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You Came Here To Live A Wonderful Life!

“All is well. You did not come here to fix a broken world. The world is not broken. You came here to live a wonderful life. And if you can learn to relax a little and let it all in, you will begin to see the universe present you with all that you have asked for.”

– Esther Abraham-Hicks, is a best-selling author and speaker.

This is how to work in America?

How do you feel about this?

Be Awesome

Chasing Shadows

Preserving Mental Health During Unemployment

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Our nation is facing unprecedented rates of unemployment as well as job insecurity and dissatisfaction. Recent figures put the national jobless rate at close to 10%, not including those who left the workforce or those staying in unsatisfying jobs. In a culture that values the work role and external signs of status, wealth and achievement above all else. it is not surprising that rates of anxiety and mental disorders are increasing and that more prescriptions for anti-anxiety and anti-depressant medications are being written every day.

Follow the ‘via’ link above if you or someone you love is unemployed…

GET BACK UP!!!

Make it amazing!

Putting Conflict to R.E.S.T.

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No marriage is perfect. We all have conflict from time to time. Resolving conflict can be one of the biggest challenges in marriage.  When conflict goes unresolved, it causes tension and builds a wall between husband and wife.  When attempts at addressing conflict are unproductive or harsh, it can lead to resentment, discouragement and even bigger problems than you faced originally.

So, after you’ve cooled down and taken a break, how can you address conflict successfully in your marriage?  One way is to practice the R.E.S.T. method.

Follow the ‘via’ link if you want the R.E.S.T. of the idea…

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8 Secrets of Conflict Resolution

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In his book, Learning to Live with the Love of Your Life… And Loving It!, Dr. Neil Clark Warren provides eight secrets to working through conflict with your spouse.

1. Marriage is a “We” Business

Dr. Warren says, “Any couple who gains a ‘we’ perspective eventually experiences great success in marriage.” Shift the focus of your marriage to a “we” mentality, especially in conflict.

2. Deal with the Issue as Quickly as Possible

Deal with conflict by getting problems out in the open and addressing them head-on. Don’t let issues fester below the surface.

3. Stick to the Subject

If you are in the middle of an argument with your spouse, stay focused on resolving that current conflict. Don’t throw old fights or problems into the discussion.

4. Don’t Intimidate

Some people become more concerned with “winning” a fight than working through the conflict. They may become mean, intimidating or threatening in order to stay in the fight. In Dr. Warren’s words, “Intimidation may result in victory for an individual, but I’ve never seen it produce victory for the marriage.”

5. No Name-Calling

Establish a rule with your spouse that there will be no name-calling during a fight. Name-calling will only lead to more hurt and emotional distance between the two of you.

6. Turn Up Your Listening Sensitivity

While it may be hard to actively listen to your spouse when your emotions are running high from an argument, you must take the time to try and see their point of view. This is key to the road to resolution. When your spouse feels listened to, they will be more willing to listen to what you have to say, as well.

7. Practice Give and Take

“What we must understand is that marriage is a partnership and therefore requires both give and take to be successful,” says Dr. Warren. Be willing to compromise on certain issues that are more important to your spouse. Choose your battles wisely.

8. Celebrate Every Victory

Recognize the victories when you and your spouse successfully work through a conflict together. Focus on the progress you have made as a couple and the new strengths that you have together as a result.

For more help on conflict resolution, check out iMOM’s 10 Ways to Fight Fair with Your Spouse.

Tradition

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Lose Wait Now

Some good thoughts from life coach Kute Blackson…

The real heroes of the world did not wait for some special moment. Look at Mother Teresa.  She didn’t wait until she’d amassed enough funds, built a foundation, found the right board of directors to begin serving those in need. She simply began where she was. She responded to that moment of seeing a person in desperation. She responded to the urgent call of the now. She took action.

In Mother Teresa’s own words:

“I began. I picked up one person. Maybe if I didn’t pick up that one person I wouldn’t have picked up the others.  The whole work is only a drop in the ocean.  But if we don’t put the drop in, the ocean would be one drop less.  Same thing for you. Same thing for your family. Same thing in the church where you go. Just begin… One, one, one.”

People, and maybe this includes you, will find any excuse to wait. Sure, they plan to take action when their husband shows up. Or they retire. Or they get a raise or the kids grow old. Always waiting for that magical moment to appear before they can give their gift. But I’m saying that that moment is an illusion. Waiting is suffering. It’s the main reason, I believe, so many are depressed in the world. We can feel our gift inside rotting while so many go hungry. Yet, we’re so convinced that the big, drum-roll moment is coming that we don’t really live; we don’t really give.

What illusion is your mind telling you that needs to be different for you before it will allow you to give your gifts?

Real heroes give, live and love now. Loving now is when you no longer wait for a raise, but raise the level of your giving. Give way more than you’re required, adding outrageous value. Look for unique ways to serve those around you. Know that sometimes the payback won’t come from the source of your giving or whom you thought it would come from. But rest assured, when you give your gifts, that energy will always flow back to you.

Life sees everything. You can’t cheat life. And life won’t cheat you.

No matter who you are, exactly as your life is now, you have something valuable to give. We can all start giving our gifts now, without waiting until a time in the distant future when we have all the grand resources we think we need.

So:

Take your best dress out of the closet and wear it.
Take your best plate out of the cupboard and use it.
Take your best loving off the shelf and share it.
Take your mind out of control and lose it.

There is no “special” moment.
This is it.
There is no special person to give your gifts to.
Everyone is it.

When you realize that, everything becomes special, and the wait is over.

Today is the day to drop the “wait” in your life?
Go.
Go.
Go.

Wild Rover

My favorite Irish pub song as done by Dropkick Murphy’s…

Blame

Not crazy

7 Little Things That Make Life Effortless

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Leo Babauta writes this morning…

1. Do less. This is my productivity mantra, and it’s counterintuitive. I actually don’t believe in productivity, but instead believe in doing the important things. Do less, and you’ll force yourself to choose between what’s just busywork, and what really matters. Life then becomes effortless, as you accomplish big things while being less busy.

2. Having less is lighter. Start asking yourself if you really need everything you have, or if you just have it out of fear. Start to let go of what you have, so it doesn’t own you. And then, as you have less, you feel lighter. It’s wonderful.

3. Let the little things go. People who struggle often fight over little things. We obsess over things that don’t really matter. We create resistance instead of letting things glide off us. Let the little things go, breathe, and move on to the important things.

4. Clean as you go. I haven’t written about this for a long time, but early in the life of Zen Habits I wrote about the habit of cleaning as you go. Instead of letting the cleaning pile up, put things away when you’re done. Wash your bowl. Wipe the counters clean as you pass them. Sweep up dirt when you notice it. By cleaning a little bit at a time, as you make messes, cleaning up becomes a breeze, and it’s never difficult. By the way, this applies to everything in life, not just cleaning.

5. Make small, gradual changes. Most people are too impatient to follow this advice — they want to do everything at once. We have so many changes to make, but we don’t want to wait a year for it all to happen. As a result, we often fail, and then feel crappy about it. Or we don’t start at all, because so many big changes is intimidating and overwhelming. I’ve learned the hard way that small changes are incredibly powerful, and they last longer. Gradual change leads to huge change, but slowly, and in a way that sticks. And it’s effortless.

6. Learn to focus on the things that matter. This is implied in the items above, but it’s so important I have to emphasize it. Swimming (or any physical activity for that matter) is best done when you do only the motions that matter, and eliminate the extraneous motions. Stop thrashing, start becoming more efficient and fluid. You do this by learning what matters, and cutting out the wasted activity.

7. Be compassionate. This makes dealing with others much more effortless. It also makes you feel better about yourself. People like you more, and you improve the lives of others. Make every dealing with another human being one where you practice compassion.

Follow the ‘via’ link above for the rest of his thoughts on the topic…

You Are Worthy!

Don’t Find Fault, Find A Remedy!

“Don’t find fault. Find a remedy.”

Henry Ford, was the founder of Ford Motors.

Best Places To Visit Fall Foliage

Today’s the day!!! Every year, my wife and I plan a motorcycle ride to Door County to revel in nature’s beauty and today’s the day…

In Wisconsin, autumn brings the landscape to life along the Lake Michigan shoreline. The best times to see fall colors in Wisconsin is between mid-September to mid-October, The famous attractions are Cedarburg, Bayfield, Prairie du Chien, Lake Geneva and Door County, where golden colors blossom. Ephraim, in door county is the best area to see fall leaves changing to those golden colors of autumn.

So what good is it if you live within striking distance of one of the 10 best places in the country to view foliage and you don’t go? Ephraim, here we come!

Here’s just a sample from last year’s ride…

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