Today’s Thoughts Are Tomorrow’s History

Ed and Deb Shapiro write:

Quite often we put too much importance on our thoughts and take them so seriously that they can lead us into all kinds of emotional turmoil. Some thoughts are inspiring, while others can be misleading. One time we were teaching meditation. and Ed said to Mary, a participant, that when we meditate all sorts of outrageous thoughts may arise. In response, Mary blurted out, “Wow, how’d you know?” Because of her negative thoughts, Mary felt she was a terrible person. Yet thoughts are simply words in our mind. Those we thought yesterday are gone and new thoughts arise only to disappear into the next moment.

We lived in Dartmouth, on the south coast of England, and each day we would take walks along the wide river Dart to the estuary. One day we were standing and gazing at the flowing water when it struck us that though the river always looked the same, day after day, it was no more the same than it was even a second ago. It was constantly changing, always moving, always different.

Which is just like our thoughts and feelings. Can you remember what you were thinking yesterday that seemed so important? Who we are now is not who we were last week, an hour ago, even a few minutes ago. Like the river, we are always changing. Continue reading “Today’s Thoughts Are Tomorrow’s History”

Dealing With Anger

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His Holiness the Dalai Lama talks about dealing with anger in this clip from his visit to Doon School in Dehradun, India, on October 28, 2011. The entire eve…

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Pema Chodron On Faith, Anger & Divorce

I like listening to Pema Chodron:

Here at MBG, we love Pema Chodron, and were thrilled to discover this candid conversation between the great Buddhist monk and Bill Moyers on PBS. 

In this interview, Pema Chodron talks about the pain and anger she felt after her divorce and explains how her strong emotions drove her to her spiritual practice. 

“If we could learn to not be afraid of groundlessness, not be afraid of insecurity and uncertainty,” she says, “it would be calling on an inner strength that would allow us to be open and free and loving and compassionate in any situation.”

With gems like this, the entire video is worth a watch. 

via Pema Chodron On Faith, Anger & Divorce (Video).

Holding on to Anger…

From Evernote:

Holding on to Anger…

Clipped from: http://www.lifehack.org/articles/communication/30sec-tip-holding-anger.html

6 Ways To Reconnect With Your Most Powerful Self

@AmandaLeCe had a post on @mindbodygreen this morning that was so good, I decided you needed to see the whole thing right here:

Between all the tasks, people and activities competing for our attention every day, it’s so easy to get lost in the routine and lose touch of our most powerful, loving selves. Before we know it, we’re acting out of habit or are glued to the computer. The following are some ways I get real, and come back to myself:
Continue reading “6 Ways To Reconnect With Your Most Powerful Self”

Clearing…

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Do not try to save

the whole world

or do anything grandiose.

Instead, create

a clearing

in the dense forest

of your life

and wait there

patiently,

until the song

that is your life

falls into your own cupped hands

and you recognize and greet it.

Only then will you know

how to give yourself

to this world

so worthy of rescue.

via Martha Postlewaite | Oasis.

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Boarded cabin within the Wyre Forest, England.

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Explain Your Anger…

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Explain your anger, don’t express it, and you will immediately open the door to solutions instead of arguments.

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The 7-Step Guide to Misery


Dr. Margaret Paul shares this handy guide:

I doubt that anyone would say out loud that they love being miserable. Yet many people wallow in misery, doing the same things over and over that create their misery. While life is often challenging, lonely and heartbreaking, misery is a choice.

Why would someone make the choice to be miserable? Because it is often a way of getting attention and of attempting to get someone else to be responsible for them. If this is what you want, here is a roadmap to make sure you accomplish your goal

Continue reading “The 7-Step Guide to Misery”

Why The Fantasy Of Prince (Or Princess) Charming Is Dangerous

Shelly Bullard shares:

Happiness is contingent upon who you are, how you choose to live your life, and aligning yourself with love (inside first, then outside as well).

Full story at: Why The Fantasy Of Prince (Or Princess) Charming Is Dangerous.

Spirituality and Stilettos

Jackie-portraitOne of my favorite bloggers, Jackie Dumaine, has a beautiful post on her blog on the topic of spirituality:

“Being “Spiritual” does not mean giving up who you are.  In fact, it’s quite the opposite.

It’s about embracing who you are.

Being “Spiritual” does not mean giving up wine night with the girls or refraining from buying a new pair of stilettos (or two).  It means embracing varying levels of friendships and the little pleasures that life has to offer, without being attached to them for your happiness. Continue reading “Spirituality and Stilettos”

Clearing

Clearing
by Martha Postlewaite

Do not try to save
the whole world
or do anything grandiose.
Instead, create
a clearing
in the dense forest
of your life
and wait there
patiently,
until the song
that is your life
falls into your own cupped hands
and you recognize and greet it.
Only then will you know
how to give yourself
to this world
so worthy of rescue.

Stop! 9 WARNING Signs That You May Be in a Dangerous Relationship

Ponder this:

Any relationship can be an unhealthy one. Bad relationships aren’t just limited to marriages or partnerships—they can occur while dating, in friendships, or families. Any relationship that is harmful or destructive to your physical, mental, or emotional well-being is an unhealthy one.

There are many reasons why people stay in an unhealthy relationship. Some don’t recognize or aren’t willing to accept that the relationship is unhealthy, or they are fearful or lack the inner strength to leave. Or, they believe that they can change their partner and things will improve. The sad truth is that unhealthy relationships rarely get better; instead, they get progressively worse, leaving scars that are difficult to recover from.

Full story at: Stop! 9 WARNING Signs That You May Be in a Dangerous Relationship – Lifehack.

Anger and shame…

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h/t Kristin Barton Cuthriell

You will not be punished for your anger…

Simple Reminders

via “You will not be punished for your anger, you will be punished….

Behind Great Anger is Great Pain; Don’t Take It Personally

“More important than the quest for certainty is the quest for clarity.” ~Francois Gautier

via Behind Great Anger is Great Pain; Don’t Take It Personally | Tiny Buddha.

The Most Dangerous Word in the World

noMark Waldman and Andrew Newberg, M.D. write:

If I were to put you into an fMRI scanner—a huge donut-shaped magnet that can take a video of the neural changes happening in your brain—and flash the word “NO” for less than one second, you’d see a sudden release of dozens of stress-producing hormones and neurotransmitters. These chemicals immediately interrupt the normal functioning of your brain, impairing logic, reason, language processing, and communication.

In fact, just seeing a list of negative words for a few seconds will make a highly anxious or depressed person feel worse, and the more you ruminate on them, the more you can actually damage key structures that regulate your memory, feelings, and emotions.[1] You’ll disrupt your sleep, your appetite, and your ability to experience long-term happiness and satisfaction.

If you vocalize your negativity, or even slightly frown when you say “no,” more stress chemicals will be released, not only in your brain, but in the listener’s brain as well.[2] The listener will experience increased anxiety and irritability, thus undermining cooperation and trust. In fact, just hanging around negative people will make you more prejudiced toward others![3]

via 3. The Most Dangerous Word in the World | Psychology Today.

American Minute for December 22nd; Battle of the Bulge

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The Nazis amassed three armies for an enormous attack against the Allies in the Ardennes Forest and soon surrounded the 101 Airborne Division in southern Belgium, demanding their surrender.

U.S. General Anthony McAuliffe answered in one word: “Nuts.”

This response confused the Nazi commander, causing him to hesitate.

Marching to the rescue was the U.S. Third Army, but it was hindered due to bad weather.

General Patton directed Chaplain O’Neill to compose a prayer for his 250,000 troops to pray:

“Almighty and most merciful Father, we humbly beseech Thee, of Thy great goodness, to restrain these immoderate rains…Hearken to us as soldiers who call upon Thee…Establish Thy justice among men and nations.”

The weather cleared and the Allies counterattacked.

In his order, DECEMBER 22, 1944, General Eisenhower stated:

“By rushing out from his fixed defenses the enemy may give us the chance to turn his great gamble into his worst defeat.

So I call upon every man, of all the Allies, to rise now to new heights of courage…with unshakable faith in the cause for which we fight, we will, with God’s help, go forward to our greatest victory.”

Two days later President Franklin Roosevelt stated:

“It is not easy to say ‘Merry Christmas’ to you, my fellow Americans, in this time of destructive war…

We will celebrate this Christmas Day in our traditional American way…because the teachings of Christ are fundamental in our lives…the story of the coming of the immortal Prince of Peace.”

via American Minute for December 22nd.

Catch Anger Before It Catches You

“For every moment you are angry, you lose 60 seconds of happiness.” ~Ralph Waldo Emerson

Full story at: Catch Anger Before It Catches You | Tiny Buddha.

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