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How to Embrace Shame and Not Allow it to Make You Feel Ashamed

The FinerMinds team writes:

How do you address your shame?

We all experience it in some way, shape or form, but the more we try to hide what we don’t like about ourselves, the more power we hand over to it.

In this thought-provoking 8-minute video, research professor and author Brené Brown delves into the human psyche and our responses to shame, vulnerability and empathy – particularly in a society that puts pressure on being “perfect”.

If you’re short on time, fast-forward along to the 2:10 mark, where she begins to really share why in order for us to remain connected and embrace our full spirit, we need to understand and accept our full continuum of emotions.

via How to Embrace Shame and Not Allow it to Make You Feel Ashamed.

Brené Brown and her work have had a profound impact on my life. If you were intrigued by the video above, may I suggest these resources from my Brené Brown page at Living Business…

Combating Shame

Melody Beattie writes:

“Shame can hold us back, hold us down, and keep us staring at our feet.” Beyond Codependency.

Watch out for shame.

Many systems and people reek of shame. They are con­trolled by shame and may want us to play their game with them. They may be hoping to hook us and control us through shame.

We don’t have to fall into their shame. Instead, well take the good feelings — self-acceptance, love, and nurturing.

Compulsive behaviors, sexually addictive behaviors, over­eating, chemical abuse, and addictive gambling are shame-

based behaviors. If we participate in them, we will feel ashamed. It’s inevitable. We need to watch out for addictive and other compulsive behaviors because those will immerse us in shame.

Our past, and the brainwashing we may have had that im­posed “original shame” upon us, may try to put shame on

us. This can happen when we’re all alone, walking through the grocery store or just quietly going about living our life. Don’t think . . Don’t feel…. Don’t grow or change… . Don’t be alive. . . . Don’t live life. . .. Be ashamed!

Be done with shame. Attack shame. Go to war with it. Learn to recognize it and avoid it like the plague.

Today, I will deliberately refuse to get caught up in the shame float­ing around in the world. If I cannot resist it, I will feel it, accept it, then be done with it as quickly as possible. God, help me know that it’s okay to love myself and help me to refuse to submit to shame. If I get off course, help me learn to change shame into guilt, correct the behavior, and move forward with my life in immediate self-love. via June 27: Combating Shame.

Attack shame!

Melody Beattie writes:

“Shame can hold us back, hold us down, and keep us staring at our feet.” Beyond Codependency

Watch out for shame.

Many systems and people reek of shame.  They are controlled by shame and may want us to play their game with them.  They may be hoping to hook us and control us through shame.

We dont have to fall into their shame.  Instead, we’ll take the good feelings self, acceptance, love, and nurturing.

Compulsive behaviors, sexually addictive behaviors, overeating, chemical abuse, and addictive gambling are shame-based behaviors.  If we participate in them, we will feel ashamed.  Its inevitable.  We need to watch out for addictive and other compulsive behaviors because those will immerse us in shame.

Our past, and the brainwashing we may have had that imposed original shame upon us, may try to put shame on us.  This can happen when were all alone, walking through the grocery store or just quietly going about living our life.  Dont think.  Dont feel.  Dont grow or change.  Dont be alive.  Dont live life.  Be ashamed!

Be done with shame.  Attack shame.  Go to war with it.  Learn to recognize it and avoid it like the plague.

Today, I will deliberately refuse to get caught up in the shame floating around in the world.  If I cannot resist it, I will feel it, accept it, then be done with it as quickly as possible.  God, help me know that its OK to love myself and help me refuse to submit to shame.  If I get off course, help me learn to change shame into guilt, correct the behavior, and move forward with my life in immediate self-love.” via Adult Children Anonymous.

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