“A lot of times couples think they’re fighting about someone coming home late or chores. But what they’re really fighting about is, do you see me? Do you value me? Do you need me? Can I count on you and until that gets addressed and articulated they’re unlikely to be able to resolve conflict.” 

Ashley Harvey

In a talk that will leave you feeling both stirred up and optimistic, university professor and relationship educator Ashley Harvey shares five principles from attachment theory that you can use to understand and change your attachment style so that you can decrease conflict and increase connection in your romantic relationships. In a talk that will leave you feeling both stirred up and optimistic, university professor and relationship educator Ashley Harvey shares five principles from attachment theory that you can use to understand and change your attachment style so that you can decrease conflict and increase connection in your romantic relationships. This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at https://www.ted.com/tedx

Understanding Attachment Theory: A Fundamental Framework for Human Relationships

Attachment theory, pioneered by British psychologist John Bowlby, has significantly shaped our comprehension of human bonds and relationships. This influential framework offers profound insights into the development of emotional connections, spanning across various stages of life. Let’s delve into the core concepts of attachment theory and its implications for understanding human behavior and interaction.

The Foundation of Attachment Theory

At the heart of attachment theory lies the idea that the quality of early relationships, particularly with primary caregivers, profoundly impacts an individual’s emotional and social development. Bowlby proposed that the nature of these initial attachments sets the stage for one’s perception of self, others, and relationships.