If you can prevent your emotions from taking over in the face of stress, you can avoid a lot of regret and set a good example for others. Source: Never Freak Out
How can this be happening in this day and age when people can livestream the atrocities as they are found and here we sit, doing nothing.
Last night I stumbled across ‘Servant of the People‘ on Netflix. Volodymyr Zelensky’s story could not be more bizarre if it had been scripted by Hollywood (unfamiliar? I refer you to the Wikipedia article). You’ll get a feel for ‘Servant of the People’ from this trailer…
I don’t know what images Ukraine brings to mind, but if you’re like most Americans you didn’t know much about it until the Russian invasion started. As you can see from the trailer above, this is a beautiful, peaceful country that is now being raped by a madman.
Zelensky may have been a comic before he ascended to office, but there’s nothing comical about the situation now. Click the image below to see the damage and learn more about the invasion and war crimes.
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We ask ourselves hypotheticals all the time like if I were a German during WWII, would I have stood up for the Jews. The question today is not hypothetical: will you stand up for Ukrainians? Here is a link to information about the ways you can support Ukraine now.
It’s easy in our society to get caught up in the thick of thin things like ‘the slap’. This morning Margaret Brennan interviewed Vlodomir Zelensky on Face the Nation and I felt like I had a slap in the face.
Of all the opinions I’ve heard in the past week, I find this one the most useful in understanding why I was so disturbed by what I saw.
Blow said “I saw an expression of toxic masculinity how men too often… profess to protect the vulnerable with violence when in fact they’re animated by their own fragility”. To this I simply say ‘yes’.
Leo Babauta says “something I’ve noticed is that we spend a lot of our lives wrapping our identity in our bodies. If our body is something we’re proud of, we feel really good about ourselves … but much more often, it’s a sense that something is wrong with us because our bodies don’t hit some ideal.” Go to the Source: The Body as a Vessel for Living – zen habits
Brené Brown is a research professor at the University of Houston. Brown has spent the past two decades studying courage, vulnerability, shame, and empathy. She’s the author of #1 New York Times bestsellers: The Gifts of Imperfection, Daring Greatly, Braving the Wilderness.
After a failure, a focus on external causes may protect self-efficacy.
“Despite our best attempts to prevent self-regulation failure and stay motivated and focused (e.g., through goal setting or progress monitoring), setbacks can still occur.
While it is healthy and adaptive to take responsibility for a failure and aim to improve performance, blaming oneself—especially internal causes beyond one’s control (e.g., thinking that “I’m weak” or “I have no willpower”)—is dysfunctional and has a negative effect on motivation and self-confidence.
Blaming oneself is also often inaccurate because, in many situations, we underestimate—or are not even aware of—external factors that contributed to the failure. For example, you may not be aware of the effects of a medication, TV commercials, or friends’ eating behavior on your experience of hunger and ability to stick to a diet.”
Intentional: How To Live, Love, Work and Play Meaningfully by David Amerland David Amerland has always been an influential thinker for me — for example, his book on SEO was my college degree in that space! Intentional belongs on my top shelf along with 7 Habits, Getting Things Done, Fierce Conversations, and Radical Candor. If you like this kind of thinking, you will love this book: “Life is complex. We are complicated. There will be times when this value statement will be reversed. What will never change however is the sense of satisfaction that comes from being the sole architect of how you choose to live.” Amerland, David. Intentional (p. 38). David Amerland. Kindle Edition. View all my reviews
“Those friends thou hast, and their adoption tried, grapple them to thy soul with hoops of steel; But do not dull thy palm with entertainment of each new-hatch’d, unfledg’d comrade.”
You define your goals. They don’t define you. But the goals you set always define who you will become. This is true whether you succeed in them or not, reach them or not.
Amerland, David. Intentional (p. 62). David Amerland. Kindle Edition.
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