“Christmas is not a time nor a season, but a state of mind. To cherish peace and goodwill, to be plenteous in mercy, is to have the real spirit of Christmas.” Calvin Coolidge, 30th President of the United States and apparent Christmas scholar via Quote: Calvin Coolidge Nailed the Real Spirit of Christmas | Greatist.
The Best Present Is Presence
I HATE CHRISTMAS. Or perhaps it would be better to say I hate what Christmas has become. The consumerism, the expectations, the obligations; none of which have anything to do with ‘reason for the season’ — celebrating relationship with a higher power…
Perhaps that is why I like this perspective from The Minimalists so much:
What if you could receive only one Christmas present this year? What would it be?
The answer for us is simple: time.
You see, the people we care about mean much more to us than a new pair of shoes or a shiny new gadget or even a certified pre-owned luxury car with a huge bow on top.
And yet, many of us attempt to give material items to make up for the time we don’t spend with the people we love. But possessions can’t ever make up for lost time.
The next time someone asks you what you want for Christmas, consider responding with, “Your presence is the best gift you can give me.”
When you’re completely focused in the moment—no TV, no Internet, no distractions—it makes a marked difference in the lives of the people around you. When you’re fully present, your love radiates.
And if you’re going to give gifts this holiday season, why not give your unencumbered time and attention first? Your loved ones will be glad you did.” via The Best Present Is Presence | The Minimalists.
Gift Experiences, Not Stuff

Here’s an idea. What if you decided to gift only experiences this year? How much more memorable would your holidays be?
Experiences worth gifting: concert tickets, a home-cooked meal, tickets to a play or musical, breakfast in bed, a back rub, a foot rub, a full-body massage, a holiday parade, walking or driving somewhere without a plan, spending an evening talking with no distractions, making out under the mistletoe, visiting a festival of lights, cutting down a Christmas tree, watching a sunrise, skiing, snowboarding, sledding, dancing, taking your children to a petting zoo, making snow angels, attending a free meetup with The Minimalists, making a batch of hot apple cider, taking a vacation together, watching a wintertime sunset.
What other experiences could you give to someone you care about?
Your experiences build and strengthen the bond between you and the people you care about.
Don’t you think you’d find more value in these experiences than in material gifts? Don’t you think your loved ones will find more value, too? There’s only one way to find out.
The best of @toddlohenry for 11/24/2012
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23 Health and Fitness Resources You May Have Missed http://bit.ly/QBInoP
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Challenge: Buy Nothing Until 2013
Leo Babauta has an interesting answer to this season of rampant consumerism. Don’t buy anything except essentials until next year:
Today is one of the worst days of the year: overconsumption day (or Black Friday as some call it). Or you could call it one of the best days of the year: Buy Nothing Day.
I prefer the latter — it means we waste less, consumer fewer resources, stop looking to shopping to solve our problems and make us happy, and instead find simpler ways of finding contentment.
And so today I extend a challenge to all of you, and the world: Buy Nothing Until 2013.
Yes, I’m taking Buy Nothing Day and extending it through the end of the year.
Why the hell would you want to do this challenge?
Do it as a protest against consumerism and corporate influences on our lives. Do it as a tool for contentment, for simplicity. Do it to reclaim the holidays as a time of connection and love, not of buying and debt. Do it just to see if you can.
And yes, you can still do it if you’ve already done some Black Friday shopping. We’ll forgive our past sins and start afresh. :)
Get the rest of the plan here: » Challenge: Buy Nothing Until 2013 :zenhabits
Me, I think I could easily do this — it’s the other people in my family I’m not so sure about! What about you? And how do you plan to proceed this holiday season?
8 Tips for Dealing with Difficult Relatives During the Holiday Season
Gretchen Rubin has some valuable insight for those who struggle with the holidays for one reason or another:
Holidays can be tough. Some people love them; some people dread them.
I thought a lot about the holidays as I was writing Happier at Home, because the holiday season tends to be a time when we focus on home. Maybe you’re going “home” the way I go home to Kansas City for Christmas–which may be fun for you, or not. Maybe you’re deciding how to decorate your home. Maybe you’re making an effort to arrange the holidays the way you experienced them as a child–or the opposite. Maybe you’re feeling sad, or happy, about whom you will or won’t be seeing.
From talking to people, it seems that one of the biggest happiness challenges of the holidays is dealing with difficult relatives. You want to have a nice dinner, but Uncle Bobby makes you crazy. What to do?” Get the answer here: 8 Tips for Dealing with Difficult Relatives During the Holiday Season. « The Happiness Project.
Africa for Norway: Paying back the favor!
Chances are, if you’ve been tuned in to the stations already playing Christmas music, you’ve heard at least one song about the plight of people in Africa, but SAIH, and organization of students and academics from the country wanted to make a point with this surprising satire on a sensitive subject:
“Imagine if every person in Africa saw the ‘Africa for Norway’ video and this was the only information they ever got about Norway. What would they think about Norway?,” said a statement from the group. “If we say Africa, what do you think about? Hunger, poverty, crime or AIDS? No wonder, because in fundraising campaigns and media that’s mainly what you hear about.”
It is an intriguing approach, that’s for sure, so sit back and watch as the tragedy befalling Norway unfolds:
via Africa to Norway: Paying back the favor in satire – Holy Kaw!.
Block Friday
The guys over at the Minimalists have this thought to share:
This Friday is the busiest shopping day of the year: Black Friday. Retailers prepare months in advance for this dark day—preparation that’s meant to stimulate your insatiable desire to consume: Doorbuster sales. New products. Gigantic newspaper ads. TV, radio, print, billboards. Sale, sale, sale! Early bird specials. One day only! Get the best deal. Act now! While supplies last.
The Minimalists would, however, like to shed some light on this darkest of Fridays. It’s important to understand that consumption is an unquenchable thirst. Retailers and advertisers and manufacturers know this too well. And thus, they’ve invented an entire day designed to take advantage of your insatiable desire to consume.
The pernicious aspects of Black Friday are not few. The pandemonium of this day is a synecdoche for our consumer culture as a whole. On this day, people consume gluttonously without regard for the harm they’re inflicting on themselves. On this day, greed becomes ravenous. On this day, people live without real meaning, buying gifts to fill a void that can’t possibly be filled with material possessions.
Sadly, people participate in the rapacious nature of Black Friday in the name of a holiday, as if buying gifts was an ideal way to celebrate Christmas. But thankfully, you have options.
Instead of embracing Black Friday, you can Block Friday. You can refuse to buy material items for people to display your love. Rather, you can showcase your love, caring, and affection through daily actions—every day, not just holidays.
If you want to give gifts, why not gift an experience—a nice meal, tickets to a concert, or a sunset on the beach? After all, the best, most loving gift you can give someone is your time and undivided attention.
Will you join us? Will you opt out of Black Friday? If not, why not?
Source: Dark Friday | The Minimalists
I will opt out! I hate what Christmas has become and the stress that it causes by all the false expectations it creates. Give me Thanksgiving with family, food and gratitude and I’ll see you next year…
:-/
The science of overeating
Just in time for the holidays!
Maple-Roasted Turkey with Sage, Smoked Bacon, and Cornbread Stuffing Recipe
I’m already dreaming of Thanksgiving! Here’s a recipe for Thanksgiving Turkey that is soooo easy a guy can do it. I know because I used it for Christmas dinner last year and I totally rocked it…
Ingredients
- 1 cup (2 sticks) unsalted butter, at room temperature
- 1/2 bunch fresh sage, leaves finely chopped
- Kosher salt and freshly ground black pepper
- 2 large onions, finely chopped
- 1 loaf cornbread, cubed (about 6 cups)
- 1 large egg, lightly beaten
- 1/2 cup heavy cream
- 3 cups chicken stock
- 1 (12 to 14 pound) fresh turkey
- 1 cup pure maple syrup
- 1/4 cup hot water
- 8 strips smoked bacon
- 1/4 cup all-purpose flour
- 1/2 lemon, juiced
Directions
Preheat the oven to 350 degrees F and remove the top rack.
Combine the butter and sage in a mixing bowl, mash with a fork or spoon until the sage is well incorporated and the butter has flecks of green in it; season with salt and pepper.
In a saute pan, melt 4 tablespoons of the sage butter, add the onions, cook and stir for 15 minutes until soft and golden. Remove from heat. Put the cornbread in a large mixing bowl and scrape the sauteed onion mixture on top. Add the egg, heavy cream, and just enough chicken stock to moisten the stuffing without making it soggy (about 1/2 cup.) Toss well to combine, season with salt and pepper.
Remove the neck and gizzards from the inside of the turkey and discard. Rinse the bird thoroughly inside and out with cold water, pat dry. Sprinkle the cavity and skin liberally with salt and pepper. Using your fingers, gently lift the skin from the breast and legs, and slip pieces of the sage butter underneath; massaging it in as you go. Fill the bird with the cornbread stuffing without packing too tightly; cook the remaining stuffing separately in a buttered baking dish. Truss the turkey; place it on a rack in a large roasting pan, and put into the oven.
Meanwhile, in a small mixing bowl, whisk together the maple syrup and hot water to thin the glaze out a bit; use this to baste the turkey every 30 minutes. The turkey should take about 3 hours to cook (i.e. 15 to 20 minutes per pound.) If the legs or breast brown too quickly, cover with foil.
About 2 hours into cooking, shingle the strips of bacon oven the turkey breast to cover; continue to roast and baste for another hour or so. The turkey is done when an instant-read thermometer inserted into the meatiest part of the thigh registers 170 degrees F (the thigh juices will also run clear when pricked with a knife.) Transfer the turkey to a cutting board and let rest for 20 minutes before carving, so the juices can settle back into the meat.
Skim off the excess fat from the pan drippings with a spoon and place the roasting pan over 2 burners set on medium-high heat. Using a wooden spoon, scrape up brown bits stuck to bottom of pan. Whisk the flour into the drippings, stirring as it thickens to prevent lumps. Add the remaining chicken stock and bring to a simmer; season with salt and pepper and hit it with a squeeze of lemon juice to brighten the flavor. Simmer for 5 minutes and then strain to remove any particles. Serve the gravy with the maple-roasted turkey and cornbread stuffing.
5 Tips To Being a Grandparent
With the holidays approaching, the AFP Grandparents are back with some important advice for grandparents everywhere.” via 5 Tips To Being a Grandparent.
Don’t believe what you hear about black cats
The most beautiful animal I ever owned [actually, she owned me!] was a black cat named Boo; far from bringing bad luck, they bring love and affection for those that love them. Now that I know the shelter has a hard time finding homes for them, after Halloween I’m going to adopt some more!
Full story at: Don’t believe what you hear about black cats.
Fun on the 4th of July
Holy Kaw! via Fun on the 4th of July [infographic]. If you can believe it, we live in a county where there is not a single parade or fireworks display on the 4th of July…
July 4th is an exception to the rule: when we sing the national anthem
July 4th is an exception to the rule: when we sing the national anthem, we almost always do it before a sporting event. This is somewhat fitting because successfully performing the anthem is practically an athletic feat.
A look at some of the most famous performances of the National Anthem: http://nyr.kr/MR9urK via July 4th is an exception to the rule: when we sing the national….










































































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