The perils of multitasking

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Why We Need Mistakes and Failures

“The greatest mistake you can make in life is to be continually fearing you will make one.” ~Elbert Hubbard

Get the rest here: Why We Need Mistakes and Failures | Tiny Buddha.

 

 

 

Tall man but short character…

Lead.Learn.Live.

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Note to self; implement idea immediately

The Pain of Anticipating Pain

“If pleasures are greatest in anticipation, just remember that this is also true of troubles.” ~Elbert Hubbard

via Tiny Wisdom: The Pain of Anticipating Pain | Tiny Buddha.

Saying thanks

Melody Beattie writes:

“We learn the magical lesson that making the most of what we have turns it into more.” Codependent No More

Say thank you, until we mean it.

Thank God, life, and the universe for everyone and everything sent your way.

Gratitude unlocks the fullness of life. It turns what we have into enough, and more. It turns denial into acceptance, chaos to order, and confusion to clarity. It can turn a meal into a feast, a house into a home, a stranger into a friend. It turns problems into gifts, failures into successes, the unexpected into perfect timing, and mistakes into important events. It can turn an existence into a real life, and disconnected situations into important and beneficial lessons. Gratitude makes sense of our past, brings peace for today, and creates a vision for tomorrow.

Gratitude makes things right.

Gratitude turns negative energy into positive energy. There is no situation or circumstance so small or large that it is not susceptible to gratitude’s power. We can start with whom we are and what we have today, apply gratitude, then let it work its magic.

Say thank you, until you mean it. if you say it long enough, you will believe it.

Today, I will shine the transforming light of gratitude on all the circumstances of my life.” via Just For Today Meditations » Blog.

Use your a.m. to aim you happily into your day…

I have heard and often repeated that the first hour is the rudder of your day. Make the most of it!!!

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Letting Go

Melody Beattie writes:

“For those of us who have survived by controlling and surrendering, letting go may not come easily.” Beyond Codependency

In recovery, we learn that it is important to identify what we want and need. Where does this concept leave us? With a large but clearly identified package of currently unmet wants and needs. We’ve taken the risk to stop denying and to start accepting what we want and need. The problem is, the want or need hangs there, unmet.

This can be a frustrating, painful, annoying, and sometimes obsession-producing place to be.

After identifying our needs, there is a next step in getting our wants and needs met. This step is one of the spiritual ironies of recovery. The next step is letting go of our wants and needs after we have taken painstaking steps to identify them.

We let them go, we give them up – on a mental, emotional, spiritual, and physical level. Sometimes, this means we need to give up. It is not always easy to get to this place, but this is usually where we need to go.

How often I have denied a want or need, then gone through the steps to identify my needs, only to become annoyed, frustrated, and challenged because I don’t have what I want and don’t know how to get it. If I then embark on a plan to control or influence getting that want or need met, I usually make things worse. Searching, trying to control the process, does not work. I must, I have learned to my dismay, let go.

Sometimes, I even have to go to the point of saying, “I don’t want it. I realize it’s important to me, but I cannot control obtaining that in my life. Now, I don’t care anymore if I have it or not. In fact, I’m going to be absolutely happy without it and without any hope of getting it, because hoping to get it is making me nuts – the more I hope and try to get it, the more frustrated I feel because I’m not getting it.”

I don’t know why the process works this way.

I know only that this is how the process works for me. I have found no way around the concept of letting go.

We often can have what we really want and need, or something better. Letting go is part of what we do to get it.

Today, I will strive to let go of those wants and needs that are causing me frustration. I will enter them on my goal list, then struggle to let go. I will trust God to bring me the desires of my heart, in God’s time and in God’s way.” via Just For Today Meditations » Blog.

The time has come to forgive your parents…

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As A Flower To The Sun

Curated from Steve McSwain @ Mindful Living on Huffingtonpost.com who writes:
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Benjamin Whichcote said, “The human soul is to God as a flower is to the sun; it opens at its approach; it shuts when it withdraws.”

Today, I will approach the sun; I will open to all that is divine. And the approach? Well, it’s just a simple acknowledgement, perhaps a thought, the awareness of desire, attention to a tiny inclination. It’s like magic really. There is no effort whatsoever.

It was Jesus who purportedly said, “Look at the flowers of the field … they neither toil nor spin … and yet, your heavenly father sees them … knows them” (Matthew 6).

No flower ever struggled to open to the sun. It simply turns and looks — and then, it freely shares its color and fragrance with the world.

How beautiful. I think I’ll be the same. Why must I make knowing God into a struggle? Why would I allow the religion within which I was raised continue to hound me inside my head with a catalogue of reminders of what I must do in order to be? No, instead, I’ll lay aside that narrow conditioning and just do nothing but be. I feel such freedom when I’m doing less and being more — more of who I am: a beautiful human flower, simply and effortlessly, opening to the sun.

Ah, that’s it for me. Which reminds me of something Thomas Merton once whispered: “As soon as a person” — that’s me and perhaps you, too — “As soon as a person is inclined to be with God” — as I am and, again, perhaps you are, too — “As soon as a person is inclined to be with God, they are … no matter where they are … in the monastery, in the city, in the woods.”

“Furthermore,” he continued, “Just when it would seem as if he (or, she) is in the middle of his journey” — and, for me, that’s like, most of the time — “Know this: he has actually arrived at his destination already.”

Already? You mean, I’m there now? In the sun? That this thought of God, this inclination for God that I feel from time to time, that’s all it takes and I’m in full bloom already?

Wow! What a Divine thought! Thank you Thomas. Thank you Whichcote. How could I not thank you? Whisper more, my friends. And do so often, this and every day. I’ll be listening for your reminders.

Will you, too? Yes, you, reading this. Can you lay aside the need to judge, to critique, to complain, to express your disapproval and so, temporarily suspend the insatiable need to evaluate the world — to fix, as if you could, what’s wrong with it? Can you release, at least for now, the impulsive need to see who’s reading what you’ve written, commenting on what you’ve labored over? Can you stop doing long enough to simply be? To look? To listen? To blossom?

I have to remind myself of this often, driven as I am to produce, to please, to proclaim, to complain, to impress, to make certain I’m heard, read and, mostly, admired by somebody — anybody. Even a critic and his criticism is better than nothing.

Today, however, I intend to do nothing. Instead, I plan to listen, to observe, to be open to perspectives other than my own, to watch for the divine reminders. They’re everywhere. But they usually come as whispers and are easily missed.

The same is true for you. Know that the sun is shining and you, my friend, are blossoming into Life itself. You are the color on the canvas of creation that creates what’s beautiful about this world. You are the fragrance that makes all things better. You are the flower that blooms and, in the end, what else could possibly matter more?” via Steve McSwain: As A Flower To The Sun”

Always and Never. Two very dangerous and naughty words.

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7 Ways to Unleash Your Inner Superhero (and Get Insanely Healthy)

Stepcase Lifehack

Get the answer here: 7 Ways to Unleash Your Inner Superhero (and Get Insanely Healthy).

My favorite?

Eat right
Using food as fuel and getting enough water makes everything easier. You’ll move better, feel better, and have more energy — the essentials of good health.
A diet of fresh fruits and vegetables, lean meats and healthy fats will keep you in fighting form, creating a lean and mean look that can power you through the toughest of days, while giving you the strength to take on any of life’s challenges. While some like to dive all-in, the best approach might be to start small and build the healthy habit. Try to not drink caloric beverages for a week. Only water, green tea, and black coffee. Once you’ve got the hang of that then think about moving on to your next healthy habit — like 30 minutes of exercise daily.

Approval

"Do not look for approval except for the consciousness of doing your best." - Andrew Carnegie

Interesting! Immediately after coming across this quote from Andrew Carnegie, this podcast from Joel Osteen came up in ‘random’ rotation. When this happens, I believe the Universe is trying to tell me something. If the quote resonates with you, I encourage you to listen to the podcast…

Mindful Eating: Nourish Your Mind And Body

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Get the scoop here: Mindful Eating: Nourish Your Mind And Body.

 

 

 

Don’t look back in anger!

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Leveraging the Power of Intention

“Our intention creates our reality.” ~Wayne Dyer

Read the rest of the article here: Creating Change: Leveraging the Power of Intention | Tiny Buddha.

 

 

 

Who Makes You Better?

Antonio Neves writes:

I’m not going to be a national champion.

Those were my thoughts as I completed my first track and field practice as an NCAA Division I student athlete at Western Michigan University.

As much as this realization stung to the core, it was the truth. No matter how hard I practiced, the odds of my becoming a national champion were pretty much non-existent.

This realization didn’t mean that I didn’t want to get better. Quite the contrary. I was determined to see what I was made of. To see how far my DNA could take me.

Unfortunately, during my first two years of competing, I didn’t come close to placing in a major competition. I was hanging on for dear life and hoping not to get cut from the roster.

That was until one day at practice my coach pointed out something of which I was unaware.

“Antonio, we have two All-Americans on our team,” he said. “I’ve never seen you practice with either of them. Are you surrounding yourself with people who make you better?”

As he walked away I kept asking myself, “Antonio, who makes you better?” This question hit me like a ton of bricks.

The harsh reality was that I spent most of my time at practice going through the motions and joking around with the same group of teammates. As much as I loved these guys, if I gave a less than stellar effort, no one questioned me. They didn’t make me better.

Yet, right there in front of me were two All-Americans that could make me better. But I was intimidated. Why? Because I saw the discipline, hard work, and healthy habits that were required to compete at that level. These were two individuals who wouldn’t accept mediocrity. Was I willing to commit to working that hard?” via Who Makes You Better? « Positively Positive.

Love or dependency?

Kristin Barton Cuthriell has an excellent post on codependency that I want to share with you this morning:

“Love is the ability and willingness to allow those that you care for to be what they choose for themselves without any insistence that they satisfy you.” Wayne Dyer.

Sally tells her husband, Ron, that she would like to go visit her sister for the weekend. Ron becomes upset and accuses Sally of not loving him. He gives Sally such a hard time, that even if she were to go, she would not enjoy herself. Ron tells Sally that he does not want her to go because he loves her and wants to spend all of his time with her.

Ken and Angie spend most evenings and weekends together. One Saturday, Ken is invited to go to a ballgame with the guys. When Ken asks Angie if he can go, she becomes upset and reasons that he would rather be with the guys than with her.  She feels hurt and acts angry and resentful towards Ken. Ken can’t enjoy the game because he knows that he has hurt Angie.

Cindy joins a book club that meets the first Wednesday night of each month. Ted feels threatened by Cindy leaving the house to do something without him. As much as Cindy enjoys book club, she stops going. The way Ted treats her when she does go, just isn’t worth it.

Unless the visit to the sister, the ballgame, and the book club are destructive to the individual or the couple in some way, Ron, Angie, and Ted are operating with their insecurities in the driver’s seat. They believe that they have been acting out of love. But this kind of love is about them, not their partner. What they call love is really dependency. They are not holding their partner back for the good of their partner, they are holding their partner back because they want to make themselves happy. They want to fulfill an unmet need within themselves.

When individuals function from a place of dependency rather than mature love, they are usually trying to get a childhood need for security and nurturing met. As infants, we are totally dependent on our caretakers for all of our needs. If those needs are met, we are more likely to experience mutual love in adult relationships. If those needs are not met when we are young, we do not outgrow them. Instead, we unconsciously demand that these needs be met by our partners. When this happens, our partner’s needs are often ignored and the relationship becomes more about us than about them.

A healthy parent child relationship is very different from a healthy adult relationship. In a healthy parent child relationship, the parent is to meet the child’s needs, not the other way around (Note: meeting a child’s needs is not the same as spoiling a child). The relationship is not mutual. It is about the child.

A healthy adult relationship is about mutual sharing. The adult is not enmeshed, as an infant often is with their primary caretaker. The relationship consists of a delicate balance of closeness and separateness.” If any of this resonates with you, you can read the rest of the article here: Love or dependency – Let Life in Practices.

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A story of a champion

Who Thinks My Thoughts? Steps on the Path to Mindfulness

“Life is 10% what happens to you and 90% how you react to it.” ~Charles Swindoll

Read the rest of the article here: Who Thinks My Thoughts? Steps on the Path to Mindfulness | Tiny Buddha.

Don’t Give Up Your Dreams!

 

Tommy Rosen

had such a good post at the The Daily Love today that I had to grab the whole think [no, that’s not a typo! I’m being intentional] for you:

Don’t you give up your dreams. Spend your life in pursuit of them. It does not matter which ones come true and which ones don’t. The point is you will have lived a life pursuing what meant the most to you. We can look around us and see countless reasons to despair and also countless reasons to persevere.

Focus your attention on the things that make life worth living. Look at publications that uplift you. Read spiritual books that inspire you. If you watch television and movies, try to expose yourself to heart-opening, thought-provoking media. For goodness sakes, do not read the newspaper. We already know that the human condition is full of challenges. There is no need to compound those challenges by focusing our attention en masse upon the worst parts of our society. If you cannot let that go because you feel that your livelihood is connected to it, then be disciplined in what you read so that you only ingest the parts that you must and you will limit the negative effect upon your life.

Look for sources of information, which contain hope, love and possibility within them. Work to make your life better. Work to help the people around you and to make their lives better. If everyone did that, we would have a world of peace in a few weeks.

Be unapologetic in your positivity even in the face of dire circumstances. Even when it seems that there is no way out, insist that there is one and that you just cannot see it at that moment. Though you may not have an answer now, be secure in the knowledge that there is an answer to every question you can ask. You may need to develop patience to wait out periods of “darkness”. Know that the light always comes.

Do not misunderstand the Human condition and how difficult it is. It is challenging to be a human being because of the interplay between our own desires and the rules of The Uni-verse. We die, for example. That’s a tough one for us. We lose loved ones and must navigate through sadness, anger, jealousy and grief. These things are not a theory. We all experience them and we are here, in part, to support each other as we go through the hardest parts of our lives.

We are also here to celebrate each other. To look upon another person’s success with excitement and awe is a blessing. Do not let jealousy and envy overcome you. Be excited for other people who find success and, inspired by their example, continue to pursue the things that mean the most to you. Think how you feel when watching an Olympic athlete win a gold medal. Do you sit there thinking, “Wow, I can’t believe it is not me up there,” or are you in awe of the discipline that it must have taken for that person to get to that place. For me, it is inspiring to see someone obtain excellence, even mastery in something. That makes me want to become excellent at the things I am working on. Though we may never obtain mastery, it is our pursuit of mastery that matters.

When you do experience negative emotions regarding other people’s accomplishments, deal with them in the moment. How? See how your emotions are directly related to some work within yourself that still needs to be addressed. When you encounter envy, take it to mean that there is something you are being asked to do that you are not yet doing. It is the Uni-verse’s way of nudging you to put you “on task” and it actually has nothing to do with the person or situation you are envious of. With patience and humility, you can acknowledge someone else’s successes while at the same time using the feeling of envy to fuel your own efforts.

Do not be misguided in this world. Learn how to listen to your own heart. Develop an inner compass through the ancient practices of yoga, meditation and prayer. Learn about yourself. This will require you to be quiet and to focus your attention within. You will need to spend some time alone. This does not mean time in front of the television, computer or even lost in a book. I am speaking about time spent in quiet reflection, prayer and meditation. Do you know how to do these things? If you do not, then take some time to learn. The story of my life can be summed up as follows: on those days when I meditated and practiced yoga, I felt connected to what really mattered. On those days when I did not meditate or practice, I felt less connected to what really mattered. I do not know how to put this any more plainly. Start your practice today and you will find that the pursuit of your dreams, in and of itself, will become a wonderful, magical journey that is worth living for.
I say these things to you as a recovered drug addict who had lost myself completely to hardcore drug addiction.

There was a time when I could not imagine a day without using drugs. I was not really living. Each day was another experience of just how powerless I was to do anything of value for myself much less others. I wanted to stop and a thousand times I made that commitment, but it only resulted in more sadness and frustration.

Yet, somehow, even in the midst of my worst drug abuse, I never gave up my hope of learning to live a better life. I had no idea how this was to happen, but I still wanted it deep within. What I was missing was the pathway, support and love I needed to get better from the profound, unseen things that plagued me. When I was blessed with the right teachers and the willingness to listen to them, the light flooded into my heart and I found recovery.

Don’t give up your dreams no matter what happens. Keep trying. Keep looking. Persevere. Bring whatever positivity you can to the struggle and it will build upon itself. As the famous poet, Rainer Maria Rilke wrote, “Live your questions now, and perhaps even without knowing it, you will live along some distant day into your answers.”

Source: Don’t Give Up Your Dreams!

 

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