Dear Mom and Dad, Thank You for the Years of Trauma via @TinyBuddha

I’m sharing this not as an indictment of my parent’s parenting but rather mine as something I would share with my sons. One of the most difficult things for children to understand is the complexity of being a parent today. Children don’t understand what their parent might be going through at work or in their marriage nor should they, but life is made up of ordinary days and sometimes parents have a hard time keeping their adult world from harming their children. Hopefully, as children grow older they have more grace to lend to their parents.

Allison Ayres writes “dear Mom and Dad, thank you for the hard lessons. Thank you for creating me. Thank you for being who you were or weren’t to me.” Source: Dear Mom and Dad, Thank You for the Years of Trauma – Tiny Buddha

How to (Actually) Love Yourself, According to Experts

Read: No toxic positivity here. Source: How to (Actually) Love Yourself, According to Experts

Why Do We Comfort Eat? Science Has An Answer — And A Solution

Comfort eating feels effective — but that’s only because of the psychological trickery behind it. Here’s what prompts us to eat junk food in times of stress, and how to create healthier habits. Source: Why Do We Comfort Eat? Science Has An Answer — And A Solution – Digg

Needless Angers: Can They Be Eliminated?

Anger poisons relationships, yet anger can easily become a too-frequent habit. Learn more here: Needless Angers: Can They Be Eliminated?

The Science of Novelty

How new solutions to old problems can improve your mental health: The Science of Novelty

Setting Goals for a Life Worth Living

Why—and how—to set meaningful goals outside work: Setting Goals for a Life Worth Living

How to Be Resilient in an Overwhelming World 

“The key to cultivating internal calm amidst ever-present stress. Hacking our brain begins with a clear knowledge of the three executive systems that run our cognitive processing. We’ll refer to them as the first executive (amygdala, fear response), second executive (frontal-parietal lobe, logic, and problem-solving), and third executive (DMNempathy, and self-awareness). This control panel of sorts gives us a comprehensive view of the ways that our thoughts, behaviors, and feelings interact at any given moment.” Go to the source: How to Be Resilient in an Overwhelming World 

5 Ways to Manage Disappointment

Disappointment can lead to a downward spiral. Read this to ‘check yo’self before you wreck yo’self’! Go to the source: 5 Ways to Manage Disappointment

Here’s another post I did on the topic 10 years ago and there’s more reading here

5 Symptoms of Repressed Anger

What repressed anger looks like. Source: 5 Symptoms of Repressed Anger

Your attention didn’t collapse. It was stolen! via @abrianclark

My brother from a different mother down under Brian Clark shared this article with me to kick off the new year and I think it’s worthy of your attention as well: “social media and many other facets of modern life are destroying our ability to concentrate. We need to reclaim our minds while we still can”. Sounds like a worthy endeavor! Read the article here: Your attention didn’t collapse. It was stolen

If you really want to drill down on this issue, here’s a book from the author of the Guardian article that could help:

5 Small Ways to Reconsider Your Life’s Meaning

In defense of not following your dreams. Source: 5 Small Ways to Reconsider Your Life’s Meaning

Why Gender Pronouns Matter via @malamatacin

What are your pronouns? Fifty percent of Americans are uncomfortable asking this question but using gender-neutral pronouns and language can create inclusion and help deconstruct the gender binary. Based on interviews with gender diverse people, psychology professor calls for allyship by sharing ways we can act to create gender inclusive spaces and see each other more deeply. “Watch what you say.”
“Be careful how you say it.”
These phrases have even more of an impact today…

What’s Your Emotional Range?

Are you truly living or merely surviving? Source: What’s Your Emotional Range?

What Cats Can Teach Us About Love

I’ve learned alot from cats — especially detachment! Eckhart Tolle said ‘I have met many Zen masters in my life. Most of them cats!’ and I agree. Psychologist John Amodeo shares this: ‘A personal perspective: loving and losing a cherished companion’. Go to the source: What Cats Can Teach Us About Love

8 Signs of Emotional Neglect in Your Family

The emotionally neglectful family may look fine, but it is not. Source: 8 Signs of Emotional Neglect in Your Family

Are You Sabotaging Your Most Important Relationship?

How to be kinder to yourself and others. Source: Are You Sabotaging Your Most Important Relationship?

Anger: Responding, Not Reacting via @tarabrach

Anger is natural and necessary for surviving and flourishing. Yet when we are hooked by anger, it causes personal and collective suffering: Anger: Responding, Not Reacting

Listen in…

Signs of a Healthy Relationship

We need to focus on what we want (not what’s missing!): Signs of a Healthy Relationship

How to have a difficult conversation

Avoidance will only foster more conflict. Aim for a shared understanding with these techniques from an expert mediator: How to have a difficult conversation | Psyche Guides

Radical Self-Care to Protect Your Overall Well-Being

Learning to care for yourself allows you to be there for others: Radical Self-Care to Protect Your Overall Well-Being

How Anger Spreads Like a Virus

Research shows how pain and anger infect on social media and in relationships: How Anger Spreads Like a Virus

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