“There is a huge amount of freedom that comes to you when you take nothing personally.” ~ Don Miguel Ruiz
Taking Care of Ourselves
In The Language of Letting Go Melody Beattie says…
“We often refer to recovery from codependency and adult child issues as “self-care.” Self-care is not, as some may think, a spin-off of the “me generation.” It isn’t self-indulgence. It isn’t selfishness—in the negative interpretation of that word. We’re learning to take care of ourselves, instead of obsessively focusing on another person. We’re learning self-responsibility, instead of feeling excessively responsible for others. Self-care also means tending to our true responsibilities to others; we do this better when we’re not feeling overly responsible. Self-care sometimes means, “me first,” but usually, “me too.” It means we are responsible for ourselves and can choose to no longer be victims. Self-care means learning to love the person we’re responsible for taking care of—ourselves. We do not do this to hibernate in a cocoon of isolation and self-indulgence; we do it so we can better love others, and learn to let them love us. Self-care isn’t selfish; it’s self-esteem. Today, God, help me love myself. Help me let go of feeling excessively responsible for those around me. Show me what what I need to do to take care of myself and be appropriately responsible to others.”
Beattie, Melody (2009-12-15). The Language of Letting Go (Hazelden Meditation Series) (pp. 105-106). Hazelden. Kindle Edition.
Feel free today to take care of yourself…
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I Love Bizarro
True cat lovers should have no problem understanding this… Continue reading “I Love Bizarro”
“Introducing Macintosh” ad insert in Newsweek, 1984
LOL. Still true today — only a fraction can use a computer… :-D
Click the image to go to the source…
Ugggh. Glad they didn’t touch on texting or smartphones in church…
From WSJ.com: Culture City: Theaters Still Vexed by the Text
Recent article in the Wall Street Journal on texting that was written for me. Author outlines the top 10 reasons why you shouldn’t text in the theatre (and it’s applicable for meetings, movies, seminars, dinners, etc). I’ve excerpted my top 5 of her 10…good article – I would encourage you to read it in its entirety…
9. You’re rotting your brain. (Multitasking is bad for you. It reduces your ability to focus and think deeply about task at hand. If you can’t think deeply, you can’t feel deeply, which means you’re missing out on a rich, creative interior life.)
8. It’s annoying to other people who are trying to watch the show.
7. Maybe the show isn’t boring. Maybe it’s you. (…if you can’t entertain yourself with your own thoughts, you’re in bad shape. For centuries, philosophers have grappled with…
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You are Responsible for You
More from Melody Beattie:
We can delegate tasks, but we can’t delegate responsibility, if the responsibility is really ours.
Sometimes, it’s normal to delegate tasks to other people. We may hire people to do certain things for us. We may engage in contracts with a therapist or a healer to help us work through a certain issue. But the responsibility for which pieces of advice we follow, and the decisions we make in our lives, ultimately belongs to us.
It’s easy to get lazy. We can let a friend, an employee, or even a skilled therapist begin making our decisions for us. We can listen to what they say and blindly take their advice. Then we don’t have to take responsibility for our lives. If the decision doesn’t work out, we can say, “You were wrong. Look at the mess you’ve gotten me into. I’m a victim, again.”
Yes you are. But you’re a victim of yourself.
We can listen to advice and let other people help us, but if they’re helping us do something that is our responsibility, the ultimate responsibility for the decision still belongs to us.
Get help when you need it. Delegate tasks. But don’t give away your power. Remember you can think, you can feel, you can take care of yourself, you can figure out your problems.
Don’t get lazy. Don’t give away responsibility for your life.
God, help me remember that I am responsible for me.
Source: April 17: You are Responsible for You | Language of Letting Go
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The Persistence of Peanut Butter
Go to the source: The Persistence of Peanut Butter | Escape Adulthood with Kim & Jason.
Thanks, David…
I’m not a Paul McCartney fan. (Could I be the only one?)
But McCartney featuring Natalie Portman, this is something special…
What if it rained?
We didn’t care
She said that someday soon
The sun was gonna shine
And she was right
This love of mine,
My Valentine
Sources:
- Video – Head Like An Orange.
- Lyrics: LyricsReg.com
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On Choices…
“Intentional living recognizes that, while accidents happen, life is not an accident. Days are built choice by choice.” ~ Mary Anne Radmacher via Anderson Layman's Blog: Choices……………….
The World Needs You to Follow Your Inspiration
“Above all, be true to yourself, and if you cannot put your heart in it, take yourself out of it.” ~ Unknown via The World Needs You to Follow Your Inspiration | Tiny Buddha: Wisdom Quotes, Letting Go, Letting Happiness In.
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On Being Angry…
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Problems Are Opportunity With Thorns!
“The robbed that smiles, steals something from the thief.” ~ William Shakespeare
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I remember hearing John Cleese live as a keynote speaker at some tech conference at Moscone Center in San Francisco. He’s an amazing public speaker…
Harley Davidson “Hog” Boys, 1910s-1938
Think your Harley’s cool? You ain’t got nuttin’ on the ‘hog boys’…
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