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The best of http://toddlohenry.com for 11/11/2012

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    The Power of Perspective http://bit.ly/TDbuov

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    Sun, Nov 11 2012 15:11:17

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    Unexpected Smoothie Ingredients, Beating Yoga Burnout, and More http://bit.ly/UwLsaY

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    Sun, Nov 11 2012 15:10:11

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    Was out walking 2.24 miles with #Endomondo. See it here: http://bit.ly/SVwA2E

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    Sun, Nov 11 2012 14:22:46

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    The Ten Theme Songs Anyone Born In The 80s Must Know My Heart http://bit.ly/SbvBsa

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    Sun, Nov 11 2012 07:10:20

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    Rediscovering Your Passion http://bit.ly/Q5URF6

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    Sun, Nov 11 2012 07:00:41

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    Groups Obama Won, Groups Romney Won http://bit.ly/RuvR7e

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    Sun, Nov 11 2012 06:52:51

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    A Peek At My Plate (Morning, Noon and Night) http://bit.ly/SbsksL

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    Sun, Nov 11 2012 06:50:10

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    Food As Affirmations For The Soul! http://bit.ly/PNmGAG

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    Sun, Nov 11 2012 06:40:11

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    ‘Old’ is Contextual http://bit.ly/UvXcKN

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    Sun, Nov 11 2012 06:30:13

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    Rediscovering Your Passion http://bit.ly/Q5V1fz

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    Sun, Nov 11 2012 06:29:33

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    If You Are Not Willing To Risk http://bit.ly/RuqPYq

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    Sun, Nov 11 2012 06:20:05

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    The Ten Theme Songs Anyone Born In The 80s Must Know My Heart http://bit.ly/TCnOVK

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    Sun, Nov 11 2012 06:14:03

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    3 Essential Tips for the New Raw Foodie http://bit.ly/SUOG4Q

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    Sun, Nov 11 2012 06:10:21

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    To love oneself is the beginning of a lifelong romance. http://bit.ly/W1pKY7

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    Lest we forget… – Lead.Learn.Live. http://twy.la/UBBHm9

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    A Peek At My Plate (Morning, Noon and Night) http://bit.ly/RQwmZo

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    3 Essential Tips for the New Raw Foodie http://bit.ly/XuGtYK

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    Sat, Nov 10 2012 16:19:27

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Two Techniques To Hack And Control Your Emotional “Database”

The folks at Finerminds share this:

“There are two things that people want to be able to do to improve their emotional life. You want to be able to choose what you become emotional about and when you become emotional. That’s number one. And the second is, you want to be able to choose how you act when you are emotional.”

Here’s the truth: nature didn’t give us any tools to control our emotions. But psychologist Paul Ekman is telling us that there are, in fact, two researched techniques you can use to access your “your emotional alert database.” One of these can even let you hold back your inner “attack dogs” and delay rash actions to provocative situations.

They’re not exactly ninja techniques, but they will get you very close to monk-like control over your impulses. And let’s face it – if you do eventually gain control over what you react emotionally to, how you react and when not to react – you’re pretty much a ninja over the one area most humans have little control over: their emotions.

Watch this 9-minute video of Paul Ekman that we found on the Big Think channel on YouTube to find out what these two techniques are. And let Paul’s steady delivery convince you to take up the challenge.

Two Techniques To Hack And Control Your Emotional “Database” | FinerMinds.

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Hmmm…

Nicholas Bate

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“Our life is frittered away by detail. Simplify, simplify!”

Simple Reminders

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Expect Nothing; Get Everything

Life is rarely what we expect it to be. Sometimes, it’s better than we expect. Other times, it just is as it is.

Set your expectations to zero, show up at 110% every day, and your positive attitude will drive your 110% experience of life.

Moreover, you won’t be depleting precious mental energy by beating yourself and others up because you’re disappointed and angry at not having your expectations met.

Having low expectations does not mean that you don’t “go for it,” establish goals, or have visionary dreams. Setting your expectations to zero means that you are able to minimize your emotional setbacks that deplete and drain your vision of valuable energy. When you’re able to accept the outcome as it is, then you can rise from any fall, thus increasing your personal power of resiliency to move forward more quickly. When you give it your best shot and you miss, it’s not seen as a failure. Instead, it’s just another opportunity to step up to the plate and do it better next time.

When your child tries out for an activity and doesn’t make the “A” list, then you encourage him or her by saying: “It’s ok. Practice some more; enjoy what you are doing, and try, try, try again.” Life as an adult is no different. The game of life is like a sport; it takes practice. And the practice here is giving it your very best shot and accepting the end result without engaging in negative thoughts that lead you to feeling low. On playing fields, this is called good sportsmanship. In life, it’s called having a winning attitude.

Expect nothing and you’ll have everything. Strive every moment you’re alive to bring an attitude of excellence and integrity to your actions and words, and the end result will reflect the brilliance you bring.

You will find that if you can go with the flow then it’s far easier to be in the flow.

Get the rest here: Expect Nothing to Have Everything « Positively Positive

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No More Excuses!

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Sunday Secrets

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Need Better Results? Shift Your Thoughts!

Ponder this:

Are your thoughts fueling the results you want to bring into your life?

Your individual thoughts and beliefs are similar to chapters in a book. When you put them all together, you have the belief system that becomes your story.

You have beliefs about yourself at work, at home, in relationships, and in all others areas of your life. The more you repeat your story, the more you believe it. Therefore, one seemingly insignificant doubt or negative thought can have a major impact on your results—it shifts what you think is possible.

Here’s what the link between your thoughts and results looks like. Your results feed back into your thoughts, so everything is related.

Thoughts —> Beliefs —> Mindset —> Actions —> Results/Reality

Full story at: Need Better Results? Shift Your Thoughts! « Positively Positive

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10 Things to Stop Caring About Today

Royale Scuderi has a post that I thought was so good I curated the whole thing for you:

stop caring

Some things you can feel free to stop caring about

Other people’s expectations for your life

This is your life. You are the one who has to live it. You have to live with the consequences of the decisions you make and the actions you take, so you should make them according to what you want for and from your life, not what someone else thinks you “should” do with your life. We care way too much about what other people think about us and far too little about what we think about ourselves.

How much you weigh

It’s just a number people! We live in such a weight-obsessed culture that our weight is often a measure by which we are judged and worse by which we judge ourselves. I’m not saying to stop caring about being healthy, that’s a completely different thing, and one definitely worth worrying about. Just don’t fixate on the number on the scale. Care about healthier food choices, care about how strong you are, how much exercise you’re getting, just stop attaching your value, your success, your confidence, your attractiveness and your health to this one single number.

How other people live

Let other people live their own lives, just as you’d like to be able to live yours. Stop judging what other people do and how they live. That’s their business. If it doesn’t affect you, stop caring about it. Stop comparing what you have, how you look, the money, the status, the possessions, the beauty to what you “think” others have. Don’t measure yourself against other people, measure yourself against your own yardstick.

How many Facebook friends you have

Same goes for Twitter followers. The number of social connections you have is not a good indicator of either the strength of your network or your true popularity. True connections are measured by the quality of interactions and the people you who actually care about you and what you have to say. How people respond to you and share with you is a far better indicator or your social status.

Perfection

We suffer so much anguish caring about being perfect. Perfection is nearly unattainable and our striving for it, costs us so much. Perfect is a waste of time, perfect is unreasonable, perfect is a recipe for stress. Pretty darn good is a better goal. It’s usually more than good enough and far less stressful. (Note: If you’re a brain surgeon or a pilot, please try for close to perfect, but as long as you leave my gray matter in place and get me on the ground safely, I’m good.)

Aging

You can’t stop the clock. It’s a fact, no matter how much you worry about it or how much money you spend trying to hide it, time is going to keep right on ticking and taking you along with it. Stop caring about how old you are. It’s not a good measure of the quality of life anyway. Or maybe it is…Studies have shown that people are actually happier as they age. So stop caring about your biological age and wrinkles (whether you have them or worry about getting them,) and start caring about what how you want to live the years you have left.

Fitting in

We place too much value on conformity. If you like to listen to jazz and wear purple shoes, go for it. If you are the sculptor in a family of accountants, good for you. No make-up, big jewelry, cowboy boots, bow tie, thrift store clothes, dinner on cushions, no TV…it’s all fine. You’re not hurting anyone, and though they may judge you, that’s their problem, not yours.

Star Watching

Why are we so obsessed with celebrities? From reality shows to magazines, entertainment news shows to paparazzi photos, clothing lines to hairstyles, we are so infatuated with the lives of the rich and famous. Why? Are we so unhappy in our own lives that we have to get our excitement and pleasure by watching public figures live theirs? Stop wasting your time caring about what famous people do, good, bad, crazy, sad or fabulous. It has nothing to do with you. It’s only a distraction from your own life.

Being right

We all want to be right. It must be intrinsically bred into our DNA, but more times than not, it’s very destructive. When we’re striving to be right, we’re focused on proving other people wrong. We’re grasping for power by trying to prove our infallibility. Care about finding solutions, collaborating with others to find the best answers, and cultivating relationships. Care about the result, not who is right or wrong.

Anything you can’t control

Stop caring about things you can’t control. If there’s nothing you can do to impact the person or the situation, then don’t waste your energy. There are so many important things in your life, in this world that you can affect. Focus on what you can change, where you can have the most impact, make a difference, and let the rest go.

Source: 10 Things to Stop Caring About Today

Thanks for your excellent thoughts, Royale – hope you don’t mind that I promoted your content here…

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How to Become an Overnight Success (Really!)

Full story at: How to Become an Overnight Success (Really!) – by Dumb Little Man.

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Things Have a Way of Working Out

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Accepting love…

Melody Beattie write:

Many of us have worked too hard to make relationships work; sometimes those relationships didn’t have a chance because the other person was unavailable or refused to participate.

To compensate for the other person’s unavailability, we worked too hard. We may have done all or most of the work. This may mask the situation for a while, but we usually get tired. Then, when we stop doing all the work, we notice there is no relationship, or we’re so tired we don’t care.

Doing all the work in a relationship is not loving, giving, or caring. It is self-defeating and relationship defeating. It creates the illusion of a relationship when in fact there may be no relationship. It enables the other person to be irresponsible for his or her share. Because that does not meet our needs, we ultimately feel victimized.

In our best relationships, we all have temporary periods where one person participates more than the other. This is normal. But as a permanent way of participating in relationships, it leaves us feeling tired, worn out, needy, and angry.’

We can learn to participate a reasonable amount, and then let the relationship find it’s own life. Are we doing all the calling? Are we doing all the initiating? Are we doing all the giving? Are we the one talking about feelings and striving for intimacy?

Are we doing all the waiting, the hoping, and the work?

We can let go. If the relationship is meant to be, it will be, and it will become what it is meant to be. We do not help that process by trying to control it. We do not help the other person, the relationship, or ourselves by trying to force it or by doing all the work.

Let it be. Wait and see. Stop worrying about making it happen. See what happens and strive to understand if that is what you want.

Today, I will stop doing all the work in my relationships. I will give myself and the other person the gift of requiring both people to participate. I will accept the natural level my relationships reach when I do my share and allow the other person to choose what his or her share will be. I can trust my relationships to reach their own level. I do not have to do all the work; I need only do my share.” Source: Just For Today Meditations – Maintaining A Life

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How Is Facebook Affecting Your Relationships?

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Hot Guber Fish Filth

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Healthy Dependency?

I didn’t know what it looked like either until I read this book. I knew what it looked like to be unheathily attached — it looked like codependency. I knew what it looked like to be unheathily detached — it looked like ‘eff you — I’m taking my marbles and leaving’. If you struggle with either being overly detached or attached, this book will help evision what healthy dependency looks like…

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Redefine Your Life!

The Daily Love

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Are You On The Authentic Path To Finding Bliss?

So… you landed here, and sometimes wonder – “How the hell did I get here?”

Full story at: Are You On The Authentic Path To Finding Bliss? | FinerMinds.

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I still haven’t found what I’m looking for…

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