Thinks I find along the way
Wabi-sabi is a concept that motions us to constantly search for beauty in imperfection and accept the more natural cycle of life. It reminds us that all things including us and life itself, are impermanent, incomplete, and imperfect. Perfection, then, is impossible and impermanence is the only way. Go to the source: 5 Teachings From The Japanese Wabi-Sabi Philosophy That Can Drastically Improve Your Life — OMAR ITANI
When the darker days hit, my mental health generally declines. Here are three things that help me when depression starts to take over. Source: The 3 Ms That Help Me Cope with Seasonal Depression – Tiny Buddha
John Wayne and Maureen O’Hara in The Quiet Man
Here are some things to consider as you initiate and reinforce boundaries. Source: 5 Things to Know About Setting Boundaries
If you’re in a toxic cycle of anxiously clinging to people with avoidant attachment styles, this might help you break your pattern. Source: The Agony of Anxious Attachment and How to Attract Better Relationships – Tiny Buddha
A recent review of research on deception. Source: Research Shows What Questions to Ask to Get Honest Answers
While some screen use may be problematic, practical tips can help you manage the risks. Source: What to know about new research on screen time and kids’ mental health
Almost 20 years ago, Helen Fisher helped revolutionize dating. She has no regrets. Source: The Woman Who Made Online Dating Into a ‘Science’ (Hint: Load this article into an incognito page to bypass the Atlantic paygate.)
Are you giving yourself credit for how you’ve grown and changed? Source: How Have You Grown This Year?
Finally! A psychologist that’s sharing a positive perspective on men: “The different ways men and women assist others”. Source: Celebrating Men: Examining Helping Behavior
Helping is smart because it’s the right thing to do, but there’s always this…
And this…
Here’s how you can use mindfulness to pause, pay attention, and align your tech and social media use with your values. Source: How to Reclaim Your Brain From Big Tech – Mindful
Are you tired? Stop “swimming” against life. Source: The Value of Effortless Action
Be kind because it is the easiest thing that you can do to make the world a better place. Here are four ways to do it. Source: If You Really Want to Change the World: 4 Ways to Be Kind – Tiny Buddha
This heart meditation guides us in how to cultivate a deep quality of friendliness in relating to our inner life and each other. The gift of this practice is a direct sense of belonging – knowing that we can never be alone.
Genuine coherence of beliefs, feelings, and behavior requires deliberate effort. Source: How to Build a Stronger Sense of Coherence
Constant criticism can have long-term effects on self-worth and relationships. Source: 16 Signs You Were Raised by a Highly Critical Parent
Here is the beautifully written “The Invitation”, by Oriah Mountain Dreamer. A piece that has been frequently imitated, but nothing compares to the brilliant original:
It doesn’t interest me
what you do for a living.
I want to know
what you ache for
and if you dare to dream
of meeting your heart’s longing.
It doesn’t interest me
how old you are.
I want to know
if you will risk
looking like a fool
for love
for your dream
for the adventure of being alive.
It doesn’t interest me
what planets are
squaring your moon.
I want to know
if you have touched
the centre of your own sorrow
if you have been opened
by life’s betrayals
or have become shrivelled and closed
from fear of further pain.
I want to know
if you can sit with pain
mine or your own
without moving to hide it
or fade it
or fix it.
I want to know
if you can be with joy
mine or your own
if you can dance with wildness
and let the ecstasy fill you
to the tips of your fingers and toes
without cautioning us
to be careful
to be realistic
to remember the limitations
of being human.
It doesn’t interest me
if the story you are telling me
is true.
I want to know if you can
disappoint another
to be true to yourself.
If you can bear
the accusation of betrayal
and not betray your own soul.
If you can be faithless
and therefore trustworthy.
I want to know if you can see Beauty
even when it is not pretty
every day.
And if you can source your own life
from its presence.
I want to know
if you can live with failure
yours and mine
and still stand at the edge of the lake
and shout to the silver of the full moon,
“Yes.”
It doesn’t interest me
to know where you live
or how much money you have.
I want to know if you can get up
after the night of grief and despair
weary and bruised to the bone
and do what needs to be done
to feed the children.
It doesn’t interest me
who you know
or how you came to be here.
I want to know if you will stand
in the centre of the fire
with me
and not shrink back.
It doesn’t interest me
where or what or with whom
you have studied.
I want to know
what sustains you
from the inside
when all else falls away.
I want to know
if you can be alone
with yourself
and if you truly like
the company you keep
in the empty moments.
By Oriah © Mountain Dreaming,
from the book The Invitation
published by HarperONE, San Francisco,
1999 All rights reserved
Another good article from Arthur Brooks. This time? Three steps to get over your ex. Source: Breakups Always Hurt, but You Can Shorten the Suffering
The cool thing? Neuroplasticity. Go to the source for more: One Incredibly Cool Fact about the Brain.
Bright, shiny objects! 
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