5 Times Your Partner Gaslighted You Without You Noticing

I find the third instance most interesting: “Not acknowledging your feelings and thoughts and trivializing your emotions is a technique that allows a gaslighter to emotionally exploit you and gain control over your actions. When they see you being upset and emotional over something — especially something they did or said — they’ll rush to tell you “you’re overthinking it” and that “you should get over it”. That might give you the impression your partner is just trying to make you relax and feel better, but in reality, it’s an attempt to trivialize your feelings and make you question them as well as yourself. Over time, you might become hesitant of expressing your thoughts and feelings to anyone close to you, out of fear they’ll trivialize them just like your partner does. And that’s exactly what a gaslighter wants: to make you feel insecure and isolated.” Source: 5 Times Your Partner Gaslighted You Without You Noticing | by Margaret Pan | Hello, Love | Medium