Recovering from a painful break up?

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iPhone sex survey: 15% would give up sex before Apple’s iPhone

People have certainly grown more attached to their smartphones over the past few years — smartphone penetration has topped 50% in the United States and 10% globally — but things may be getting out of hand. According to a recent survey conducted by gadget trade-in service Gazelle, nearly 15% of respondents said they would rather give up sex than go for even one weekend without their iPhone. And it gets worse: 4% of those surveyed admitted to having used their iPhones while having sex. ā€œIt’s amazing to think about how much the iPhone has changed consumers’ lives in just five short years,ā€ Gazelle’s chief gadget officer Anthony Scarsella said. ā€œAs the nation’s leading high-end consumer electronics trade-in site, we know just how much people love their iPhones, and we’re happy to help them upgrade to the latest generation in the smartest way possible – by giving them cash for their current device.ā€ Gazelle’s full press release follows below.” Get more here:Ā iPhone sex survey: 15% would give up sex before Apple’s iPhone.

Hmmm. Now if it was an Android phone, that would be another matter… :-D

Celebrate your weirdness

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Never mind your past.

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Stop Doing Meaningless Work…Today!

Much of the work we do is absolutely meaningless, a wasteful use of our time that really doesn’t accomplish anything of value. Do you find yourself asking, ā€œWhy am I doing this?ā€, ā€œDoes this really even need to be done?ā€, or ā€œAm I creating anything of value?ā€ If the answer is yes, then in all likelihood you’re stuck in the cycle of being engaged in meaningless work that has little or no value to the world, your field, or even your company.

Meaningless Work Explained

Meaningless work is work which contributes nothing, and accomplishes nothing. It’s often busy work, ā€œshould work,ā€ dissatisfying work, or work that doesn’t really matter to you or the world. Often our propensity to engage in meaningless work is born of a fear of not appearing to be busy. We don’t want others to think that we’re lazy. It has become a matter of social acceptance and professional respect to be constantly busy, buried under the pile of ā€œtoo much work.ā€ Get more here:Ā Stop Doing Meaningless Work…Today!.

Any idea, plan, or purpose…

Any idea, plan, or purpose may be placed in the mind through repetition of thought. – Napoleon Hill

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Letting Go of Self-Doubt

A second shot of Melody Beattie for today:

A married woman who had recently joined Al Anon called me one afternoon. She worked part-time as a registered nurse, had assumed all the responsibilities for raising her two chilĀ­dren, and did all the household chores, including repairs and finances. ā€œI want to separate from my husband,ā€ she sobbed. ā€œI can’t stand him or his abuse any longer. But tell me, please tell me,ā€ she said, ā€œdo you think I can take care of myself?ā€Ā ā€” Codependent No More

Not only is it okay to take care of ourselves, we can take good care of ourselves.

Many of us, so confident about our ability to take care of others, doubt our inherent strength to care for ourselves. We may have come to believe, from our past or present circumĀ­stances, that we need to take care of others and we need others to take care of us. This is the ultimate codependent belief.

No matter where this self-defeating belief was born, we can release it and replace it with a better one, a healthier one, a more accurate one.

We can take care of ourselves — whether we are in or out of a relationship. Everything we need will be provided. We will have loved ones, friends, and our Higher Power to help.

Knowing that we can take care of ourselves doesn’t mean we won’t have feelings of fear, discomfort, doubt, anger, and fragility at times. It means we practice ā€œcourageous vulnerĀ­ability,ā€ as Colette Dowling called it in Cinderella Complex. We may feel scared, but we do it anyway.

Today, God, help me know how I can take care of myself.”Ā via June 19: Letting Go of Self-Doubt.

Few books have been more useful to me in my life — if any of the codependency scenarios resonate with you, I recommend you purchase it, the workbook and ‘The Language of Letting Go‘…

What We Pay Attention To

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If we can observe and understand how our thoughts are impacting us, we can change who we’re being and what we’re experiencing in the world.

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11 Essential Habits for Success

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What separates those who enjoy success from the rest of us? Learn 11 basic habits that are a necessity for enjoying great success in life.

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The joys of outer life…

Listening to the Language of Your Heart

If there is one thing I am certain of, it’s that our thinking can get in the way of our happiness.

Rather than be a receptor and transmitter for our instincts and intuitive knowing to flow through us, like the hardware of our computer mainframe that translates the information from our software, our thinking habits can muddle and confuse us—especially when it comes to matters of the heart. When you are concerned with figuring out your life plan and your passion, the subtle heart language can become drowned out by the brass band that plays in the mind. Until the frenetic activity of our busy, worrying mind is quelled, we cannot hear the whisper of the heart that says, ā€œI know what’s right for you.ā€ Ā It takes practice to get back to the stillness within that allows the heart to be heard.

Often buried under a mountain of expectation, fear, and outdated beliefs, our heart intelligence yearns to be heard. There are three ways, which I have identified for myself, that clear the pathway from my heart to my head. These methods allow me to receive the clear direction and intelligence of my knowing heart that speaks to me through my instincts and intuition.”Ā via Listening to the Language of Your Heart Ā« Positively Positive.

Are You a Saint or a Scorpion?

This is a long story, but one I thought worth sharing:

Once upon a time, on his way to the Himalayas, was a saint, a wandering ascetic. He came across a shallow river he had to cross. Just when he was about to wet his feet, he saw a scorpion helplessly treading the water, trying to come out of the river. It was almost touching the bank but not enough to gain hold of the ground. The sage saw scorpion’s struggle and decided to save it.

He picked up the scorpion in his right palm with the intention to place it on the dry surface. No sooner did he do that than the scorpion stung and rushed off the palm in frenzy, landing in the water again. It resumed its struggle to come out of water. The sage caressed his ailing right hand with his left. His body was in pain but his mind, calm.

Seeing that the scorpion could lose its life, the sage used left hand this time to lift the scorpion out of water. However, it panicked and stung again. Once again, it sped off the hand and fell in water resuming its struggle to come out. The saint was left with both hands singed with excruciating pain. He was not the one to give up either.

He tried again. This time, he cupped his hands together and lifted the scorpion in one swift movement. Before it could react, he safely dropped it on the land. The scorpion disappeared into the pebbles that lay near the bank. The sage felt elated, for, he succeeded in carrying out his resolve, for saving another life, in holding his forte. It was worth the pain he thought.

At a distance, oblivious to the saint, a man, surprised and shocked, had watched the whole episode. He promptly approached the sage and said, ā€œPray, can I ask you a question please?ā€

ā€œYes, you may.ā€

ā€œFirst of all, there was no need to save a scorpion. It does no good to anybody. Secondly, if must you save him out of compassion, you could have simply tried once. I’m surprised that even after it stung you so ungratefully, you persisted with your efforts. Why? How come you did not just stomp on it after it stung you?ā€

ā€œOh! That’s pretty simple,ā€ the sage replied softly rubbing his stung hands against each other. ā€œThis was a scorpion, someone really low on the food chain, a creature whose nature is to sting, to panic, to harm. It is known for not exhibiting any compassion. It is supposed to be weak. Whereas, I am supposed to be a saint, a person whose job is to love everybody, to only offer unconditional love and compassion. I am supposed to be the strong one, the one higher up on the food chain. With my principles and lifestyle, my philosophy and practice, my elevated emotional and mental state, I am supposed to cleanse and transform the other individual. Right?ā€

The man nodded.

ā€œWell then, a creature as lowly and weak as a scorpion does not change its basic nature, its traits, reactions in the presence of a holy man. Should I, the one who’s supposed to be a saint, let go off my righteous conduct, my demeanor in the presence of a scorpion? Am I now so weak to allow a measly creature change me, throw me off my principles and virtues? It did what it is designed for and I did what I’m designed for. It retained its behavior, and I, mine.ā€

The man prostrated at the feet of the sage and expressed his gratitude for the profound wisdom.

Living in this world, disagreements are normal, in fact, natural. You will meet people ranging from scorpions to saints, thankful to thankless, from weak to wild, and so forth. If they are able to provoke you, put you off, throw you off balance, they are stronger than you. When in any conflict, if you retain your goodness, you will emerge a winner. If you stoop down to their level, treating them the way they treated you, that invariably means they have won, that means you have become like them. Rarely worth it, if you ask me.

It is often not possible for a person to be one or the other at all times. Sometimes circumstances force you to sting like a scorpion, perhaps you may even repent later on; forgive yourself. A lot more important is to make a serious attempt to act like a saint. Whether you are a sage or a scorpion, it is a matter of choice, an independent choice. You have the option to retain your individuality. Strength comes naturally from such stance.

So, if you are willing, write in the comments below, whether you are:

  • (a) a sage;
  • (b) a scorpion;
  • (c) or you can be either depending on the situation.

If you wish to be a sage under all circumstances, you can. It requires mindfulness and a conscious effort. Nothing will ever bother you thereafter.

Source: Being Yourself: Are You a Saint or a Scorpion?

Montaine wrote: ā€œNo man is more monster or miracle than myselfā€ – unfortunately that’s true for me! I’d have answer with letter C right now, but as I’m thinking of the scorpions in my life, I don’t want to give up my power to be response-able and join them. ā€œAm I now so weak to allow a measly creature change me, throw me off my principles and virtues?ā€ If I am, my principles and virtues aren’t worth much, are they?

One more thought; imho the sage in this story isn’t quite so sagey as he comes out in the end. Think before you engage a scorpion! Perhaps his last action — quickly picking up the scorpion and setting it on the bank — should have been his first. Especially when “a creature as lowly and weak as a scorpion does not change its basic nature, its traits, reactions in the presence of a holy man”…

Questions? Feedback?

Making Life Easier

Melody Beattie writes:

Life doesn’t have to be hard.
Yes, there are times we need to endure, struggle through, and rely on our survival skills. But we don’t have to make life, growth, recovery, change, or our day-to-day affairs that hard all the time.
Having life be that hard is a remnant of our martyrdom, a leftover from old ways of thinking, feeling, and believing. We are worthy, even when life isn’t that hard. Our value and worth are not determined by how hard we struggle.
If we’re making it that hard, we may be making it harder than it needs to be, said one woman. Learn to let things happen easily and naturally. Learn to let events, and our participation in them, fall into place. It can be easy now. Easier than it has been. We can go with the flow, take the world off our shoulders, and let our Higher Power ease us into where we need to be.
Today, I will stop struggling so hard. I will let go of my belief that life and recovery have to be hard. I will replace it with a belief that I can walk this journey in ease and peace. And sometimes, it can actually be fun.

Source: Daily Meditation ~ Making Life Easier – Miracles In Progress Codependents Anonymous Group

Positivity tip!

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My new fun and helpful dieting tool!

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Fatherhood

Place everything you have ever learned or discovered in a box labeled thank you

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Aim at heaven and you will get earth thrown in

Aim at heaven and you will get earth thrown in. Aim at earth and you get neither. – C. S. Lewis

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Dont let someone else’s opinion of you become your reality

 

Dont let someone else’s opinion of you become your reality. Les Brown | notsalmon.

5 Ways to Let Go of Limited Thinking for a Limitless Life

Daniel Miller writes:

ā€œThe world as we have created it is a process of our thinking. It cannot be changed without changing our thinking.ā€ ~Albert Einstein.

As so often happens when I go on vacation, valuable insights come in unexpected ways. It happened again during a recent fly-fishing trip (through Fly Fishing for the Mind) with my adult son, Brandon, to the Sian Ka’an Biosphere, a government protected nature and wildlife reserve at the eastern tip of Mexico.

I got in touch with a major difference in Brandon’s and my thought patterns. Brandon thinks expansively about life’s possibilities—particularly those involving fun and adventure. His typical mind-set is ā€œLet’s do itā€ and ā€œThis will be a lot of fun.ā€

I, on the other hand, tend to think restrictively, like ā€œIf we do this, then we can’t do thatā€ and ā€œThat’s not what’s been planned.ā€

Had I followed my limited thinking during the trip, I would have missed out on some great fun and highly rewarding experiences. Let me share two of them with you.” Get more here: 5 Ways to Let Go of Limited Thinking for a Limitless Life | Tiny Buddha: Wisdom Quotes, Letting Go, Letting Happiness In.

I just had to share that juicy Einstein quote with you!

Confine yourself to the present

BrainyQuoteĀ via Confine yourself to the present. – Marcus Aurelius.

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