Love the new design, Marie, as well as the content of this post…

The Complete Guide to Understanding Your Emotions

“Your emotions are crucial to your ability to adapt to the challenges of your daily life. When you feel good, you’re able to shrug off even the most burdensome of tasks, but when you’re miserable, you view even an enjoyable activity with a sense of gloom and doom. Emotions also affect our relationships with others. If a friend tells you a tragic story and you react by snickering instead of looking sad or concerned, you’ll seem rude and insensitive. On the other hand, if you frown when you should smile at your friend’s jokes, you’ll cause offense for different reasons.

Flying off the handle to a minor annoyance can make you seem hyper or even unbalanced. Conversely, if you react with undue glee to a relatively minor piece of good news, people will also question your maturity and stability.  Babies are allowed to shriek with pleasure or howl with rage but as adults, we’re expected to rein in the outward show of our feelings.

If you need more convincing about the role of emotions in our ability to succeed or fail in facing life’s challenges, think about some of the famous people whose careers have been undone by the improper show of their feelings. In the primary run up to the 2004 presidential election, Howard Dean’s candidacy ended virtually overnight after his “YAAAAHHH” moment became an overnight Internet sensation. Edmund Muskie, in the 1972 primary season, committed a similar political gaffe in which he shed tears after winning the New Hampshire primary (though he claimed they were snowflakes shimmering in the morning light). Ironically, tears are all the rage in the post-2000 political world. Hillary Clinton wasn’t considered sympathetic enough until her eyes misted over while answering a voter’s question (again in New Hampshire!), but many pundits used this against her to question her sincerity. Then there’s the sentimental carryings-on of House Republican leader John Boehner, whose tear ducts seem on constant overdrive.” Get more here: The Complete Guide to Understanding Your Emotions | Psychology Today.

Just in case you missed this for 5/28/2012

  1. Todd’s tweets…

Flee, pursue and lean

Sunrise over the south beach of Jamaica.
Sunrise over the south beach of Jamaica. (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

“Flee the evil desires of youth and pursue righteousness, faith, love and peace, along with those who call on the Lord out of a pure heart.” http://bible.us/2Tim2.22.NIV

I find in this verse a threefold approach to spiritual and mental health.

  • Flee ‘evil’
  • Pursue ‘good’
  • Get help from likeminded people…

It’s not enough to simply stop doing something — I believe you have to START doing something else and it’s great to have help from likeminded people who will support you in your quest…

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Change Is Uncomfortable

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“What does help us get to where we want to go? According to Charles Duhigg, author of the recent book, The Power of Habits, understanding how habits form is a key to changing them. Understanding our mindless behavior includes bringing it to consciousness by slowing it down. I remember hearing the story (an urban legend by now) of the man who goes to the Indian guru, and says, “I have struggled for so many years to stop smoking – I’ve hid them from myself, asked others to hide them, tried non-nicotine products, the patch, avoided the kiosk on my way home from work, EVERYTHING, and I still can’t stop smoking.” The guru replies, “My friend, my task for you is to smoke a cigarette so mindfully that you’re aware of every single second of it.” “But guru, I want to quit smoking, not continue it.” “Do as I say,” replied the guru. So the man went to the outskirts of the town where he was by himself. He sat down, took out his comforting cigarette. He felt somewhat ridiculous (in fact, uncomfortable) and as mindfully as he could, he lit the cigarette. He began to notice the smell – it was pretty acrid. He began to notice the taste – dry and somewhat stale. He inhaled and felt the smoke travel down his throat and into his lungs taking with it a certain life force – almost like how the rain floods take both the good and bad soil as they travel downwards. He envisioned the smoke and nicotine actually turning his lungs black. By no means was this a pleasant experience, as it had usually been. It was awful! He couldn’t believe what he was doing to himself! After consciously smoking half of the cigarette, he had to put it out. It was too much, too disgusting. From that point on, he didn’t touch a cigarette again.” Get more here:  Change Is Uncomfortable « Holistic Gardner Blog.

Amen! For me, it’s more about managing my expectations than the relationship itself…

Stand Up To Self-Bullying

“Do you think of yourself as a nice and caring person to others; yet simultaneously criticize and push yourself mercilessly? If so, I hope you’ve given serious consideration to the inherent contradiction in this. It’s important to acknowledge that you are bullying an extremely important person – you! Instead of continuing this self-destructive behavior, consider learning to treat yourself as well as you treat others; particularly when you are struggling or distressed. The best way to do this is by relating to yourself with compassion.

Briefly stated, you can develop self-compassion by doing the following:” Stand Up To Self-Bullying | Psychology Today.

The Petty Girls of Ridge Tool, 1953

Ummm. Wow? Get more here: The Petty Girls of Ridge Tool, 1953.

Alluring Les Paul Guitar-Inspired Swimming Pool

Freshome.com – Interior Design & Architecture Newsletter via Alluring Les Paul Guitar-Inspired Swimming Pool.

How To Jumpstart Your Morning

“If only we could enjoy lazy Sunday morning wake-ups everyday: liberated from alarm clocks, ironing shirts and, well – rushing. But we believe every morning deserves to be enjoyed and a great start to the day will certainly pave the rest of the day in positivity.

Don’t fret about having a sluggish yesterday – instead, always start fresh, or as Sidney Poitier said, “to simply wake up every morning a better person than when I went to bed.”

Keen on some morning jumpstart tips? Here are some ideas we found to give your day that needed extra boost (even if it’s not Sunday!).” Get more here: How To Jumpstart Your Morning | FinerMinds.

Taco Bell sells orange juice the only way it knows how

HappyPlace via Taco Bell sells orange juice the only way it knows how..

Eclipse Ring WIN

Epic Fail Funny Videos and Funny Pictures via WIN!: Eclipse Ring WIN.

Advertising Vs Reality

 

Advertising Vs Reality – Damn! LOL.

Love Yourself Where You Are!

The Daily Love via Visual Inspiration: Love Yourself Where You Are!.

A Thank You to Our Veterans

Michael Hyatt writes:

“Today is Memorial Day in the United States. It is a day we set aside to commemorate those who have died in the service of the military. It was first enacted to honor those in the Union Army who died in the American Civil War. After the first World War, it was expanded to include American casualties of any war or military action.

I have never had the privilege of serving in the military. However, I am profoundly grateful for those who have.

In the U.S., I fear we have come to take our national security for granted. The tragic events of 9/11 were a wake-up call. The fact we have not had another terrorist attack on U.S. soil is a testimony to the brave men and women who work tirelessly to protect our freedoms both here and around the world.” via A Thank You to Our Veterans | Michael Hyatt.

When Its Time to Move On

“Relationships are like glass.  Sometimes it’s better to leave them broken than try to hurt yourself putting it back together.”  Unknown via Tiny Wisdom: When Its Time to Move On | Tiny Buddha: Wisdom Quotes, Letting Go, Letting Happiness In.

Things were simpler back then…

Anderson Layman’s Blog via Things were simpler back then……….

If you want something…

The Meta Picture via If you want something….

50 Traits and Habits Of Highly Effective Men

“It is every man’s obligation to put back into the world at least the equivalent of what he takes out of it.” Albert Einstein. Get them here: 50 Traits and Habits Of Highly Effective Men : All SWAGGA.com.

Not all who wander are lost

BrainyQuote via Not all who wander are lost. – J. R. R. Tolkien.

Play venti

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