Tag: Wisdom

…on 12 of life’s most important lessons

David Kanigan knocks it out of the part with this one…

“The more we know about ourselves, the more power we have to behave better. Humility is underrated. We each have an infinite capacity for self-deception — countless unconscious ways we protect ourselves from pain, uncertainty, and responsibility — often at the expense of others and of ourselves. Endless introspection can turn into self-indulgence, but deepening self-awareness is essential to freeing ourselves from our reactive, habitual behaviors.” Go to the source for 11 more: Twelve of life’s most important lessons… – Lead.Learn.Live..

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…on feeling good

Todd Lohenry, e1evation, llc, Personal Digital Coaching, 'personal news aggregation'“Make yourself feel good. It’s our job to first make ourselves feel better and then make ourselves feel good. Recovery is not only about stopping painful feelings; it is about creating a good life for ourselves. We don’t have to deny ourselves activities that help us feel good. Going to meetings, basking in the sun, exercising, taking a walk, or spending time with a friend are activities that may help us feel good. We each have our list. If we don’t, we’re now free to explore, experiment, and develop that list. When we find a behavior or activity that produces a good feeling, put it on the list. Then, do it frequently. Let’s stop denying ourselves good feelings and start doing things that make us feel good. Today, I will do one activity or behavior that I know will create a good feeling for me. If I’m uncertain about what I like, I will experiment with one behavior today.” via Beattie, Melody (2009-12-15). The Language of Letting Go (Hazelden Meditation Series) (p. 126). Hazelden. Kindle Edition.

Today I’ll be working hard on making myself feel good even though my wife is far away and I miss her terribly. What ‘feel good challenge will you over come today?

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Create your day!

Mastin Kipp shares this today…

“The quality of your life is DIRECTLY related to the amount of uncomfortable conversations you are willing to have.

Authentic expression means telling the truth. Your truth. What you think. How you feel. What you make up about what something means. What you see. What you don’t see. What you want to understand. This is authentic expression.

Sometimes it means admitting when you are wrong. Sometimes it means saying no. Sometimes it means opening your heart; sometimes it means setting a boundary and walking away.

We know inside. We always know.

When we make the outside world, other people’s opinions or forms more important than trusting our intuition and expressing ourselves authentically, we start to get off track. If we do it long enough, we begin to believe that things will never change because we don’t trust ourselves enough to make the change.

Most people live unrealized lives because they are too afraid to express themselves authentically. It takes courage. Not everyone is going to like it. You may make some people mad, piss some people off and make others happy beyond measure.” via The Daily Love — Create your day!.

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How to Live Your Dream When You’re Scared to Death

“There is a tragedy in our world today. Most people aren’t living their dreams, and the reason is simple: fear. They’re scared to be who they are.

When you endeavor to find your life’s work, there is a lot at risk:

  • You could fail.
  • You could lose the respect of your friends.
  • You could go broke.

You could mess up in a hundred different ways. But—and this is important—you could also succeed. And until you start living into your calling, you’re robbing the world of a gift.” Go to the source: How to Live Your Dream When You’re Scared to Death | Michael Hyatt.

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Did you know…

…that otters hold hands while they are sleeping so they don’t drift apart from one another? Neither did I. Otters holding hands – YouTube.

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Deepening your expertise

Some good thoughts for my WordPress.com community…

Deepening your expertise – YouTube.

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…on Resentment

“It can be tough to stop resenting someone. It takes a delib­erate decision—an oomph—to turn our thinking around. For starters, it can be helpful to remember that those around us eventually grow weary of listening to us whine, even if we were wronged. There is a point where enough is enough.

We need to feel our emotions. We don’t want to get into repression or denial, but once we’ve felt the emotion, it’s time to let it go and turn the situation around. Envy and ill will can be a constant undercurrent in our thinking, if we don’t consciously seek to pluck out these emotions. It may feel like other people are constantly getting the good luck, that we have none, and that the good luck others are getting was somehow taken from us. It’s not true. And resenting others and spreading ill will doesn’t help us or improve our situation.

“There’s a lot of haters out there in the world,” a man said to me. “They don’t even know they’re spreading hate by the envious, bitter little thoughts they think.” via May 3 | Language of Letting Go.

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Spend Time With The Best

Good stuff from Nicholas Bate…

“Ensure that you spend time with the best. The best will encourage you, have no worries about sharing their enthusiasm for life, their ideas and within reason their time to help you. The best will pull you out of the doldrums, remind you that your complaints are-with all due respect they will politely emphasise-are perfectly manageable compared to the real challenges some have. The best will be do the basics as a given: being on time, being courteous, listening to really understand rather than judge. The best will remind you that good is no longer good enough, that excellence is a nice place to be as its not at all crowded and its just a decision away. The best will remind you its just like climbing a mountain: you do it because its there. And then you feel amazing. And you may well earn well, too. The best will remind you that nothings guaranteed but more is predictable when you take responsibility for you career rather than leaving it to your CEO, take responsibility for you life rather than leaving it to a smooth-talking politician and start reading every day. Hang out with the best. Listen to the best. Read the best.” via Spend Time With The Best.

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Are Monday Mornings Really That Awful?

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Hate Mondays? It may be your fault…

“I’m writing this on a rainy day and Monday. According to song, that should always get me down. But I’m actually feeling rather upbeat, and that’s just one of the surprising facts about the most-maligned day of the week: Recent research suggests that Mondays may not be so blue after all.

Monday Morning Blues?

In one study by researchers at the University of Sydney in Australia, people were asked how they were feeling at the moment once a day for seven days. Then on the eighth day, they were asked how they remembered feeling on each day of the previous week. Although there wasn’t much difference in actual moods reported from day to day, people recalled hitting a low point on Monday. This suggests that their memories were biased by their beliefs. They expected Mondays to be lousy.” Go to the source: Are Monday Mornings Really That Awful? | Psychology Today.

I actually like Mondays! They are the days I get to go back to work and do what I’m really good at instead of shearing sheep on the hobby farm! :-)

Carpe Diem!!! [and be thankful you don’t have any sheep to shear today]…

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Your Life Is the Sum of Your Choices

“We can’t always choose what happens to us, but we can always choose how we respond. Viktor Frankl, an Austrian psychiatrist who survived two-and-a-half years in Nazi concentration camps, made this case in his bestselling book, Man’s Search for Meaning.

It’s easy to subscribe to this in theory, but what about your specific situation? Are you willing to own it?” via Your Life Is the Sum of Your Choices | Michael Hyatt.

Now, what choices will you make today and are you willing to own them and the power to make them?

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Here’s Why It’s VITAL To Be 100% Self-Approved!

Mastin Kipp at The Daily Love has some good thoughts I’d like to amplify today…

With the uneducated approach to life, we tend to seek outward for things that are within us. Goals, intentions, desires, etc. are all well and good, but if the motive for why we want them goes unexamined, we can keep ourselves in a form of bondage.

One of the great mistakes in life is living life as an “If, then” statement. “If I get X, then I’ll be happy.” The goal is to be happy now.

So are you happy now? And if not, why not? Continue reading “Here’s Why It’s VITAL To Be 100% Self-Approved!” →

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What Sets You Free Will Also Keep You Together!

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Good stuff from Dave Elliott at The Daily Love this morning…

“The path to long-lasting and legendary love is in the courage to live with Real Authenticity where both parties speak the truth from a place of love, connection and compassion for one another. It requires a fundamental acknowledgment that both parties truly deserve to have their needs met and it’s built on a strong foundation of understanding and a desire to keep the relationship fresh, fun and ever growing forward. If you’re new at this, that could be a pretty tall order…but if you have a Coach who can guide you both to a win/win resolution…it may just be the very best investment in you that you’ll ever make. After all, if the quality of your life is directly related to the quality of your relationships…the question is…how great do you want your life to be?” via What Sets You Free Will Also Keep You Together!.

I’m thinking about this as my wife prepares to vacation in Italy while I stay home with the boys and the business…

:-/

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Rise to the Occasion

Melody Beattie posted this for today…

“You should have seen me when I was younger. I was something else then.”

“Just wait until I’m older and bigger. Then I’ll show you what I can do.”

If all we do is remember the strength of our past, then we’re denying ourselves the wisdom and abilities we carry with us in the present. And we deny the lessons that age teaches us about slowing down, being still, and letting things be the way they are. If we’re waiting for the future to be happy, we’re robbing ourselves of the vitality and joy in our lives right now.

Stop reminiscing about the past and anticipating the joys of the future that time when you become all powerful, bigger, and better than you are now.

You’re as good as you need to be today. Let yourself be who you are, then enjoy being exactly that.

Rise to the occasion of today.

God, help me be the best me that I can be.

Source: April 27: Rise to the Occasion | Language of Letting Go

Amen!

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Some days…

via Some days… – Lead.Learn.Live.. If the B word [Buddha] freaks you out, consider this: “For as he thinketh in his heart, so is he” via Proverbs 23:7a KJV – When thou sittest to eat with a ruler, – Bible Gateway.

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…on Refreshing Yourself

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“There’s a “refresh” button you can click on the computer when you’re on-line. It makes the computer operate more efficiently.

Sometimes we get a little sluggish, too. We’ve been push­ing too hard. Mulling the same thoughts over and over. Doing the same things over and over. Sometimes we need a change of scenery. Sometimes we need to refresh our thoughts with prayer, meditation, a few words from a friend, or spending some time with a good book.

Maybe it’s our bodies that need refreshing. We need a cold beverage, a brisk walk, a nap, or a hot shower.

Maybe we need a bigger refreshment: a weekend at a spa, a vacation. Even if our budget is low, we can pitch a tent in a park and take in the refreshing beauty of the world around us.

Look around. The world abounds with refreshments. The next time you get bogged down, stop pushing so hard. Do what you need to do to become efficient and operate with ease.

Refresh yourself.

God, help me understand the power of taking the time to refresh myself. Then help me stop thinking about it and actually do it.” via April 26: Refresh Yourself.

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How to Build (or Rebuild) Trust

“If you are in a situation where you need to build trust—or even rebuild it—here are four specific steps you can take. These will work with your employees, your colleagues, your customers, your vendors—or even your spouse.” Go to the source: How to Build (or Rebuild) Trust | Michael Hyatt.

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…on Making Yourself Do Uncomfortable Things!

"Gratitude unlocks the fullness of life...

“Many of us do not understand what we are responsible for and what we are not responsible for. We may believe we have to get into a tizzy when someone has a problem because it is our responsibility to do that. However, at the heart of most rescues is a demon: low self-worth. We rescue because we don’t feel good about ourselves.. caretaking provides us with a temporary hit of good feelings, self-worth, and power. Just as a drink helps an alcoholic momentarily feel better, a rescue move momentarily distracts us from the pain of being who we are. We don’t feel loveable, so we settle for being needed. We don’t feel good about ourselves, so we feel compelled to do a particular thing to prove how good we are.” ~ Melody Beattie via Today’s Quotes: What Joy!? Make Yourself Do Uncomfortable Things!.

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Trying To Be Perfect Is A Waste Of Time!

Trying To Be Perfect Is A Waste Of Time!.

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Life’s Inconveniences

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I just stumbled upon Laura Gardner’s blog and thought I’d share something good I found there…

We have expectations that life SHOULD go smoothly – the computer should turn on, the car shouldn’t break down, the plumber should arrive on time. It can be horribly upsetting when things don’t go according to our expectations. But a life without inconvenience is a magical reality. What is certain is that there will be inconveniences – some small, some large, but always some.

In the same way as we expect life to go as planned, we expect ourselves to always make the “right” choices. So often in the counseling room I listen to clients lament, “I should have known,” “I should have done it differently,” “I should have seen it coming,” “I should have done it better.” Whether it’s about their education, their career choices, their relationship patterns, or anything else, people see how they “should have” done it differently. Hindsight is always 20/20, right?

But fighting the unexpected is not the most productive or satisfying way to live. Wishing it were some other way can be very painful. How can we roll with it, and embrace life’s detours and roadblocks? Many spiritual masters of course have turned to the principle of being present. It sounds so simple, so obvious. Yet, the challenge of it is monumental. It was either Deepak Chopra or Eckhart Tolle who wrote about the task of doing the dishes, and how if we’re present to it, the task can be pleasurable. (The day I enjoy doing the dishes is the day that hell freezes over, but I digress…) via Life’s Inconveniences « Holistic Gardner Blog.

You might want to add her to your Google Reader as well…

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Sell The Goat!

Tony Meindl shares this today…

JUDITH LASATER, a wonderful yoga teacher and writer, tells a story about “selling the goat.”

It’s a metaphor for taking a step back and gaining perspective on your life when a situation is troublesome or stressful and it’d be helpful to see it with a new pair of eyes. She suggests, “selling the goat” – which simply means, to let go of your fixed, fearful hold on things and see the situation from a more accurate perspective.

Breathe.

I’m taking her idea one step further. To me, “the goat” represents not only our conditioned way of thinking about things and our habituated response from a negative, limited-view way of thinking, but also, it represents the multitude of distractions in our lives.

You know the ones…

Unsupportive friends. Negative lovers. Disrespectful agents. Toxic relationships. Two-timing partners. Mean managers. Horrible bosses.

These people are not helping or being supportive with where you want to go in life.

Sell it. Get rid of it. Recycle it. Cash it in. Pack your bags. Change your zip code.

Life is too short.

Get more here: Sell The Goat!.

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Love Yourself FIRST!

The Daily Love via Visual Inspiration: Love Yourself FIRST!

If you don’t do this, then how will you do this?

Mark 12:30 Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind and with all your strength.’[a] 31 The second is this: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’[b] There is no commandment greater than these.” via Mark 12:30-32 NIV – Love the Lord your God with all your – Bible Gateway.

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