Month: November 2012

SUCCESS: You don’t deserve success, you create it.

Craig Harper shares this from the intro to his new book:

Success is not about what the world – God, karma, the universe, society, the government or your parents – owe you; it’s about what YOU do with what you’ve been given. In this moment. And every moment. Success is not about how many motivational books you read, workshops you attend, conversations you have, goals you set, promises you make or how much self-help crap you manage to memorise; it’s about your thinking, choices, behaviours, resilience and results over time. It’s about what you do with what you know. It’s about the application of the information. It’s about knowing what success is for you – not your parents, partner, friends or peers. It’s about how uncomfortable you’re prepared to get and for how long. It’s about stepping out of your ego and into your potential. Out of fear and into consciousness. It’s about your ability to do what the majority won’t. To be the solution person not the problem person. To get up when most would give up. To ask better questions. To create opportunities not wait for them. To find your own truth and purpose no matter how popular or unpopular that might make you. To be courageous in the face of adversity and to live a life in total alignment with your core values.” via

SUCCESS.

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People Will Kill You Over Time

Live Life Quotes, Love Life Quotes, Live Life Happy

via People Will Kill You Over Time.

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Aspire Not To Have More

Live Life Quotes, Love Life Quotes, Live Life Happy

via Aspire Not To Have More.

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What is The Worst Mistake?

Stepcase Lifehack

via 30s Tip: What is The Worst Mistake?.

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Connecting the dots…

Calvin and Hobbes Comic Strip, November 27, 2012 on GoComics.com.

 

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Hardships Often Prepare Ordinary People

Live Life Quotes, Love Life Quotes, Live Life Happy

via Hardships Often Prepare Ordinary People.

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Jill Bolte Taylor’s stroke of insight

Yet another amazing TEDTalk worthy of your attention…

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The Magic of Gratitude and Acceptance

Another Melody Beattie I should have posted on Thanksgiving but it rings true every day:

“Gratitude and acceptance are two magic tricks available to us in recovery. No matter who we are, where we are, or what we have, gratitude and acceptance work.

We may eventually become so happy that we realize our present circumstances are good. Or we master our present circumstances and then move forward into the next set of circumstances.

If we become stuck, miserable, feeling trapped and hopeless, try gratitude and acceptance. If we have tried unsuccessfully to alter our present circumstances and have begun to feel like we’re beating our head against a brick wall, try gratitude and acceptance.

If we feel like all is dark and the night will never end, try gratitude and acceptance.

If we feel scared and uncertain, try gratitude and acceptance.

If we’ve tried everything else and nothing seems to work, try gratitude and acceptance.

If we’ve been fighting something, try gratitude and acceptance.

When all else fails, go back to the basics.

Gratitude and acceptance work.

Today, God, help me let go of my resistance. Help me know the pain of a circumstance will stop hurting so much if I accept it. I will practice the basics of gratitude and acceptance in my life, and for all my present circumstances.” via Just For Today Meditations » Daily Recovery Readings – November 22, 2012.

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I’m tore down…

Great song for where I’m at right now. Crank it!!!

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Please know that often what feels like the end of the world is simply a challenging pathway to a far better place.

notsalmon

via Please know that often what feels like the end of the world is simply a challenging pathway to a far better place..

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Watch “Peter Gabriel & Kate Bush; Don’t Give Up”

I think this is one of the greatest music videos [simple, impactful] of one of the greatest love songs ever [from two of my favorite artists, as well]. That’s a lot of greatest!

Posted from WordPress for Android

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Words

Live Life Quotes, Love Life Quotes, Live Life Happy

via Words.

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I hope that you find the answers you’re seeking

notsalmon

via I hope that you find the answers you’re seeking..

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Traitor Crowded Dragster

Bizarro Blog!

Get more here: Traitor Crowded Dragster.

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If You Don’t Control Your Attitude

Live Life Quotes, Love Life Quotes, Live Life Happy

via If You Don’t Control Your Attitude.

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Within Every Problem

Live Life Quotes, Love Life Quotes, Live Life Happy

via Within Every Problem.

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Star Power – Sunrise

Pops Digital

via Star Power – Sunrise.

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Letting Go of Sh*tty Relationships

Joshua Fields Millburn writes:

Some relationships are incredibly pernicious. We often develop relationships out of convenience, without considering the traits necessary to build a successful bond with another person—important traits like unwavering support and shared trust and loving encouragement.

When a relationship is birthed out of convenience or proximity or chemistry alone, it is bound to fail. We need more than a person’s physical presence to maintain a meaningful connection, but we routinely keep people around because … well, simply because they’re already around…

We’ve all held on to someone who didn’t deserve to be there before. And most of us still have someone in our lives who continually drains us: Someone who doesn’t add value. Someone who isn’t supportive. Someone who takes and takes and takes without giving back to the relationship. Someone who contributes very little and prevents us from growing. Someone who constantly plays the victim.

But victims become victimizers. And these people are dangerous. They keep us from feeling fulfilled. They keep us from living meaningful lives. Over time, these negative relationships become part of our identity—they define us, they become who we are.

Fortunately, this needn’t be the case. Several actions can be taken to rid ourselves of negative relationships.

Go to the source: Letting Go of Shitty Relationships | The Minimalists

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The folks at PRWeb have a great infographic I want to share with you:

There are many types of content that businesses can use for content marketing. Which types are best for promoting your small business could vary depending on the products or services offered and the consumers targeted.

PRWeb has created this matrix to show how different types of content can appeal to different consumers and offers facts or suggestions about each. The top shows the the different types of content, while the bottom explains how those pieces of content can be used.

via [Infographic] The Content Marketing Matrix for Small Businesses.

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Express your power gently

Cover of "The Tao of Pooh"

Melody Beattie writes:

Express your power naturally and as gently as you can.

When I started learning what it meant to take care of myself and to own my power, I talked loudly, spoke up, and yelled in order to set boundaries, limits, and to express myself. That was the way to get my point across. That’s how I’d showed people I meant what I said.

I had to say it loudly.

About five years after I started this process of learning what it meant to own my power, I met a bear called Winnie the Pooh. The book that introduced me was The Tao of Pooh. Lights started coming on. The seeds of new lessons began to sprout.

To own my power, I could quietly say what I meant. The clearer I was about what I had to say and who I was, the less I had to shout. Owning my power wasn’t something I had to plan out, premeditate, and obsess about.

The more I took care of myself and connected to myself, and the clearer I became, the more natural and easier it became to own my power. My power–including setting limits, saying no, refusing to be manipulated, and saying I’d changed my mind– often became a natural, graceful, timely expression of me.

There are still times in our lives when we have to be firm, sometimes forceful, and repeat what we’ve said, sometimes loudly. The quieter and more relaxed we can be when we say what we mean is usually in direct proportion to how much we believe in ourselves.

Let your power, boundaries, and expressions of who you are arise naturally.

Learn and respect the value of responding as gently, but as firmly, as you can.

God, help your power flow through me. Teach me to take care of myself gently, in a way that reflects harmony with myself and as much as possible, the people in my life.” via Just For Today Meditations – Maintaining A Life.

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The best of ‘what I see’ for 11/25/2012

  1. (When) Are You Neurotic?

    (When) Are You Neurotic?
    Todd Lohenry
  2. The human relationship system is guided fundamentally by needs for relational value, navigated on the dimensions of power, love, and freedom. Neurotic relationship patterns emerge when people adopt rigid styles or express extreme interpersonal reactions in response to fears that their relational value needs won’t be met. Susan’s needs for relational value drove her to respond in a maladaptive way. Individuals who hide in their apartments out of social anxiety, individuals who hunt for any signs of betrayal, and individuals who vacillate between being needy and fearing control all engage in neurotic relational patterns in that they each are attempting to manage their needs for relational value, but are doing so in a way that ultimately produces intense conflict or pushes others away leaving such needs fundamentally unmet. Our defenses are the way we manage tension between conflicting goals and filter stuff out of our full consciousness. The defensive system tries to bring harmony to the various other systems of adaptation, but sometimes does so at significant costs. Two very common defenses are repression and rationalization. Repression is when material is blocked out of self-conscious recognition (see here for an example). Rationalization is when we make up reasons that hide our true needs or feelings. Research on cognitive dissonance offers some compelling examples, and I highly recommend the book, Mistakes were Made but Not by Me, for an excellent analysis of ego defensive processes via rationalization and how such processes lead to maladaptive patterns.
    (When) Are You Neurotic? | Psychology Today
    Fri, Nov 23 2012 08:53:51
  3. 1929: Field of children, Germany

    1929: Field of children, Germany I realize that this is kind of a morbid thought, but I couldn’t help but think that 10 to 15 years later…
    Todd Lohenry
  4. Neurotic emotional patterns come in two basic flavors, over-regulated (meaning suppressed and not expressed) and under-regulated (meaning hyper-sensitized and over-expressed). Feeling states per se are almost never bad. However, feeling states can become hyperactive (or chronically accessible) such that they can be triggered at the slightest stimuli and can then dominate the individual’s mind set. Individuals with depressive or anxious disorders are generally under-regulated in those feeling states and need help containing them. Often, however, the problem isn’t that an individual is feeling too much, but that he or she is walled off from some or all of their emotions. Some common examples are the “always nice” person who “never” feels angry, the competitor who attacks others instead of feeling shame, the unemotional distancing person who can’t feel anything at all. These individuals usually have a form of “affect phobia,” which is maladaptive because it blocks them from key aspects of their human experience.
    (When) Are You Neurotic? | Psychology Today
    Fri, Nov 23 2012 08:53:19
  5. Clear Your Mind of Can’t

    Greatist – Health and Fitness Articles, News, and Tips via Poster: Clear Your Mind of Can’t.
    Todd Lohenry
  6. Neurotic habits are automatic or ritualized patterns of overt behavior that people engage in to alleviate anxiety and provide a sense of familiar security. The problem is that, carried out over the long term, the habitual patterns are maladaptive. A classic example is the anxious drinker. Stressed all day, riddled with achievement and relational anxieties, alcohol becomes a short term, medicating balm. Unfortunately over time, it comes with significant costs (hangovers, weight gain, health problems, etc). Binging and purging, ritualistic ordering or cleaning, nail biting or trichotillomania (hair pulling) are all common examples of neurotic, maladaptive habits.
    (When) Are You Neurotic? | Psychology Today
    Fri, Nov 23 2012 08:52:49
  7. Challenge: Buy Nothing Until 2013

    Challenge: Buy Nothing Until 2013 Leo Babauta has an interesting answer to this season of rampant consumerism. Don’t buy anything except …
    Todd Lohenry
  8. I don’t know why…

    I don’t know why I find bits ships out on Lake Michigan fascinating. I just know that I do. Here is one heading to winter port… Posted …
    Todd Lohenry
  9. Sometimes Removing Some People

    Live Life Quotes, Love Life Quotes, Live Life Happy via Sometimes Removing Some People.
    Todd Lohenry
  10. One Smile Can Start A Friendship

    What Will You Start Today? via One Smile Can Start A Friendship.
    Todd Lohenry
  11. Thank you…

    Reblogged from Lead.Learn.Live.: …for your inspiring posts, your comments, your friendship and your followership. B.G. captured my thou…
    Todd Lohenry

  12. Images-amazon
    Fri, Nov 23 2012 05:39:40
  13. “When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won’t be the victim of needless suffering.” ~Miguel Ruiz
    Loving Your Whole Body, Even the Jiggly Parts | Tiny Buddha
    Fri, Nov 23 2012 05:26:17

  14. Tinybuddha
    Fri, Nov 23 2012 05:25:58
  15. “Worthiness, in very simple terms, means, I have found a way to let the Energy reach me, the Energy that is natural, reach me. Worthiness, or unworthiness, is something that is pronounced upon you by you. You are the only one that can deem yourself worthy or unworthy. You are the only one who can love yourself into a state of allowing, or hate yourself in a state of disallowing. There is not something wrong with you, nor is there something wrong with one who is not loving you. You are all just, in the moment, practicing the art of not allowing, or the art of resisting.” – Esther Hicks
    Today’s Quotes: Let go of your unworthiness!
    Fri, Nov 23 2012 05:19:46

  16. Lifehack
    Fri, Nov 23 2012 05:25:40
  17. “Challenges come so we can grow and be prepared for things we are not equipped to handle now. When we face our challenges with faith, prepared to learn, willing to make changes, and if necessary, to let go, we are demanding our power be turned on.” – Iyanla Vanzant
    Today’s Quotes: Let go of your unworthiness!
    Fri, Nov 23 2012 05:18:47

  18. Dilbert
    Fri, Nov 23 2012 05:12:54
  19. Create Healthy Habits!

    The Daily Love via Visual Inspiration: Create Healthy Habits!.
    Todd Lohenry

  20. WordPress
    Fri, Nov 23 2012 05:38:01
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