If you can prevent your emotions from taking over in the face of stress, you can avoid a lot of regret and set a good example for others. Source: Never Freak Out
A community can serve as a social safety net, but finding one and becoming a part of it is different from simply making friends. Source: Why community matters so much — and how to find yours
You define your goals. They don’t define you. But the goals you set always define who you will become. This is true whether you succeed in them or not, reach them or not.
Amerland, David. Intentional (p. 62). David Amerland. Kindle Edition.
Having a sense of purpose can give life meaning and make you resilient. Source: Knowing Your “Why” Will Get You Through Just About Any “How”
Know your why!
Rejection: We all can feel it. Consider these sources and solutions: How to Handle Rejection
There is danger in thinking we know what is unthinkable to someone else. Source: A Cognitive Bias That Could Trigger Nuclear War
I’m a psychiatrist and I’m exhausted, too. Source: Why Your Pandemic Fatigue Is At an All-Time High (Even as Cases Dwindle)
“This is the real secret to life—to be completely engaged with what you are doing in the here and now. And instead of calling it work, realize it is play.”Alan Watts
I’m sharing this not as an indictment of my parent’s parenting but rather mine as something I would share with my sons. One of the most difficult things for children to understand is the complexity of being a parent today. Children don’t understand what their parent might be going through at work or in their marriage nor should they, but life is made up of ordinary days and sometimes parents have a hard time keeping their adult world from harming their children. Hopefully, as children grow older they have more grace to lend to their parents.
Allison Ayres writes “dear Mom and Dad, thank you for the hard lessons. Thank you for creating me. Thank you for being who you were or weren’t to me.” Source: Dear Mom and Dad, Thank You for the Years of Trauma – Tiny Buddha
When past hardship obstructs moving on, reconciliation counseling may help. Source: Parent, Adult Child, and Reconciling Past Unhappiness
Multitasking is not good for your brain processes or mental health. It can lead to increased frustration, irritability, and stress. Source: How Single-Tasking Can Decrease Your Stress and Improve Your Mood – Tiny Buddha
If this kind of thinking appeals to you, be sure to look into ‘The ONE Thing’ by Gary Keller…
Anger poisons relationships, yet anger can easily become a too-frequent habit. Learn more here: Needless Angers: Can They Be Eliminated?
How new solutions to old problems can improve your mental health: The Science of Novelty
Why—and how—to set meaningful goals outside work: Setting Goals for a Life Worth Living
National Hugging Day is January 21. Prepare yourself by reviewing the benefits of hugging here: What 20 Seconds of Hugging Can Do for You
“The key to cultivating internal calm amidst ever-present stress. Hacking our brain begins with a clear knowledge of the three executive systems that run our cognitive processing. We’ll refer to them as the first executive (amygdala, fear response), second executive (frontal-parietal lobe, logic, and problem-solving), and third executive (DMN, empathy, and self-awareness). This control panel of sorts gives us a comprehensive view of the ways that our thoughts, behaviors, and feelings interact at any given moment.” Go to the source: How to Be Resilient in an Overwhelming World
Learn difference-making tips to conquer your fears at home and work. Source: How Facing Fears Helps to Protect Your Mental Health
What repressed anger looks like. Source: 5 Symptoms of Repressed Anger
Are you truly living or merely surviving? Source: What’s Your Emotional Range?