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We all need authentic relationships that make us feel emotionally safe, but they can be hard to find. Sadly, loneliness is now an epidemic. Source: 8 Ways You Can Help Fight the Loneliness Epidemic – Tiny Buddha
I’ve always been a fan of Boris Becker. Here is his story in painful detail. Thank you, Apple, for bringing this story forward…
Ja, genau! Wie sein Trainer gesagt hat ‘meistens ist es Becker gegen Becker‘. So ist es am Leben…
Und dann so, teste Ich… meine Psyche.
Boris Becker
Ice cream is delicious. But it’s also a direct line to daydreams and memories—of leisure, of afternoons in the sun, of the excitement you felt as a 5-year-old meeting the ice-cream truck as it rolled down your street. In 2017, the culture writer Matt Siegel noted an Austrian study that found that “only ice cream lowered the human startle response in men and women (at least when ingested by syringe), whereas chocolate and yogurt did not produce statistically significant outcomes across genders.” This suggests that the comfort of ice cream goes much deeper than “the physiological effects of sugar, fat, temperature, and perceived sweetness,” Siegel writes. “The phenomenon, it appears, is largely psychological.” The writer Margaret Visser argues that ice cream evokes two kinds of nostalgia: one for childhood memories, which recall that feeling of comfort, and the other for “Elsewhere”—summer vacations, beaches, whatever elsewhere means to the rememberer in question. The psychological benefits of ice cream were so ingrained in America’s consciousness by World War II that in 1945, the U.S. Navy spent $1 million to convert a barge into a floating ice-cream factory that was towed around the Pacific, distributing ice cream to ships so troops could enjoy it. Source: Why Is Ice Cream So Easy to Love?
I’ve heard many versions of this classic song — including the pathetic (imho) unplugged version — this is arguably the best version ever!
The World Wide Web was created all the way back in 1989. Here’s a look at the history of the web as we know it, up to the present day. Source: A History of the World Wide Web From 1989 to the Present Day
If you go cold turkey off of refined sugar, things start to change within a day. Source: What Happens To Your Body If You Cut Out Sugar? | Digg
Its position is unique in all the US, and the founders of the city knew it. Source: Why Chicago Became So Huge
It’s possible that our regrets don’t take into account enough information to help us feel at peace with painful situations from our past. Source: How To Make Peace with Regrets: 4 Steps That Help Me Let Go – Tiny Buddha
I’m writing this post to share something personal with you. I have an anxious attachment style. This means that I tend to worry a lot about my relationships, especially romantic ones. I crave closeness and intimacy, but I also fear rejection and abandonment. I often feel insecure and needy, and I may act clingy or jealous. Sometimes I overthink everything and imagine worst-case scenarios. Other times I avoid expressing my true feelings or needs, hoping that my partner will just know what I want.
I know that having an anxious attachment style can make it hard to have healthy and satisfying relationships. It can also affect my self-esteem and mental health. That’s why I decided to seek professional help and learn more about myself and my attachment patterns. I want to share with you some of the things that I learned and how they helped me cope better with my anxiety.
One of the first things that I learned is that attachment styles are not fixed or permanent. They are shaped by our early experiences with our caregivers, but they can also change over time and in different contexts. For example, I may feel more anxious with a partner who is distant or inconsistent, but less anxious with a partner who is responsive and supportive. This means that I have some control over how I feel and behave in my relationships. I can also choose partners who are more compatible with my attachment needs and communicate with them openly and honestly.
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Confession. I struggle with attachment styles and I’m looking to change mine. It starts with an assessment you can find in the article I reference here: “How do you feel when your partner doesn’t respond to your text right away? Is it easy for you to express your feelings to friends or loved ones, or do you struggle? Do you stay in touch with exes? Worry your current partner will leave you?
How you answered those questions can offer some insight into your attachment style. According to the field of attachment theory, each person has a unique attachment style that informs how you relate to intimacy: secure, anxious, avoidant and a small subset who are anxious-avoidant.” Source: What can attachment theory teach you about yourself and your relationships? : Life Kit : NPR
Here’s how I scored:
LOL. How can someone be secure and anxious at the same time? That’s what I need to understand! No doubt it has to do with my origin story but I can’t that narrative rule me for the rest of my life…
No matter what problems you’re facing, asking “why?” will help you break through the barriers that keep you stuck. Source: Confronting Your Truth: The Life-Changing Benefits of Asking “Why?” – Tiny Buddha
As the stakes get higher, discovering the limits in their skills. Source: Why Life Can Feel Harder During Your 30s and 40s
When your legs don’t work like they used to before
And I can’t sweep you off of your feet
Will your mouth still remember the taste of my love
Will your eyes still smile from your cheeks
And darling I will be loving you ’til we’re 70
And baby my heart could still fall as hard at 23
And I’m thinking ’bout how people fall in love in mysterious ways
Maybe just the touch of a hand
Oh me I fall in love with you every single day
And I just wanna tell you I am…
“God calls all of you to take the path of the inner truth–and that means taking responsibility for everything that’s in you: for what pleases you and for what you’re ashamed of, for the rich person inside you and for the poor one. Francis of Assisi called this, “loving the leper within us.” If you learn to love the poor one within you, you’ll discover that you have room to have compassion “outside” too, that there’s room in you for others, for those who are different from you, for the least among your brothers and sisters.” Richard Rohr
After divorce, home doesn’t feel like home anymore in the way one knew it. It’s hard on both parents and kids. Go to the source: Finding Home After Divorce: What Brought Me Peace and Healing – Tiny Buddha
Six ways to harness the power of stoicism and cognitive behavioral therapy. Source: Ancient Wisdom Meets Modern Therapy
There is a connection between Hermann Hesse’s work and Hegel’s dialectic in the sense that Hesse was influenced by Hegelian philosophy and dialectical thinking, and this influence can be seen in Hesse’s novels, particularly in his exploration of themes such as self-discovery and personal transformation.
Hegelian dialectic is a philosophical concept that involves the resolution of opposing ideas or contradictions through a process of thesis, antithesis, and synthesis. This process of dialectical thinking involves the transformation of ideas and the search for a higher truth or resolution.
In Hesse’s novels, such as “Demian” and “Steppenwolf,” we see a similar exploration of opposing ideas and the search for a higher truth. Hesse’s characters often undergo a process of transformation, struggling with their own contradictions and ultimately finding a synthesis or resolution through their experiences.
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Carl Jung and Hermann Hesse had a significant connection as both were influential figures in the field of psychology and philosophy during the 20th century.
Hermann Hesse was a renowned German-Swiss writer who explored spiritual and existential themes in his works, while Carl Jung was a Swiss psychiatrist and founder of analytical psychology, which emphasizes the importance of the individual psyche and the exploration of the unconscious.
Jung’s work greatly influenced Hesse’s writing, particularly his interest in exploring the inner workings of the human mind and the concept of individuation. Hesse’s novels, such as “Demian” and “Steppenwolf,” reflect Jungian themes and ideas, including the integration of the shadow self and the importance of finding meaning and purpose in life.
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Ten steps to being likable and loved. Source: The Guide to Being a Good Human Being
Bright, Shiny Objects! 
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