Why Chicago Became So Huge

Its position is unique in all the US, and the founders of the city knew it. Source: Why Chicago Became So Huge

How To Make Peace with Regrets: 4 Steps That Help Me Let Go via @TinyBuddha

It’s possible that our regrets don’t take into account enough information to help us feel at peace with painful situations from our past. Source: How To Make Peace with Regrets: 4 Steps That Help Me Let Go – Tiny Buddha

I have an anxious attachment style

I’m writing this post to share something personal with you. I have an anxious attachment style. This means that I tend to worry a lot about my relationships, especially romantic ones. I crave closeness and intimacy, but I also fear rejection and abandonment. I often feel insecure and needy, and I may act clingy or jealous. Sometimes I overthink everything and imagine worst-case scenarios. Other times I avoid expressing my true feelings or needs, hoping that my partner will just know what I want.

I know that having an anxious attachment style can make it hard to have healthy and satisfying relationships. It can also affect my self-esteem and mental health. That’s why I decided to seek professional help and learn more about myself and my attachment patterns. I want to share with you some of the things that I learned and how they helped me cope better with my anxiety.

One of the first things that I learned is that attachment styles are not fixed or permanent. They are shaped by our early experiences with our caregivers, but they can also change over time and in different contexts. For example, I may feel more anxious with a partner who is distant or inconsistent, but less anxious with a partner who is responsive and supportive. This means that I have some control over how I feel and behave in my relationships. I can also choose partners who are more compatible with my attachment needs and communicate with them openly and honestly.

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What can attachment theory teach you about yourself and your relationships?

Confession. I struggle with attachment styles and I’m looking to change mine. It starts with an assessment you can find in the article I reference here: “How do you feel when your partner doesn’t respond to your text right away? Is it easy for you to express your feelings to friends or loved ones, or do you struggle? Do you stay in touch with exes? Worry your current partner will leave you?

How you answered those questions can offer some insight into your attachment style. According to the field of attachment theory, each person has a unique attachment style that informs how you relate to intimacy: secure, anxious, avoidant and a small subset who are anxious-avoidant.” Source: What can attachment theory teach you about yourself and your relationships? : Life Kit : NPR

Here’s how I scored:

LOL. How can someone be secure and anxious at the same time? That’s what I need to understand! No doubt it has to do with my origin story but I can’t that narrative rule me for the rest of my life…

Confronting Your Truth: The Life-Changing Benefits of Asking “Why?”

No matter what problems you’re facing, asking “why?” will help you break through the barriers that keep you stuck. Source: Confronting Your Truth: The Life-Changing Benefits of Asking “Why?” – Tiny Buddha

Why Life Can Feel Harder During Your 30s and 40s

As the stakes get higher, discovering the limits in their skills. Source: Why Life Can Feel Harder During Your 30s and 40s

Thinking Out Loud

When your legs don’t work like they used to before
And I can’t sweep you off of your feet
Will your mouth still remember the taste of my love
Will your eyes still smile from your cheeks
And darling I will be loving you ’til we’re 70
And baby my heart could still fall as hard at 23
And I’m thinking ’bout how people fall in love in mysterious ways
Maybe just the touch of a hand
Oh me I fall in love with you every single day
And I just wanna tell you I am…

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Why Indifference is Power; Priceless Benefits of Being Indifferent

How Stoics Find Balance In Their Life

The path of the inner truth

“God calls all of you to take the path of the inner truth–and that means taking responsibility for everything that’s in you: for what pleases you and for what you’re ashamed of, for the rich person inside you and for the poor one. Francis of Assisi called this, “loving the leper within us.” If you learn to love the poor one within you, you’ll discover that you have room to have compassion “outside” too, that there’s room in you for others, for those who are different from you, for the least among your brothers and sisters.” Richard Rohr

Finding Home After Divorce: What Brought Me Peace and Healing via @TinyBuddha

After divorce, home doesn’t feel like home anymore in the way one knew it. It’s hard on both parents and kids. Go to the source: Finding Home After Divorce: What Brought Me Peace and Healing – Tiny Buddha

Ancient Wisdom Meets Modern Therapy

Six ways to harness the power of stoicism and cognitive behavioral therapy. Source: Ancient Wisdom Meets Modern Therapy

What is the connection between Hermann Hesse and Hegel’s Dialectic?

There is a connection between Hermann Hesse’s work and Hegel’s dialectic in the sense that Hesse was influenced by Hegelian philosophy and dialectical thinking, and this influence can be seen in Hesse’s novels, particularly in his exploration of themes such as self-discovery and personal transformation.

Hegelian dialectic is a philosophical concept that involves the resolution of opposing ideas or contradictions through a process of thesis, antithesis, and synthesis. This process of dialectical thinking involves the transformation of ideas and the search for a higher truth or resolution.

In Hesse’s novels, such as “Demian” and “Steppenwolf,” we see a similar exploration of opposing ideas and the search for a higher truth. Hesse’s characters often undergo a process of transformation, struggling with their own contradictions and ultimately finding a synthesis or resolution through their experiences.

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What was the connection between Carl Jung and Hermann Hesse?

Carl Jung and Hermann Hesse had a significant connection as both were influential figures in the field of psychology and philosophy during the 20th century.

Hermann Hesse was a renowned German-Swiss writer who explored spiritual and existential themes in his works, while Carl Jung was a Swiss psychiatrist and founder of analytical psychology, which emphasizes the importance of the individual psyche and the exploration of the unconscious.

Jung’s work greatly influenced Hesse’s writing, particularly his interest in exploring the inner workings of the human mind and the concept of individuation. Hesse’s novels, such as “Demian” and “Steppenwolf,” reflect Jungian themes and ideas, including the integration of the shadow self and the importance of finding meaning and purpose in life.

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The Guide to Being a Good Human Being

Ten steps to being likable and loved. Source: The Guide to Being a Good Human Being

What are the differences between Greek Orthodoxy and Catholicism?

Greek Orthodoxy and Catholicism are two of the largest branches of Christianity, and while they share many similarities, there are some key differences between them:

  1. Theology and Doctrine: Greek Orthodoxy and Catholicism have different approaches to theology and doctrine. Greek Orthodoxy is more focused on tradition and the teachings of the early Church fathers, while Catholicism places a greater emphasis on the authority of the Church and the teachings of the Pope.
  2. Leadership Structure: In Greek Orthodoxy, the bishops are considered equal and autonomous, with no one bishop having authority over the others. In contrast, in Catholicism, the Pope is considered the supreme authority, and bishops are appointed by him.
  3. Liturgy and Worship: Greek Orthodoxy and Catholicism have different liturgical practices and worship styles. Greek Orthodoxy tends to have a more formal and traditional worship style, with a heavy emphasis on icons and symbolism. Catholicism has a more diverse range of liturgical practices, with different forms of worship for different occasions.
  4. Sacraments: Greek Orthodoxy and Catholicism both recognize seven sacraments, but there are some differences in how they are administered and understood. For example, in Greek Orthodoxy, the sacrament of Confirmation is given immediately after baptism, while in Catholicism it is usually administered later in life.
  5. Spirituality: While both Greek Orthodoxy and Catholicism share a focus on prayer and spiritual growth, there are differences in their spiritual practices. Greek Orthodoxy places a strong emphasis on asceticism and mysticism, while Catholicism has a more varied approach to spirituality, with different religious orders emphasizing different practices.

It’s worth noting that these are general differences, and there is a great deal of diversity within both Greek Orthodoxy and Catholicism. Additionally, there are many similarities between the two branches of Christianity, including a shared belief in the Holy Trinity, the authority of the Bible, and the importance of Christ’s death and resurrection.

If you’d like to know more about what version of the Bible is used in Greek Orthodox churches, click here.

Can AI answer life’s biggest questions?

AI can provide insights and perspectives on various topics, but it is unlikely to provide a definitive answer to life’s biggest questions, such as the meaning of life, the nature of consciousness, or the existence of a higher power.

These questions are philosophical and often require a subjective interpretation of human experience and values, which are difficult for AI to comprehend. While AI can process and analyze vast amounts of data, it cannot replace human intuition, creativity, and empathy in understanding complex philosophical concepts.

That being said, AI can help us explore different perspectives and test hypotheses related to these questions, potentially leading to new insights and discoveries. But ultimately, the search for answers to life’s biggest questions will continue to require human inquiry, contemplation, and reflection.

Iain Thomas and Jasmine Wang offer a different perspective. By the way, the first three paragraphs were written by AI in response to the title question…

For an opposing perspective, consider this…

Gov. Gretchen Whitmer: “That woman from Michigan”

I wasn’t born in Michigan but I got here as fast as I could. I love my Governor and I’m proud to support her and the work that she’s done. I hope that she’ll be the first woman president — if anyone can do it, ‘Big Gretch’ can!

U2: ’Songs of Surrender’ & Reflecting on their Musical Legacy

Every U2 post is a love note to my sister Lisa who loved U2 long before I did and took me to see them again for my 60th birthday. I curate them here because she doesn’t have the time to find good U2 content like I do…

Crossroads [Cover by @MarySpender Trio]

Brilliant, Mary Spender — just brilliant!

Lake Michigan Sunset

In the 6 months I’ve been living here, I don’t know if I’ve seen a colder and/or more beautiful sunset.

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