up. So as a child we looked around and said, “Yup. This must be my fault. There’s something wrong with me.”
Or, “I know if I would have kept my room cleaner, my daddy wouldn’t have gone away”
Low self-esteem—and all the ways it manifests—becomes a way of coping with painful events. We look around and see all the people who don’t appear to have our level of problems, so we may conclude, “There’s something wrong with me.” Although adapting a posture of low self-esteem might have been a way of surviving pain, that time has passed. It’s time to replace low self-esteem with new perspectives.
Stop coping with events by devaluing yourself. Instead, respond to life by loving and taking care of yourself.
Love yourself just as you are.
God, help me love myself for who I am now.
Blessings on you if these words resonate — try to work them into your life one day at a time…
Bright, shiny objects! 