“Pain is not a sign of weakness, but bearing it alone is a choice to grow weak.” ~from my book, Tiny Buddha via Tiny Wisdom: Being Both Strong and Hurt | Tiny Buddha.
Being Both Strong and Hurt
YOU Are Responsible for Your Happiness
Silvia Mordini wrote:
Only you are responsible for your Happiness ROI. And no matter what challenges you face, you can always choose to assume the best. As Paulo Coelho reminds us in The Alchemist, “The secret of life is to fall seven times and to get up eight times.” Just try it for a week: assume the best, and feel the abundance of joy that comes as a result of seeing more. Love yourself, love your day, love your life! “We will only understand the miracle of life fully when we allow the unexpected to happen. Every day, God gives us the sun — and also one moment in which we have the ability to change everything that makes us unhappy. Every day, we try to pretend that we havent perceived that moment, that it doesnt exist — that today is the same as yesterday and will be the same as tomorrow. But if people really pay attention to their everyday lives, they will discover that magic moment. It may arrive in the instant when we are doing something mundane, like putting our front-door key in the lock; it may lie hidden in the quiet that follows the lunch hour or in the thousand and one things that all seem the same to us. But that moment exists–a moment when all the power of the stars becomes a part of us and enables us to perform miracles.” – Paulo Coelho in By The River Piedra I Sat Down and Wept” via YOU Are Responsible for Your Happiness.
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Practice Makes Reality!
Terri Cole shares this:
Have you noticed this before, where you ultimately predict a good or bad outcome based on how you felt going into it? Try this exercise and see what happens. Circle back and let me know. Can you practice what ultimately becomes reality?” via Practice Makes Reality!.
10 Fun Facts You May Not Know About Broccoli
Get the scoop here: 10 Fun Facts You May Not Know About Broccoli.
Tell Yourself How Simple it is
Melody Beattie writes:
Here’s another example about the power of simplification.
For years, I heard about hiking. It sounded so elusive, difficult, and mysterious. I didn’t do it, but I thought about hiking wistfully. One day, a friend asked me to go hiking with him. “Sure,” I said. As the day of our hike approached, I began thinking things through. I was getting a little nervous. What if I couldn’t do it well enough? What if I didn’t know how to do it at all?
Don’t be ridiculous, I scolded myself. You’re making this much more complicated than it really is. Hiking is just walking, and you’ve been doing that since you were ten months old.
The next day, I arose at 6:00 A.M., and my friend and I left for our hike. I followed my friend as he began walking up the steep incline.
Just walk, I told myself after the first ten steps. Put one foot in front of another. Walk like you’ve done all your life.
I didn’t make it to the top of the mountain that day, but I made it almost halfway.
Is there something you’ve wanted to do but have put off because it sounds too difficult and complicated? Are you saying no to something in your life that you’d like to say yes to, but it seems elusive and out of your reach? Try reducing the task or activity to its simplest form.
I have a friend who hadn’t dated for years. One day, a girl he liked asked him to go to the movies. He was anxious and nervous.
“Going to a movie is just sitting down and staring at the screen, then getting up and going home when you’ve finished,” I said. “I think you can do that.”
“You’re right,” he said. He went and had a great time.
Sometimes, we can scare ourselves out of doing the easiest things in life. Yes, hiking involves more than walking. And going on a date with someone involves a little more than sitting and staring at a screen. But not that much more. Simplify things. Bring them down to their most manageable level. Instead of talking yourself out of living, learn to talk yourself into it.
God, give me the courage to fully live my life. Help me deliberately talk myself into doing things, instead of scaring myself away.” via September 6: Tell Yourself How Simple it is.
What Comes Easy
By the way, on one level, there’s nothing that separates this image from any of the hundreds of other happy thoughts I curate. On another, this one is very different; it was curated from my normal workflow executed from a tablet, not a computer. Thanks to Jeff Benjamin at the iDownloadBlog, I learned how to use the ‘Press This’ bookmarklet in the Chrome browser on my Galaxy Tab. I’m finding more and more reasons to use it these days and this is a big one! Comment or ‘connect’ so we can talk about how this applies to you and your blogging workflow…
I love the community aspect of WordPress.com; found another great blogger this morning…
I have been enjoying a day of silence and solitude today, which has not been as silent as I had hoped, but without the distractions of music, or movies, or too much talk, I have succeeded in being able to listen and hear what I have been needing to hear. I have needed clarity on the topics of love, attachment, detachment, and letting go. These thoughts began as a tangled ball of hurt feelings and slowly I have been untangling the ball. As the knots loosened, I saw that the feelings had to be sorted into different piles, and each pile needed to be named and understood before I could make any true progress towards my goal, which was letting go and forgiving and loving fully.
When we think of love, most of us would be quick to agree that in order to love someone there has to be an…
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What I Do Every Day Matters More Than What I Do Once in a While
The Happiness Project
via Secret of Adulthood: What I Do Every Day Matters More Than What I Do Once in a While..
Where do addictions come from? “Elf Esteem”!
Karen Salmansohn shares a cute, but powerful, perspective that I wanted to share with you this morning:
Self sabotaging behavior often is a sign of low self esteem.
Or I guess that would be “elf esteem,” because it’s low esteem.
Okay, about as low as this joke! Although addictions are no joke. I am however a big believer if we can laugh at ourselves, we can loosen our ego’s grasp on tightly held beliefs, and we’re more open to change.
I’d like to help you loosen your ego’s grasp on maintaining addictions, and change over to more healthful behavior.
How?
If you want to break an addiction, you must heighten your low “elf-esteem” to high self esteem.
Interestingly, in studies on happiness the happiest people are those with high self esteem.
And just as interestingly, the happiest people are reported to be those who do consistent acts of altruism.
There’s a do-good-feel-good-do-good-feel-good cause and effect.
My belief: the more good you do for others, the more you raise your self esteem, and the better you feel about yourself, and so the more you want to do good, and on and on the upward cycle goes.
Ironically, the more you do your addiction, the worst you feel about yourself, and the lower your elf esteem, then the more you seek your addiction, which further lowers your elf esteem, and downward do you go.
In other words, you create a do-bad-feel-bad-do-bad-feel-bad cause and effect.
YOUR ASSIGNMENT: If you have a bad habit you’re trying to break, start by doing more positive habits: donate time in an old age home or read to the blind. Of course “elf esteem” also comes from deeper subconscious forces that you need to delve into as well – and I suggest you do some delving. But it’s a good jump start to loving yourself more if you start to do more good in the world – so you can feel what a powerful spirit you can be – thereby you start to believe more in the awesome goodness inside you!
And keep in mind the words of Abraham Lincoln: “Most people are about as happy as they make up their minds to be.”
Aren’t you worthy of happiness?” via Where do addictions come from? “Elf Esteem”! Karen Salmansohn.
We take care of what we value. Value your self…
College students spending less time studying [but it costs more!]
Parents [and students] ponder this:
Over the past half-century, the amount of time college students actually study – read, write, and otherwise prepare for class – has dwindled from 24 hours a week to about 15, survey data show.
And that invites a question: Has college become too easy?
Ashley Dixon, a sophomore at George Mason University, anticipated more work in college than in high school. Instead, she has less. In a typical week, Dixon spends 18 hours in classes and another 12 in study. All told, college course work occupies 30 hours of her week. Dixon is a full-time student, but college, for her, is a part-time job.
“I was expecting it to be a lot harder,’’ said Dixon, 20. “I thought I was going to be miserable, trying to get good grades. And I do get good grades, and I’m not working very hard.’’
Declining study time is a discomfiting truth about the vaunted US higher-education system. The trend is generating debate over how much students really learn, even as colleges raise tuition every year.
Some critics say colleges and their students have grown lazy. Today’s collegiate culture, they say, rewards students with high grades for minimal effort and distracts them with athletics, clubs, and climbing walls on campuses that increasingly resemble resorts.
Academic leaders counter that students are as busy as ever but that their attention is consumed in part by jobs they take to help make ends meet.” Get more here: College students spending less time studying – Nation – The Boston Globe.
Now, consider this:
Bright, shiny objects! 
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