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Life is not to be endured

More wisdom from Melody Beattie:

“Life is not to be endured; life is to be enjoyed and embraced.

The belief that we must square our shoulders and get through a meager, deprived existence for far-off “rewards in Heaven” is a codependent belief.

Yes, most of us still have times when life will be stressful and challenge our endurance skills.  But, in recovery, we’re learning to live, to enjoy our lives, and handle situations as they come.

Our survival skills have served us well.  They have gotten us through difficult times-as children and adults.  Our ability to freeze feelings, deny problems, deprive ourselves, and cope with stress has helped us get where we are today.  But we’re safe now.  We’re learning to do more than survive.  We can let go of unhealthy survival behaviors.  We’re learning new, better ways to protect and care for ourselves.  We’re free to feel our feelings, identify and solve problems, and give ourselves the best.  We’re free to open up and come alive.

Today, I will let go of my unhealthy endurance and survival skills.  I will choose a new mode of living, one that allows me to be alive and enjoy the adventure.”

Source: this is a quote “Life is not to be endured; life is to be… | turtle_dove on Xanga

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How to Control Your Emotions in Any Situation

English: Emotions

“If you’ve ever blown your top, flown off the handle, lost it or stewed about anything, you know how you felt afterward. No matter who was at fault, no matter the outcome, you are still left with a very unpleasant feeling because of the outburst. And if you’ve ever been on the receiving end of a tantrum, you aren’t left feeling exactly happy either.” Read more: How to Control Your Emotions in Any Situation | Love or Above.

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Love Yourself First!

“Do you ever feel like you haven’t loved or been loved enough in your life, and you desire more? Do you ever think, “When I find my true love then I’ll be complete?” Or perhaps you are already in a long-term relationship and you’d like it to be more loving?

As long as you search for love outside of yourself, you will never find it.”  via Love Yourself First | FinerMinds.

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Are You Turned On?

My yogi buddy Jackie Dumaine wrote:

“Everyone has a lightbulb inside of them.

You are the Master Controller of the switch.

Yes, you’re that powerful.

So…

What are you going to do?

My suggestion?

Turn it on.

Oh, and if the switch seems to be stuck –  try yoga.

It’s quite possibly one of the best Light Turner-On Activities I’ve ever experienced.

Namaste.

Is  your light turned on or off?

If it’s off, what can you do to turn it back on?” via Jackie Dumaine – Are You Turned On?.

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It’s a great day to be a ‘gomer…

‘Gomer. That’s what they call people from Algoma. This was the treat that awaited me on my morning bike commute into the office…

Click image to enlarge… I <3 Algoma!
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Just in case you missed this for 5/22/2012

A daily roundup of interesting stuff that didn’t quite make it as a blog post on its own.

  1. Bizarrocomics
    Tue, May 22 2012 06:19:36
  2. A massive wagon train, made up of 1,000 settlers and 1,000 head of cattle, sets off down the Oregon Trail from Independence, Missouri. Known as the “Great Emigration,” the expedition came two years after the first modest party of settlers made the long, overland journey to Oregon.After leaving Independence, the giant wagon train followed the Sante Fe Trail for some 40 miles and then turned northwest to the Platte River, which it followed along its northern route to Fort Laramie, Wyoming. From there, it traveled on to the Rocky Mountains, which it passed through by way of the broad, level South Pass that led to the basin of the Colorado River. The travelers then went southwest to Fort Bridger, northwest across a divide to Fort Hall on the Snake River, and on to Fort Boise, where they gained supplies for the difficult journey over the Blue Mountains and into Oregon. The Great Emigration finally arrived in October, completing the 2,000-mile journey from Independence in five months.In the next year, four more wagon trains made the journey, and in 1845 the number of emigrants who used the Oregon Trail exceeded 3,000. Travel along the trail gradually declined with the advent of the railroads, and the route was finally abandoned in the 1870s.
    Great Emigration departs for Oregon —…
    Mon, May 21 2012 16:47:52
  3. The current season of Springtime and it varied holidays that have themes of new beginnings, new life, freedom from old bondages and the potential for resurected aspirations provide the external prompts for each of us to self-reflect and re-work our life plans.
    Envy as the Source of Anxiety and Dis…
    Sun, May 20 2012 13:06:16
  4. I’ve always found it easy to start my day healthy. Greek yogurt and fresh fruit are incredibly satisfying at 8 a.m., punctuated by a carefully crafted cup of black coffee that revs my brain. But by 8 p.m., everything changes. I’m a ravenous satyr, craving the flesh of fatty charred meats and the comforting toasty bite of calorie-laden IPAs. Melted cheese has a particular flare that would nauseate my 8-a.m. self, and the same could be said about anything fried or coated in buffalo sauce.
    Infographic: When The Lights Go Out, …
    Sun, May 20 2012 13:02:29

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    The Optimism Bias – Are Optimists In Danger? http://bit.ly/KFLRhE
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The state of social media 2012

Holy Kaw! via The state of social media 2012 [infographic].

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Dear graduate

Holy Kaw! via Dear graduate [comic].

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Art Break: The Skyscraper Artist

Execupundit.com via Art Break: The Skyscraper Artist.

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Is Nonviolent Communication Practical?

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Have you ever heard of Nonviolent Communication? My wife and I have been using it our relationship for almost a year with a great degree of success…

“One of the most common critiques I hear of Nonviolent Communication is that it’s simply not practical. “It would be great if this can work,” the line often goes. “Too bad that in my (school, family, organization) we don’t have the luxury of taking all this time to do all this endless dialogue that it takes to get anywhere. No one would have the patience, anyway.” via Is Nonviolent Communication Practical? | Psychology Today.

Yes, Nonviolent Communication does take time but so does having arguments and recovering from them. Follow the ‘via’ link if you want to know more about Nonviolent Communication…

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Forgiveness: When and Why do We Forgive

A cream-colored ceramic bowl repaired with gold kintsugi veins on a rustic wooden table.

In a recent dissertation, Kirsten Acker found that we’re willing to forgive those who harm us when they feel guilt and regret…

Read more via Forgiveness: When and Why do We Forgive.

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Kindergarten, St. Louis, 1905

Incredible pictures from Retronaut via Kindergarten, St. Louis, 1905.

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Want to Live Longer? Cook at Home, Says New Study

Alltop Organic RSS via Want to Live Longer? Cook at Home, Says New Study. We’re doing more and more live foods every day…

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Poppy’s Purple Passion

Pops Digital via Poppy’s Purple Passion.

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Celebrate Your Empowerment!

The Daily Love via Visual Inspiration: Celebrate Your Empowerment!.

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Times of Reprogramming

“Do not ask for success unless you’re ready to conquer the behaviors that would sabotage success.” Melody Beattie via Language of Letting Go – May 22 – Times of Reprogramming – SoberRecovery : Alcoholism Drug Addiction Help and Information.

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Be a Master of Where You Are Now

“Have respect for yourself, and patience and compassion.  With these, you can handle anything.” Jack Kornfield. Go to the source: Be a Master of Where You Are Now | Tiny Buddha: Wisdom Quotes, Letting Go, Letting Happiness In.

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Your working habits before a deadline?

To this add blogging! Lead.Learn.Live. via Your working habits before a deadline?.

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Why It’s Easier Than You Think

Nicholas Bate says “Your brain has a WCSG: a Worst Case Scenario Generator. And it’s cool; it saves your life several times a week by assuming that cars won’t slow down, those mushrooms are not edible and that it’s worth paying for insurance. But it does kick-in at awkward times. It truly doesn’t crave change. It tends to assume the staus quo has worked so is a good place to be. That’s why you need to remember that many situations are a whole lot easier than the WCSG is projecting in your mind. It is easier to get a new job, start a business, get super healthy, write a book, end that crappy relationship, than you think. Literally. Ahhh…but…how do you know the valid difference between a real WCS and just an unhelpful one? Down time. You’ve got to have some down time. Not TV, not a glass of wine. Not even five-a-side football. These are all fun but they are not the down down time we need here: real data deprivation time so what is important can really surface. And when you get into that zone, some call it meditation, you’ll know. Absolutely simultaneously in heart and gut that it is absolutely easier than (you were) thinking. Bring it on.” via Why It’s Easier Than You Think.

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