“The beginning of love is the will to let those
we love be perfectly themselves, the resolution not to
twist them to fit our own image. If in loving them we do
not love what they are, but only their potential likeness
to ourselves, then we do not love them: we only love
the reflection of ourselves we find in them”
– Thomas Merton
Source: Loving
Bright, shiny objects! 
What do you think?