Who You Spend Time With Is Who You Become

This post from Mastin Kipp is so compelling I curated it in its entirety…

Community is everything. If you want to see a preview of your future, look to who you are hanging out with. This isn’t some moral statement about your peer group, it’s more of a vibrational or elevational statement.

You see, we live in a literal Uni-verse. That means that we become what we think and what we think is greatly determined by who we spend the most amount of time with.

Do you spend time with people who are constantly trashing your dreams? If so, then after time, you begin to believe their doubt and their fear; not because their doubt and fear are true, but because we are creatures of habit and our subconscious mind begins to absorb what we hear, especially the feedback from people we love and spend a lot of time with. And if you start to believe their doubt, then soon you will begin to take action from that belief in doubt and BAM – the manifestation of the belief of doubt becomes real. Not because it’s true, but because the belief of doubt became your dominate thought pattern and that thought pattern influenced your actions and your actions produced the outcome.

The outcome of our lives begins within us. If we water our dreams with doubt, then we think doubtful thoughts; take doubtful action and our lives become a living testament and proof of our belief. Then, what many people do is take this “proof” and use it to further justify their initial belief. But you see, what they’re missing this whole time is the fact that their initial thoughts of doubt is what created the outcome of doubt. They unknowingly participate in their own demise.

But, this can be prevented by hanging with the proper community of people. Let us hang with people who uplift us, who encourage us towards our dreams and who challenge our thought patterns. Let us not surround ourselves with people who always agree with us, but rather people who support our growth by challenging our beliefs and helping us break through to new mental and spiritual ground so that our lives may be enriched as a by-product.

Look around. Who are you spending time with? And more importantly, who are you believing? If you have a dream, do you believe people who are living their dreams and thus know the TRUTH about what’s possible, or do you take advice from people who aren’t living their dreams and thus will tell you it’s not possible.

Who you spend time with and who you believe is a major factor that will determine whether you are successful or not. Our aim should be to hang with people who are loving, who believe in us, who challenge us to go to the next level and who inspire us. Life is far too short to hang with people who are always negative and who want you to stay bitter and pissed off like them. It takes a lot of humility to admit when we’re wrong and to grow past our limiting beliefs. Let’s surround ourselves with people who support our growth, not necessarily the way we want, but most certainly the way we need.

Source: Who You Spend Time With Is Who You Become

Now, aren’t you glad you found this? I am!

:-D

May 7, 2012 0

…on Inspiration

“When inspiration does not come to me, I go halfway to meet it.” ~ Sigmund Freud

May 1, 2012 0

On People Who Do Not Dream…

“While dreaming may be a cultural universal, it is clear that some individuals recall few or no dreams over many years. These individual suffer no ill consequences from their apparent inability to dream. Dream recall apparently is not necessary for mental, physical or cultural health.” via People Who Do Not Dream | Psychology Today.

Perhaps you were expecting something different from the title, but as one of those people who remembers a dream maybe once per year, I’m glad to know that this alone does not make me insane. Follow the ‘via’ link above if you want to know more…

Dream Recall Techniques (meggella.com)
Super Vitamin Dreaming (ifsheepdreamt.wordpress.com)
Vitamin B-6 may help people remember their dreams [Neuroscience] (io9.com)

April 23, 2012 0

Fake it ’til you make it?

Fantasies are more than substitutes for unpleasant reality; they are also dress rehearsals, plans. All acts performed in the world begin in the imagination. — Barbara Grizzuti Harrison

Our minds mold who we become. Our thoughts not only contribute to our achievements, they determine the posture of our lives. How very powerful they are. Fortunately, we have the power to think the thoughts we choose, which means our lives will unfold much as we expect.

The seeds we plant in our minds indicate the directions we’ll explore in our development. And we won’t explore areas we’ve never given attention to in our reflective moments. We must dare to dream extravagant, improbable dreams if we intend to find a new direction, and the steps necessary to it.

We will not achieve, we will not master that which goes unplanned in our dream world. We imagine first, and then we conceive the execution of a plan. Our minds prepare us for success. They can also prepare us for failure if we let our thoughts become negative.

I can succeed with my fondest hopes. But I must believe in my potential for success. I will ponder the positive today.

via March 24, 2012 – Today’s Gift from Hazelden « cmmacneil.

March 25, 2012 0

Who You Spend Time With Is Who You Become

I stumbled upon this great post from Mastin Kipp. I hope he doesn’t mind, but I’m going to share it in its entirety…

Community is everything. If you want to see a preview of your future, look to who you are hanging out with. This isn’t some moral statement about your peer group, it’s more of a vibrational or elevational statement.

You see, we live in a literal Uni-verse. That means that we become what we think and what we think is greatly determined by who we spend the most amount of time with.

Do you spend time with people who are constantly trashing your dreams? If so, then after time, you begin to believe their doubt and their fear; not because their doubt and fear are true, but because we are creatures of habit and our subconscious mind begins to absorb what we hear, especially the feedback from people we love and spend a lot of time with. And if you start to believe their doubt, then soon you will begin to take action from that belief in doubt and BAM – the manifestation of the belief of doubt becomes real. Not because it’s true, but because the belief of doubt became your dominate thought pattern and that thought pattern influenced your actions and your actions produced the outcome.

The outcome of our lives begins within us. If we water our dreams with doubt, then we think doubtful thoughts; take doubtful action and our lives become a living testament and proof of our belief. Then, what many people do is take this “proof” and use it to further justify their initial belief. But you see, what they’re missing this whole time is the fact that their initial thoughts of doubt is what created the outcome of doubt. They unknowingly participate in their own demise.

But, this can be prevented by hanging with the proper community of people. Let us hang with people who uplift us, who encourage us towards our dreams and who challenge our thought patterns. Let us not surround ourselves with people who always agree with us, but rather people who support our growth by challenging our beliefs and helping us break through to new mental and spiritual ground so that our lives may be enriched as a by-product.

Look around. Who are you spending time with? And more importantly, who are you believing? If you have a dream, do you believe people who are living their dreams and thus know the TRUTH about what’s possible, or do you take advice from people who aren’t living their dreams and thus will tell you it’s not possible.

Who you spend time with and who you believe is a major factor that will determine whether you are successful or not. Our aim should be to hang with people who are loving, who believe in us, who challenge us to go to the next level and who inspire us. Life is far too short to hang with people who are always negative and who want you to stay bitter and pissed off like them. It takes a lot of humility to admit when we’re wrong and to grow past our limiting beliefs. Let’s surround ourselves with people who support our growth, not necessarily the way we want, but most certainly the way we need.

Source: Who You Spend Time With Is Who You Become

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February 4, 2012 2

You Already Are that Which You Want To Be!

The desire that you have in your soul to become whatever you want to become is real. It’s a part of you that is calling out to be seen, heard, felt and acted on. Whatever you want to become, know this: you ALREADY ARE.

So stop trying to become it. Instead, act as if you already are it and watch how magically life unfolds.

Instead of pining or buying into doubt – start TAKING ACTION as if you already are what you want to become.

In other words – BE WHAT YOU SEEK!

Start putting yourself in places and environments that are in alignment with your dreams. Want to be an actor? Get your ass to LA or NY and start doing what actors do. What to be a writer? Start taking actions that writers write and be in environments that writers are in. What to get in shape? Put yourself in health and fitness environments. Stop hanging out at McDonalds and start hanging out at the gym. Don’t bring unhealthy food into the house.

Our environment, far greater than anything else, dictates the quality AND trajectory of our life. If you want to be a painter, go be with painters and start creating rituals that a painter would have. If you want to start a business, be around other entrepreneurs, absorb news on entrepreneurs and get busy taking risks like entrepreneurs do.

Also, and this is VERY important – surround yourself with people who already have what you want. If you hang out with people who have never achieved the dream you’re dreaming – they are probably going to give you bad advice. Most people aren’t living their dream – most people are living their nightmare and so they will give you advice on how to live your nightmare, too.

Environment plays a major role in how your life will turn out – so does the types of people you are hanging with. If you want your dreams to come true, start hanging in places where they already are and with people who can help guide your way. It’s possible to achieve your dreams; you just gotta make sure you are on the side of making them come true, instead of doubting that they exist. Show people who are living their nightmare that it’s totally possible to live their dreams by showing them yours. Be a light.

Know that you already are the dream and start taking action until you produce the result in real life. Keep going. Try until it happens and don’t stop until then.

via thedailylove.com

November 10, 2011 0

As We See Another, So We See Ourselves

“We can’t afford to judge because as we see another, so we see ourselves.”

– Doreen Virtue, Virtue is a best-selling self-help author and holds B.A., M.A., and Ph.D. degrees in counseling psychology.

via thedailylove.com

September 14, 2011 0

Live out of your Imagination, not your history…

“Live out of your imagination, not your history.”

– Stephen Covey, wrote the best-selling book, The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People.

Watch Stephen Covey’s 7 Habits (leadershipforlife.wordpress.com)
The Nine Habits of Highly Healthy & Effective People (rightways.wordpress.com)

September 4, 2011 0

Your Time Is Limited, Do What You Love

“I am not what happened to me, I am what I choose to become.”

– Carl Jung, Jung was a Swiss psychiatrist, an influential thinker and the founder of analytical psychology.

via thedailylove.com

August 30, 2011 2

Something to ponder…

Are you about to start a conversation with a statistic?
Stop.
Emotion must lead, reason must follow. Because that’s how you commune with the human brain. Emotion first, reason second. Heart, then facts.
Please, REMEMBER THIS. Whatever your cause, whoever your audience, you must start every conversation with the emotional heart of your cause, not the facts of its scope or scale in the world. If you don’t create emotional space in the mind for your cause, there will be no place for your information to find a home. And if you do not create a social landscape for a relationship, there is no place for human connection.
If I had a dollar for every person who asked if this applied to them, I’d have a lot of money for my nonprofit. My answer is always this: There are no exceptions to the rule that you must awaken the heart to arouse the mind.
David Brooks says this so very eloquently in his new book, The Social Animal:
“Reason is nestled upon emotion and dependent upon it. Emotion assigns value to things, and reason can only make choices on the basis of those valuations. The human mind can be pragmatic because deep down it is romantic.”
Decision making is not a point in time, says Brooks: “We are primarily wanderers, not decision makers… We are pilgrims in a social landscape.”
So true. So well said.

via nonprofitmarketingblog.com

Hmmm. I’ll have to think long and hard about this one. How many times have I started a class or a presentation loaded with statistics? I’ve lost track!

WATCH: David Brooks Explains Why Emotion Isn’t An Impediment To Reason (huffingtonpost.com)
TED-David Brooks Talks About The Social Animals Without Balance (Video) (ducknetweb.blogspot.com)
“We are pilgrims in a social landscape.” (hopeseguin2011.wordpress.com)
The Social Animal by David Brooks – review (guardian.co.uk)

May 27, 2011 0

: Cover via Amazon

But here’s the reality: naps are a powerful source of competitive advantage. The recent evidence is overwhelming: naps are not just physically restorative, but also improve perceptual skills, motor skills, reaction time and alertness.

I experienced the power of naps myself when I was writing my new book, The Way We’re Working Isn’t Working. I wrote at home, in the mornings, in three separate, highly focused 90 minute sessions. By the time I finished the last one, I was usually exhausted — physically, mentally and emotionally. I ate lunch and then took a 20 to 30 minute nap on a Barcalounger chair, which I bought just for that purpose.

When I awoke, I felt incredibly rejuvenated. Where I might otherwise have dragged myself through the afternoon, I was able to focus effectively on work other than writing until 7 pm or so, without feeling fatigued.

via blogs.hbr.org

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