I told my ex ‘if only you’d lower your expectations, I could be the man of your dreams’. That’s why she’s my ex — I know better now! Here’s a psychologist’s guide to ‘when having high expectations can help, and when they can hurt’: Are Your Relationship Expectations Too High?
Perfectly clear, compassionate, and concise, the “Five Remembrances” are Buddhism at its very best. Koun Franz explains: Buddhism’s “Five Remembrances” Are Wake-Up Calls for Us All
This is a guide to the top Brené Brown quotes. Learn how to empower yourself and find inner authenticity with the help of this post filled with motivating thoughts: 67 Brené Brown Quotes to Empower You to Live Your Best Life
“Today, I offer a journal entry from Etty Hillesum (1914–1943), a young Jewish woman who was killed at Auschwitz. In her diary, she recreates a conversation with her friend, writer Klaas Smelik, about the hatred and bullying she saw within her own community: Klaas, all I really wanted to say is this: we have so much work to do on ourselves that we shouldn’t even be thinking of hating our so-called enemies. We are hurtful enough to one another as it is. And I don’t really know what I mean when I say that there are bullies and bad characters among our own people, for no one is really “bad” deep down. I should have liked to reach out to that [bully] with all his fears, I should have liked to trace the source of his panic, to drive him ever deeper into himself, that is the only thing we can do, Klaas, in times like these.” Source: https://email.cac.org/t/ViewEmail/d/62082DE5E9C4AC972540EF23F30FEDED/95BE6BBD9631A2EE6D5E5F9A8728A5A6
“An entire generation between the ages of 5 and 18 has been effectively removed from society at large,” wrote Maryland pediatrician Lavanya Sithanandam in The Washington Post. “They do not have the same ability to vote or speak out.” Source: The Lost Year: What the Pandemic Cost Teenagers — ProPublica
Why it is much better than happiness: What Is Eudaimonia?
The biggest decision-making bias for all of us is the confirmation bias. Wikipedia explains it well: Confirmation bias is the tendency to search for, interpret, favor, and recall information in a way that confirms or supports one’s prior beliefs or values. It is an important type of cognitive bias that has a significant effect on the proper functioning of society by distorting evidence-based decision-making: Four Ways to Overcome Confirmation Bias
Richard Rohr writes:
“One of the phrases that has stayed with me from studying Latin in the seminary is “Quidquid recipitur ad modum recipientis recipitur.” This statement is not only kind of fun to say, but it has been critical to my understanding of how we process information. Directly translated, it means “Whatever is received is received according to the manner of the receiver.” Thirteenth-century scholastics such as John Duns Scotus (1266–1308) and Thomas Aquinas (1225–1274) intuited this. It was early psychology before we thought we had psychology! What it means, in other words, is that we don’t see things as they are; we see things as we are. We see the things we want to see, the things that confirm our assumptions and our preferred way of looking at the world.  Brian elaborates today on how confirmation bias, which he believes is the most powerful, operates:
We all have filters, [such as] What do I already believe? Does this new idea or piece of information confirm what I already think? Does it fit in the frame I’ve already constructed?
If so, I can accept it.”
Learn more here: Richard Rohr Meditation: Confirmation Bias
And I say to myself what a wonderful world
Have you ever had the unexpected urge to jump from a bridge or other high place? If so, you are far from alone: Psychology Today
When we’re stressed, the first thing we need to do is relieve the pressure where it’s generally the most intense: within our own minds: How to Let Go of the Stress and Pressure That Weigh You Down – Tiny Buddha
Accent expert Erik Singer is a whiz at imitating accents from Bostonian to Appalachian.
Amanda Gorman, 22, performed her work “The Hill We Climb” at the presidential inauguration on Wednesday. She’s the youngest inaugural poet in history: Amanda Gorman stole the show at Biden’s inauguration: Meet the 22-year-old poet laureate who gave a historic 5-minute speech that’s gone viral
I try to stay away from politics here but I love the creativity and quality of this video. And yes, I am also breathing a huge sigh of relief.
Whether you’re record holder Rob Wardell or take it slow and steady like Abbie Barnes, the West Highland Way is a formidable objective.
Both parents and adult children often fail to recognize how profoundly the rules of family life have changed over the past half century: A Shift in American Family Values Is Fueling Estrangement