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Here you are the GGSC Happiness Calendar for the month of July.
This month’s theme is spreading goodwill and kindness.
So, let’s commit together to spreading both goodwill and kindness so as to make our part in bringing some happiness to our world!
“What is happiness but growth in peace.”
May Sarton
Go to the source to read the poem: The Work of Happiness: May Sarton’s Stunning Poem About Being at Home in Yourself
“There is a faith in loving fiercely
the one who is rightfully yours,
especially if you have
waited years and especially
if part of you never believed
you could deserve this
loved and beckoning hand
held out to you this way…”
Go to the source to read the rest of the poem and hear the author read it in his own voice: The Truelove: Poet and Philosopher David Whyte on Reaching Beyond Our Limiting Beliefs About the Love We Deserve
Healthy interdependence is a dynamic and balanced relationship where individuals or entities mutually rely on and support one another while maintaining their autonomy. Here are some characteristics of healthy interdependence:
Mutual Respect: Each party recognizes and values the needs, rights, and boundaries of the other, promoting a sense of fairness and equality.
Effective Communication: Open and honest communication allows for clear expression of thoughts, feelings, and needs, leading to better understanding and conflict resolution.
Cooperation and Collaboration: Individuals work together towards common goals, pooling their resources, skills, and strengths to achieve shared objectives.
Interpersonal Boundaries: Healthy interdependence respects personal boundaries, allowing each person to maintain their individuality, autonomy, and self-care.
Reciprocity: Both parties contribute and benefit from the relationship, providing support, assistance, and understanding when needed.
Trust and Reliability: Trust forms the foundation of healthy interdependence, where each party can rely on the other to fulfill their commitments and keep their word.
Encouragement and Empowerment: Healthy interdependence involves supporting and empowering each other’s personal growth, success, and well-being.
Remember, healthy interdependence is about balance and cooperation, where the needs and well-being of both parties are equally valued and fostered. By the way, if you enjoyed these thoughts, you might also enjoy a previous post on how a healthy relationship is like taking a bike ride with your partner…
Attachment theory, developed by psychologist John Bowlby, proposes that individuals develop specific attachment styles based on their early experiences with caregivers. Insecure attachment styles are characterized by difficulties in forming and maintaining healthy relationships. There are three main types of insecure attachment styles:
Anxious-Preoccupied Attachment: Individuals with this attachment style often feel a constant need for reassurance and fear abandonment. They may be clingy, possessive, and highly emotional in their relationships. They tend to exaggerate problems and seek constant validation from their partners.
Dismissive-Avoidant Attachment: People with this attachment style are uncomfortable with emotional intimacy and tend to avoid it. They may appear emotionally distant, self-reliant, and dismissive of their own or others’ needs. They often value independence and may have difficulty relying on others.
Fearful-Avoidant Attachment: Individuals with this attachment style have a mix of anxious and avoidant traits. They desire close relationships but are afraid of intimacy and potential rejection. They may have low self-esteem, struggle with trust, and frequently experience a push-pull dynamic in their relationships.
It’s important to note that attachment styles can evolve and change over time with self-awareness and personal growth. Understanding your attachment style can provide insights into your relationship patterns and help you cultivate healthier and more fulfilling connections with others.
This bears repeating…
My friend RJ is always good for an epiphany or two every time we talk. Yesterday he introduced me to Edith Eva Eger, author of The Choice. She says:
I am Dr. Edith Eva Eger. Since my childhood days in Hungary, friends and family have called meEdie. We lived a ‘normal life’, a happy life, uneventful in its quiet bliss. Then it was slowly, yet suddenly, all taken away, altering the course of my life forever.
Edith Eva Eger
Hear her talk about her choice…
Now that you’ve been introduced to Edith, how will you respond?
It is not about finding someone who does not trigger you. It is about finding someone who you feel safe being triggered by. Source: The Oddly Healthy Reason People Choose Partners Who ‘Trigger’ Past Wounds
Tara Brach writes “while we might not directly love what is, there is a pathway to this inner freedom. As we explore in this meditation, we begin with allowing the changing sensations and emotions to move through us, just as they are. As this allowing presence deepens, it becomes suffused with the tenderness of love”…
In this choiceless, never ending flow of life
Dorothy Hunt
There is an infinite array of choices
One alone brings happiness
To love what is.
Growth, freedom, and fulfillment come from doing whatever we dedicate our time to with our full awareness, commitment, and purpose.
Interesting! I posted this over 10 years ago and just stumbled over it again. I still like the thoughts it contains…
I might lose a friend or two over this post, but over the weekend, I read an article by Dr. Steve McSwain on the Huffington Post and it rocked my world! I curate it here:
To those who know me, it is no surprise that I was born with a WHY chromosome.
Because I was so fortunate as to travel the world during my teen years…those highly impressionable years…I’ve seen things, heard things, experienced things that became fertile soil to my many questions.
I was raised in a Southern Baptist pastor’s home. Everyone I knew was Christian. Most were Baptist. Even if you did not go to church, you regarded yourself as Christian and, very often, as Baptist, too. So, the nearest thing to me of a person of another “religion” was a Catholic.
Yet, on more than one occasion, I’ve stood with thousands of other actual Catholics in St…
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Raffaello Palandri shares…
There are many things we can do to grow and live a happier life. One of the best is choosing to be and love rather than to have.
‘Our deepest fears are like dragons guarding our deepest treasure.’ Rainer Maria Rilke
“During the Cold War, 60 years ago, John F. Kennedy sparked hope with a legendary speech given in West Berlin, after the Berlin Wall came up.” Did he really say ‘I am a jelly donut’? Go to the source: The story behind John F. Kennedy’s ‘Ich bin ein Berliner’
I’ve been spending a lot of time lately trying to understand my anxious attachment style. Ashley Berges is a trusted source for great advice as you’ll see here:
The story of Pattie Boyd, Eric Clapton, and George Harrison is heartbreaking and fascinating. It led Eric and George to write some of the greatest love songs of all time such as Layla, Something, and Wonderful Tonight. This video follows their relationships in the 1960s and 1970s and the music that came out of this time.
I have posted on this topic before…
“If your vision of your life centers on your highest values, you will be aligned with your dharma far above everyday existence. Whatever the values are—love, creativity, service, spiritual growth, beauty, or whatever you choose—dedicating yourself to the highest values unites purpose and inner growth as nothing else can.” Deepak Chopra
Source: How to Live a ‘Good Life’ (Almost Every Single Day) – Tiny Buddha
“Only 5% of the stuff in our universe is made up of normal matter, but that is where most of us put 100% of our focus and attention. This creates an illusion of separateness where we believe we are alone and that when our material body dies, that’s the end. We even call this stuff “matter” because we believe it is all that matters. But, the other 95% of stuff in our universe is made up of energies and a mysterious dark matter, which actually govern our universe, our bodies, our experiences and our lives. This non-material universe can also be called the spiritual universe. As we tap into this spiritual dimension, we start to see how all things are connected, we see relationships, we feel energies, we sense intuition, and we discover the true nature of our mind. Todd Perelmuter takes us on a spiritual journey, from Aloneness to Oneness, where borders and barriers disappear, and open hearts and open minds take hold. It takes us to a place where anger, greed, hatred and fear cease to be, and only love, joy, peace and gratitude remain. Todd Perelmuter studied meditation and mindfulness from world-renowned teachers around the world for over 9 years. Upon his return to the States, he created EastWesticism, a nonprofit dedicated to helping everyone reach their highest potential and lead a peaceful, calm, and stress-free life.
I recently connected with a very interesting person on WordPress; Raffaello Palandri. You can find his website here. He also has authored a few books that I’m interested in digging into. You can find them on Amazon…
Both are free for Amazon Unlimited customers…
Fairy tales are wonderful … but they’re not real…
“Someday my prince/princess will come, and they will be the one that will complete me” comes originally from Plato, in his writing The Symposium.
His character Aristophanes proclaims: “According to Greek mythology, humans were originally created with four arms, four legs, and a head with two faces. Fearing their power, Zeus split them into two separate parts, condemning them to spend their lives in search of their other halves … ‘Love’ is the name for our pursuit of wholeness, for our desire to be complete.”
This is a huge burden to bear if you think about it like that, and even Plato himself didn’t think that people could live up to the expectation.” Source: If You Believe This About Love, You’re Going To Fail At It
Raffaello Palandri writes…
Today it’s Summer Solstice in the Northern Hemisphere (and of course, Winter Solstice in the Southern Hemisphere), let’s celebrate it!
Today the star we orbit around reaches its highest point in the Northern sky, marking the longest day and the shortest night of the year.
Dating back thousands of years, the Summer Solstice has been revered and celebrated by diverse cultures around the world. Ancient civilizations, such as the Egyptians, Greeks, and Celts, recognized this solstice as a pivotal moment of transition and renewal.
These ancient cultures have often linked this day with the forces of fertility, growth, and abundance.
One of the most famous ancient cult places and observatories is the Neolithic monument found in Stonehenge, England, which is aligned with the sunrise on the solstice, allowing the first rays of sunlight to penetrate its stone formations. Even if we still ignore the exact…
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Here’s a valuable resource I have found along the way. The Learn Buddhism podcast:
Bright, shiny objects! 
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