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From Story to Presence…

img_2943_2-tara-001A ‘quote*’ from Tara Brach’s meditation “From Story to Presence”…

“The reality is each one of us has caused hurt to other people and each one of us has been hurt by other people. But if we keep running the story of “You hurt me; you’re bad” or “I hurt you; I’m bad” all that happen is a looping that creates separation. What if instead we say the story is that I hurt you and we let that story be there, we don’t put it aside too quickly…

We let it be there and we feel what it feels like in our body. The very presence with that vulnerability awakens compassion. Now the trick — because this is where there can be more suffering is to take the story “I caused you suffering” and to get stuck on the “I’m bad, I’m bad, I’m bad”. We’re wedded to the story and we don’t have access to deeper presence…

So the pathway I am describing to you, and it takes a real sensitivity, is that when stories arise in our mind — to not to quickly go ‘it’s just a story, back to the breath’ because that is just another form of aversion and denial — is to let it be there a bit, but not to believe the story.”

She goes on to say “the story behind some of the more drama stories is really the story of Self. As we open to this presence, we wake up out of that core story that keeps us separate”.

You can hear the whole talk here:

*I tried to transcribe it as best I could; this is NOT an official transcription…

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Our aim should …

Our aim should be to not seek and chase for Love, but to BE IT. This means self-love first. True Love isn’t setting HUGE expectations on someone else that they always make you happy and fulfilled.

True Love is being so full of self-love and the Love of The Uni-verse that you have more than enough Love to hold your own darkness and light and the darkness and light of the other people. True Love is radical acceptance of yourself and the person you are in a relationship with.

Looking for someone to complete you is to deny your innate potential to be an already full and integrated being. You are giving someone else a power that only you have.

You complete YOU!

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    Todd Lohenry@toddlohenry
    I Love You… ow.ly/hIqUw fb.me/FyRmzPqr

    Thu, Feb 14 2013 07:48:46

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    Todd Lohenry@toddlohenry
    I Love You… ow.ly/hIqUw

    Thu, Feb 14 2013 07:48:44

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    Todd Lohenry@toddlohenry
    Be the Love! bit.ly/Wbyj5C

    Thu, Feb 07 2013 19:20:23

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    Todd Lohenry@toddlohenry
    Why Relationships Fail: 4 Tips to Make Love Last fb.me/1U2O6QDRh

    Thu, Feb 14 2013 07:39:13

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    Todd Lohenry@toddlohenry
    I love you… fb.me/2yjnxTXdV

    Thu, Feb 14 2013 07:33:54

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    Todd Lohenry@toddlohenry
    The Language of Love | Psychology Today ow.ly/hInsd fb.me/2aSpfK1UW

    Thu, Feb 14 2013 07:28:18

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    Todd Lohenry@toddlohenry
    The Language of Love | Psychology Today ow.ly/hInsd

    Thu, Feb 14 2013 07:28:16

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    Todd Lohenry@toddlohenry
    Woodkid: “I love you” – Lead.Learn.Live. ow.ly/hInpc fb.me/2kluOygB5

    Thu, Feb 14 2013 07:27:59

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    Todd Lohenry@toddlohenry
    Woodkid: “I love you” – Lead.Learn.Live. ow.ly/hInpc

    Thu, Feb 14 2013 07:27:56

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    Todd Lohenry@toddlohenry
    The True Meaning Of Love From A Buddhist Perspective ow.ly/hImpv fb.me/2cUazHCB5

    Thu, Feb 14 2013 07:21:40

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    Todd Lohenry@toddlohenry
    The True Meaning Of Love From A Buddhist Perspective ow.ly/hImpv

    Thu, Feb 14 2013 07:21:37

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    Todd Lohenry@toddlohenry
    A Love Letter to Myself farhanadhalla.com/a-musing/… via @farhanadhalla

    Thu, Feb 14 2013 07:17:08

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    Todd Lohenry@toddlohenry
    A Love Letter to Myself ow.ly/hIlcG fb.me/2tSEhlJTb

    Thu, Feb 14 2013 07:14:13

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    Todd Lohenry@toddlohenry
    A Love Letter to Myself ow.ly/hIlcG

    Thu, Feb 14 2013 07:14:08

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    Todd Lohenry@toddlohenry
    Chocolate Romance: 8 Reasons You Should Fall In Love With Dark Chocolate ow.ly/hIkV8 fb.me/1HCF82IWY

    Thu, Feb 14 2013 07:12:20

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    Todd Lohenry@toddlohenry
    Chocolate Romance: 8 Reasons You Should Fall In Love With Dark Chocolate ow.ly/hIkV8

    Thu, Feb 14 2013 07:12:18

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    WOW! thanks for the love on my blog post “The V Word” toddlohenry.com/2013/02/13/… @toddlohenry

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    Todd Lohenry@toddlohenry
    6 Tips To Create An Environment That Has ‘Love’ Written All Over It ow.ly/hGdAK fb.me/2d3NSMAsu

    Wed, Feb 13 2013 07:19:07

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    Todd Lohenry@toddlohenry
    6 Tips To Create An Environment That Has ‘Love’ Written All Over It ow.ly/hGdAK

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    Todd Lohenry@toddlohenry
    What You Think About Is What You Create, Especially In Love ow.ly/hBvCb

    Mon, Feb 11 2013 04:06:46

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    Todd Lohenry@toddlohenry
    No Matter How Difficult The Past Live Life Quotes, Love Life… bit.ly/WqHvDO

    Sun, Feb 10 2013 08:25:37

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When life falls apart

Gemma Stone writes this about our mutual friend Farhana Dhalla:

Sometimes a crisis is a summons to reconfigure our entire lives.

Even though we are resilient creatures, we are still easily hurt. There are times when living hurts. A lot.

There is purpose in pain; often life falls apart exactly when it needs to be rebuilt.

Our stories become burdensome & false.

Our defenses become exhausting & crumble.

When we are no longer able to maintain the stories and defenses that protect us, we can easily dissolve to bits.

When our lives fall apart, it’s the perfect opportunity to build something newer, truer, fuller.

When Farhana’s life crumbled, she used it as a catalyst for transformation. She courageously ventured within herself, found truth, and emerged glowing with love and light.

And that is why I rely on to her to pull me along when I’m dragging my feet and to shine some light when all I see is darkness.

Thank You for Leaving Me is being released today. Farhana’s story is a heartfelt, refreshingly real account of her journey through divorce.

If you’re moving through the end of a relationship, struggling with heartache, or questioning your relationship patterns, I’m confident this book will be helpful. If you’re hesitant, check out this video. If this sounds like the medicine you need, head over here to pick up her book.

Source: {gems} when life falls apart | Gemma Stone

Kudos, Farhana! For the book and a life well lived in the face of overwhelming hardship…

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Love People For Who They Are

There is something magical that happens when you tell someone you love them just the way they are. In my experience, it gives me freedom from beating myself up over past mistakes and contrary to what you might think, it makes me want to be even better! My life partner, however, thinks that it means that I’ll stop trying so she’ll never say the words “I love you just the way you are”. The answer for me anyway is that I need to love MYSELF for who I am, not for who I will be someday…

via Love People For Who They Are.

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Love yourself enough to give yourself this beautiful gift…

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via Love yourself enough to give yourself this beautiful gift….

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Your Other Half Is Within You!

Jenna Phillips writes:

We LOVE love. We write poems about it. We sing songs about it. We create lines that wrap around the building to watch the latest film about it.

We crave it, want it and search for it on a daily basis. At times, the search for our idealistic love – or soul mate – can be exhausting and disappointing. We go on unfulfilling dates and wonder why our fantasy of meeting our life partner while we both reach for the same apple at farmers’ market hasn’t happened yet. We people-watch and measure up possible contenders for the position of our “other half”. You know – that person who will complete us, make us happy or fulfill our innermost desires.

Jeez! That’s a whole lot of pressure to put on another person, and giving anyone that kind of power takes away from our own. What if you were to realize, in this exact moment, that you are 100% fulfilled? Yes, your other half is already within you. There is no separation of the incredible being that you’ve always been. Your authentic Self is whole and complete.

The truest part about your existence is pure love. You already have it within you, and you’ve had it all along. You don’t need to go find it from someone else to feel or be loved. It’s no one else’s job to make sure you smile. You can smile whenever you want. Smile right now. Do it! See how great that feels? That was actually 100% your choice. I didn’t make you do it. That choice was entirely up to you.

We have the ability, the power and the choice to acknowledge that we are perfect RIGHT NOW. When we accept that we are fulfilled, lovable and powerful – we seem to attract people who, in fact, add to those qualities. When we search for people to bring us up and out of our state of misery, we attract people who reflect exactly that. Instead of searching for love, own it. Instead of talking about it, BE about it. Instead of complaining about it, celebrate it.

Every person we encounter is a perfect reflection of what’s going on within us. Instead of looking for someone, and then trying to mold them into a “perfect something” we want to look at, what about splashing water on our own face? What about combing our own hair and straightening our own shirt? What about choosing to be the best versions of ourselves?

Well, luckily for us, since everyone is our reflection we get to look at LOVE, beauty, awesomeness and fulfillment if we choose to BE all of that. True love starts with YOU. Search no more.” via Your Other Half Is Within You!.

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Imperfection

Mastin Kipp writes:

“We learn from Tony Robbins that everyone’s core fear is that they are not enough, and that because they aren’t enough, they won’t get Love. And LOVE is the oxygen of the Soul.

This much we know already.

But then I thought about what made me successful and what made so many people I know successful and what I love about my favorite characters. And there was always something in common.

The imperfect person overcomes. It boils down to that.

So I had an “ah-ha!” on the phone with my client and I blurted out, “We become successful by admitting we are not perfect, rather than trying to be perfect and thinking that we’re not enough.”

And I think this about sums it up.” via OK, I just had a MAJOR AHA moment! Check it out!.

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Align Yourself with People Who Support You

“I align myself with people who support my growth. If you meet someone whose soul is not aligned with yours, send them love and move along.” Dr. Wayne Dyer via Today’s Quotes: Align Yourself with Ppl Who Support You!

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Practice Rapture

Meera Bai (1498-1547), Hindu mystical poetess,...

What if the measure of our value in this lifetime is not…

  • how tidy we kept our car
  • whether our kid’s nose had snot crusted on it
  • how flat our stomach was
  • the number of zeroes in our bank account

But how diligently we practice rapture? Not perfectly, but devotedly studying passion.” via Practice Rapture: Ecstatic Sensual Poetry from Mirabai – The Hot Love Revolution: Monogamy is the hottest place on earth.…

PS Michele Christensen, the woman who wrote this post, is one of the hottest, sexiest bloggers on the planet and she writes about the joy of monogomy at http://hotloverevolution.com/. Follow her blog — you’ll love it…

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How To Journal Gratitude

FinerMinds Go to the source: How To Journal Gratitude.

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Make you feel my love

When the rain is blowing in your face
and the whole world is on your case
I could offer you a warm embrace
to make you feel my love…

When the evening shadows and the stars appear
And there is no one there to dry your tears
I could hold you for a million years
to make you feel my love…

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Love what you’re doing and love it in front of others

“You rarely have time for everything you want in this life, so you need to make choices. And hopefully your choices can come from a deep sense of who you are.

The thing I remember best about successful people I’ve met all through the years is their obvious delight in what they’re doing and it seems to have very little to do with worldly success. They just love what they’re doing, and they love it in front of others.” ~ Fred Rogers

Source: Love What You’re Doing and Love it in Front of Others | Escape Adulthood with Kim & Jason

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First thing in the morning…

Sunrise over Tauranga Harbor, as seen from the...

“First thing every morning before you arise say out loud, “I believe,” three times.”

– Norman Vincent Peale, the amazing author of “The Power of Positive Thinking”!

“There are four questions of value in life… What is sacred? Of what is the spirit made? What is worth living for, and what is worth dying for? The answer to each is the same. Only love.“

– Johnny Depp, the raddest actor of our generation.

“The success of love is in the loving – it is not in the result of loving. Of course it is natural in love to want the best for the other person, but whether it turns out that way or not does not determine the value of what we have done.“

– Mother Teresa, was quite literally a Saint!

“The value you place on yourself is the value the world will give you. If you want to be compensated for your talents – value your time. If you want to be a valuable business – solve valuable problems. If you want to be a valuable lover – give your love away with no expectation of return. If you want be valuable to yourself – choose people who do the same.”

– Jackson Kiddard, author & polymath.

via Today’s Quotes: First Thing In The AM Say I BELIEVE!.

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Mistakes...

I love despair.com and the way they illustrate a point using absurdity and rich sarcasm. Visit their site — always good for an ‘lol’… :-D

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On Honesty

Honesty is the best policy.

Action: You are not your behaviors, You are not your emotions. Your behaviors are what you do; your emotions are what you feel. Each day, pause for a moment. Ask yourself what you’re really feeling. If you’re not sure, listen to the tone of your voice and your thoughts. Those are good clues. Many people find it helpful to write about what they‘re feeling in a journal or diary. Make sure no one has access to your journal, then have at it. Write it all out. Or tell another person what you ‘re feeling, thinking, having a hard time with. Sometimes sharing what we’re going through with one other person takes the pressure off

If you’re in a Twelve Step program, do the Fourth and Fifth Steps. If you’re having a lot of guilt or an unusually hard time with some aspects of yourself you might want either to get professional help or to talk to a clergyperson. Tell your I-higher Power who you really are. Sometimes honest awareness, acknowledgment, and acceptance are all that’s required. There may be parts of yourself that you want to change, but honest acceptance is how change begins.

Source: December 16: On Honest | Language of Letting Go

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Why The Story You Tell About Your Life Is Vital!

In reality we are all storytellers and the story we tell about our lives is what we believe, and then we act on what we believe and those actions create a result that continues to reinforce and backup our story! Crazy cycle right?

Tony [Robbins] asked a funny and also profound question yesterday. We were talking about the movie “Titanic” as a reference. He was joking around and said “If you saw “Titanic” 3 times a day for 10 years, every day, how would you feel?” Obviously, with a sad ending like that, most of us would probably not be jumping up and down for joy. We’d probably be sad, perhaps a little hopeless and feel like we’ve missed out on life and or love.

Tony asked, “Do you wanna go see a shitty movie 10,000 times?” and obviously the answer is no. But – wait a minute – what about the movie, or the “story” that you tell yourself about what your life is like? What is that story like? Is it empowering? Is it awesome? Is it inspiring? Or is it shitty and sad? And how many times a day do we tell ourselves these stories?

ALL THE TIME! So, we are watching and reacting to the story we are telling ourselves about our lives and then producing that result. What story are you telling yourself about your life?

Source: Why The Story You Tell About Your Life Is Vital!

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Let us choose more loving words and actions

POSTER-LET US CHOOSE LOVE

Let us choose more loving words and actions and create more love in our world please POSTER-LET US CHOOSE LOVE – notsalmon

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How To Live The Life You REALLY Want!

I started out to only curate a small part of Mastin’s post this morning but just couldn’t stop. Here’s the whole post in it’s entirety more or less…

Are there any habits that you have that are costing you the things in your life that you truly love? For example, do you love your family but overworking causes you to miss out on them? Do you want to fall in love, but your desire to not get hurt again holds you back? Are you pursuing a professional career because you want to get significance from one of your parents, even though what you are doing doesn’t make you come alive? Are you so focused on the future of where your relationship is going that you aren’t enjoying it in the present? Are you so focused on the potential of someone you are in a toxic relationship with that you ignore the fact that you are unhappy with it, but you cling to the idea that they could change?

What is your current set of beliefs costing you? Are there any behaviors you have that are preventing you from getting what you really want?

For example – did you start a business because you wanted more free time, yet that will never happen? Or because you think it will make you rich, and that will allow you to spend more time with the family, but you have no time for them? Do you work your butt off so you don’t have to stress about money, but no matter what happens, you stress about money? Are you in a toxic relationship because you want Love, but aren’t really getting any?

So many times we do things that are not really in our nature because there is an outcome we want that we could get with much more ease if we were to just accept our nature. There are lots of ways to get what you really want, but first you have to know who you really are! Some people have no idea who they are; others own themselves like crazy!

So, how do you find out who you really are? Well it would be a lot easier if I was working with you one on one, we could get to the core of it rather quickly. But here’s the rub… Remember back over your life to all the moments where you were really alive! What were they? What moments in your life were you totally happy, fulfilled, etc.?

Think back and look at the things in common that you had in each of these moments. These are the things you REALLY want in life. Freedom. Passion. Love. Connection. Growth. Contribution. Joy. Variety.

So, in your current life, what are you doing to GET these things that is actually the OPPOSITE of them? Are you settling to get love? Are you doing things that confine you to get freedom?

What if it were true that you could get everything you wanted now, just by changing your story about what’s possible? What if you could have all the Love you wanted right now if you gave up trying to prove your way into getting Love and just accepted that you were love-able now? How would that change your life? Are you in the rat race because you think winning it will give you something? IF so, remember that even if you win the rat race you are still a rat! :o )

So, how can you see that it’s possible to already get what you want, right now? Are you trying to get what matters most to you in a backwards way? Can you really get what you want now by changing your story about what you really deserve and what you have to do to get the thing you want most? Have you forgotten who you really are and lived a life to live up to someone else’s expectations?

How To Live The Life You REALLY Want!

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Love & Hate Can’t Occupy The Same Space…

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Image by doug88888 via Flickr

You’re either loving or hating – it can’t be both.

No one really understands that love and hate can’t occupy the same space until they experience real love.  Love is love and hate is hate. The two do not mix because, when put next to one another, love will consume the hate. Hence the phrase, “love conquers all.”

When you experience real love you find that you no longer can hate anyone else. What was hate towards others is now replaced with sympathy. You feel sorry for those that you would normally hate because now you understand that they are the way they are because they’ve never experienced real love. This type of love does exist because I have it. It started by loving myself, understanding my purpose and knowing my worth. After that, I was able to love any and everyone else.

Love changes things! Love conquers all!!

via thedailylove.com
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