“Happiness mainly comes from our own attitude, rather than from external factors.” ~Dalai Lama
Full story at: Why Relationships Fail: 4 Tips to Make Love Last | Tiny Buddha.
A Hug For Your Soul: The Only Gift You Need This Valentine’s Day
With today being the celebrated day of love, we wanted to give each and everyone one of you a reminder of how beautiful, smart, worthy and unbelievably special you are.
It will only take 3-minutes, and we promise your heart and soul with be tingling with the same kind of warm and endorphin-releasing feeling that is usually generated from a great, big, meaningful hug.
So without further ado, watch the above guided meditation video, A Love Letter to You From the Universe, and share it with your friends, family or partner – or anyone who you want to sprinkle with some extra love today!
via A Hug For Your Soul: The Only Gift You Need This Valentine’s Day | FinerMinds.
Life is difficult…
“Life is difficult. This is a great truth, one of the greatest truths. It is a great truth because once we truly see this truth, we transcend it. Once we truly know that life is difficult-once we truly understand and accept it-then life is no longer difficult. Because once it is accepted, the fact that life is difficult no longer matters.It is in the whole process of meeting and solving problems that life has meaning. Problems are the cutting edge that distinguishes between success and failure. Problems call forth our courage and our wisdom; indeed, they create our courage and our wisdom. It is only because of problems that we grow mentally and spiritually. It is through the pain of confronting and resolving problems that we learn.”
M. Scott Peck
How to Practice Radical Acceptance
Kristin Barton Cuthriell got me started with her post this morning and I can’t let this thought go. Here, an eHow contributor give instructions on how to practice radical acceptance:
Radical acceptance is the practice of accepting life on its own terms and finding effective strategies to cope with whatever is happening. It doesn’t mean being passive, but accepting “what is” with the understanding that you have the power of choice. Practicing radical acceptance is a choice that can ease stress and depression and enhance your overall quality of life.
Get the instructions here: How to Practice Radical Acceptance | eHow.com.
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9 Surefire Ways to Can Conflict Before Everything Hits the Fan
You know the drill: you and your mate have a disagreement, you get triggered, and before you know it you’re in a full-blown battle. Your heart’s pounding, words are flying, you’re trying to defend yourself and you feel totally misunderstood by the person you love.
Full story at: 9 Surefire Ways to Can Conflict Before Everything Hits the Fan – Lifehack.
Stop! 9 WARNING Signs That You May Be in a Dangerous Relationship
Ponder this:
Any relationship can be an unhealthy one. Bad relationships aren’t just limited to marriages or partnerships—they can occur while dating, in friendships, or families. Any relationship that is harmful or destructive to your physical, mental, or emotional well-being is an unhealthy one.
There are many reasons why people stay in an unhealthy relationship. Some don’t recognize or aren’t willing to accept that the relationship is unhealthy, or they are fearful or lack the inner strength to leave. Or, they believe that they can change their partner and things will improve. The sad truth is that unhealthy relationships rarely get better; instead, they get progressively worse, leaving scars that are difficult to recover from.
Full story at: Stop! 9 WARNING Signs That You May Be in a Dangerous Relationship – Lifehack.
5 Things to Stop Doing and Start Doing for Yourself
Angel Chernoff writes:
When you stop doing the wrong things and start doing the right things, almost anything you want and everything you need comes within reach.
Which means it’s time to…
Full story at: 5 Things to Stop Doing and Start Doing for Yourself.
3 Simple Exercises To Develop Your Intuition
Fact: You already know what you have to do.
Question: Do you have the courage to trust your inner guidance? Here are a few exercises and questions to help you tap into your inner wisdom and develop your intuition!
Rejecting Shame
Melody Beattie writes:
Shame can be a powerful force in our life. It is the trademark of dysfunctional families.
Authentic, legitimate guilt is the feeling or thought that what we did is not okay. It indicates that our behavior needs to be corrected or altered, or an amend needs to be made.
Shame is an overwhelming negative sense that who we are isn’t okay. Shame is a no-win situation. We can change our behaviors, but we can’t change who we are. Shame can propel us deeper into self-defeating and sometimes self-destructive behaviors.
What are the things that can cause us to feel shame? We may feel ashamed when we have a problem or someone we love has a problem. We may feel ashamed for making mistakes or for succeeding. We may feel ashamed about certain feelings or thoughts. We may feel ashamed when we have fun, feel good, or are vulnerable enough to show ourselves to others. Some of us feel ashamed just for being.
Shame is a spell others put on us to control us, to keep us playing our part in dysfunctional systems. It is a spell many of us have learned to put on ourselves.
Learning to reject shame can change the quality of our life. It’s okay to be who we are. We are good enough. Our feelings are okay. Our past is okay. It’s okay to have problems, make mistakes, and struggle to find our path. It’s okay to be human and cherish our humanness.
Accepting ourselves is the first step toward recovery. Letting go of shame about who we are is the next important step.
Today, I will watch for signs that I have fallen into shame’s trap. If I get hooked into shame, I will get myself out by accepting myself and affirming that it’s okay to be who I am.
Go to the original source: Blog | Just For Today Meditations
If this resonates with you, I’d like to recommend a book I’m currently reading by shame ‘expert’ Brené Brown called ‘The Gifts of Imperfection’ – Brown picks up where Melody Beattie left off in this meditation and offers great insight into shame and how to overcome it. Just in case you haven’t seen it [and because it’s so easy to do] here is Brené Brown’s viral talk on vulnerability and shame…
Grasping at Straws
@popsdigital writes:
Nature offers plenty to keep keen observers occupied and avid photographers snap happy. While tromping though the Kewaunee Marshlands Walk yesterday I noticed this interesting display of nature.
This is some delicate vine that coiled itself around nearby grasses and, though dormant, is still maintaining its grip well into the middle of winter.
via Grasping at Straws – Vine Photo – Pops DigitalPops Digital.
I love Bill’s eye and shared the image because somewhere in here is a metaphor about holding on to things long after the life has gone out of them but I haven’t had enough coffee yet so YOU find your own deep meaning in the image…
:-D
10 Mindful Minutes to Bliss
Did you know that our minds are lost in thought 47% of the time, and that the reason for this stems from unhappiness?
So this begs the question, how often do you allow yourself the needed opportunity to sit and do absolutely nothing, except embrace the moment rather than a destructive thought?
Mindfulness expert, Andy Puddicombe, explains in this excellent TED Talk that all it takes is 10 minutes a day to refresh your body and increase your overall happiness just by being mindful and experiencing the present moment through meditation.
We know that for a lot of you, we’re preaching to the converted, however for those who are new to meditation or perhaps have let their practice slip, watch this 10-minute talk to learn why meditation is the best medicine for the mind.
The Best Pep Talk You’ll Get All Day Video
Are you smiling right now? If not, this inspirational video from SoulPancake should fix that. Hope it makes your day like it did ours! One gem from the star, Kid President: “I took the road less traveled. And it hurt, man. Really bad [….] NOT COOL, Robert Frost.”
Envy Can Teach You Why You’re Dissatisfied with Yourself
“To cure jealousy is to see it for what it is: a dissatisfaction with self.” ~Joan Didion
Full story at: Envy Can Teach You Why You’re Dissatisfied with Yourself | Tiny Buddha.
Do You Make These Parenting Mistakes?
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Leave It. Change It. Accept It…
Claire Obeid writes:
I’ll never forget the first and only time I read Eckhart Tolle’s The Power of Now. Forever etched in my heart and mind is one key message…
“Leave it. Change it. Accept it.”
No other concept has run clearer bells for me since then. Despite the hours I spend devouring up as many spiritual, self-help and wellness books, I still find myself reciting those words like my own personal mantra – it’s how I live my life. It flutters in my mind during yoga, it catches my attention when I’m alone, it nestles into my heart when I need it the most. Not to mention that I enthusiastically pass this little gem on to my health-coaching clients in an effort to incite some calm into their world.
Every time you’re faced with a stressful situation, when you’re working at something without a return or when your ego and emotions get the better of you, just look to these three steps. See them as your spiritual compass to guide you into a calmer, clearer frame of mind.
via Leave It. Change It. Accept It: How Eckhart Tolle Changed My Life.
How We Appreciate Life More When We Stop Making Assumptions
“Joy is what happens to us when we allow ourselves to recognize how good things really are.” ~Marianne Williamson
Get the rest here: How We Appreciate Life More When We Stop Making Assumptions | Tiny Buddha.
7 Powerful Realizations That Will Help You Suffer Less
“More important than the quest for certainty is the quest for clarity.” ~Francois Gautier
Get the rest here: 7 Powerful Realizations That Will Help You Suffer Less | Tiny Buddha.
The Power of Going Slowly
Kute Blackson writes:
Life will soon be over.
Are you making the most of each moment?
Everything in our world today moves so fast.
High speed internet.
Fast food restuarants.
Planes that fly around the world in a matter of hours.
Speed dating.
Yet, are we anymore fulfilled and happy as human beings?
We busily rush around multitasking ten things at once, trying to get somewhere.
Where are we trying to get to so fast?
Get the rest here: The Power of Going Slowly « Positively Positive.
Get off the hook…
Melody Beattie writes:
We can learn not to get hooked into unhealthy, self-defeating behaviors in relationships – behaviors such as caretaking, controlling, discounting ourselves, and believing lies.
We can learn to watch for and identify hooks, and choose not to allow ourselves to be hooked. Continue reading “Get off the hook…”
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