Christine Hassler writes:
I recently served as someone’s button pusher after I made a request of him that he found upsetting. Caught off guard, the coach/nurturer in me immediately wanted to make it better. However, I know that the best thing to do when I’ve pushed someone’s buttons (which consequently push my own buttons of fearing that I am not liked) is to take responsibility for myself and give the other person space.
Fortunately he is someone who is committed to growth and took the time he needed to process what happened. When he called me the next day to explain how my request made him feel, what it triggered, share what he learned and make a request of me, it was done from an incredibly authentic and neutral place. There was no blame. That made it possible for me to really hear and understand, communicate vulnerably my experience, and be totally open and willing to meet his request.
This beautiful communication was possible because we both chose to take personal responsibility rather than taking things personally.
My encouragement to you is to make the same choice whenever your buttons get pushed. Take responsibility for your upset. Know that the other person did not CAUSE you to feel the way you are feeling. We are all 100% responsible for how we feel.
Set aside time to process what you are feeling on your own, rather than lashing out, pulling away, stuffing it while pretending everything is okay or immediately attempting to talk it through with the other person when you are still feeling sad or angry (trust me, communication is WAY easier after you’ve worked your process).
Bright, shiny objects! 
What do you think?