Our aim should be to not seek and chase for Love, but to BE IT. This means self-love first. True Love isn’t setting HUGE expectations on someone else that they always make you happy and fulfilled.
True Love is being so full of self-love and the Love of The Uni-verse that you have more than enough Love to hold your own darkness and light and the darkness and light of the other people. True Love is radical acceptance of yourself and the person you are in a relationship with.
Looking for someone to complete you is to deny your innate potential to be an already full and integrated being. You are giving someone else a power that only you have.
It’s Not What You’re Seeing – It’s Who You’re BEING That Counts!
I wanted to share SOME of Mastin Kipp’s thoughts with you this morning, but once I got started, I didn’t know where to stop to I curated his entire post for you – it’s that good…
Let’s be SUPER clear about something: it’s not what you DO that matters – it’s who you ARE that matters!
In today’s world, we can get SO caught up in DOING! And we focus on the outward, the job, the career, the money, being important, etc., etc.
And then we come to a time, a breaking point, where all that stuff doesn’t seem to matter so much and we just want to be happy. We could find this breaking point at a young age or at an old age. But at SOME POINT, achievement isn’t enough; we want to be happy dammit!
And this is where the “spiritual” path begins. I say “spiritual” because it’s not really something to take so seriously. If we meditate perfectly, wear all the garb perfectly, chant perfectly, eat vegan, gluten-free and have our green juice, but we don’t have LOVE in our hearts, then we’ve missed the whole damn point.
I’d rather hang out with a Love-centered meat eating “not so spiritual person” than a passive aggressive righteous vegan who has the perfect yoga practice and a perfectly fitting lululemon outfit on.
Don’t get it twisted – the ego finds its sly way into the path. And all the rites and rituals don’t mean a DARN THING if we don’t have Love in our hearts. And if we have Love in our hearts and are being Love, then we don’t need the rites and rituals unless we want to do them because they help to remind us to BE LOVE.
It is in our BEING that we find ourselves and our purpose, not in our DOING. You can have all the material possessions in the world and still be lonely as hell, and you can be broke as a mofo and have Love and be the richest person in the world. Me, I want both! I want to have amazingly abundant material possessions, but first and foremost, I want to keep Love and connection in my heart and remain humble within physical abundance.
But the stuff, the form doesn’t freakin matter! What matters is who we are. What matters is how we show up. What matters is the place that we come from in our thoughts, ideas and communications. What matters is if we are serving or not. What matters is crucifying our egos day in and day out (not because it’s the enemy), but so our hearts can shine through.
Living from the heart space is the goal. And when we get there, nothing else is needed because we realize on an experiential level that we are guided and cared for by The Uni-verse. That all our needs are met and that even though life doesn’t turn out how we want it to, that life turns out how we need it to and that is SO FREAKIN RAD!
The ego’s desires PALE in comparison to what The Uni-verse has in store for you. Your ego can’t dream that big, or Love that big or imagine itself being used for THAT much service.
It’s not what you’re doing – it’s who you’re being that counts.
Source: It’s Not What You’re Seeing – It’s Who You’re BEING That Counts!
See what I mean?
Create your day!
Mastin Kipp shares this today…
“The quality of your life is DIRECTLY related to the amount of uncomfortable conversations you are willing to have.
Authentic expression means telling the truth. Your truth. What you think. How you feel. What you make up about what something means. What you see. What you don’t see. What you want to understand. This is authentic expression.
Sometimes it means admitting when you are wrong. Sometimes it means saying no. Sometimes it means opening your heart; sometimes it means setting a boundary and walking away.
We know inside. We always know.
When we make the outside world, other people’s opinions or forms more important than trusting our intuition and expressing ourselves authentically, we start to get off track. If we do it long enough, we begin to believe that things will never change because we don’t trust ourselves enough to make the change.
Most people live unrealized lives because they are too afraid to express themselves authentically. It takes courage. Not everyone is going to like it. You may make some people mad, piss some people off and make others happy beyond measure.” via The Daily Love — Create your day!.
On power…
Mastin Kipp of The Daily Love shares this…
If you are looking for reasons why you aren’t enough – you’ll most likely find them. If you look for reasons why you should quit – there are plenty of them there. If you look for reasons why it’s not working out – yup, you guessed it – that’s there, too. But, just because you find the evidence, this doesn’t mean it’s actually true. It just means you found something “out there” that, based on the meaning that you are giving events and circumstances, correlates with something you are looking for. The power here is that the MEANING we give the events of our lives is what controls the outcome – far greater than circumstance.
Go to the source if you’d like more…
The ‘higher power’ and relationships…
“A definition of Interdependence is, “a reciprocal relation between interdependent entities.”
The key word here is: “reciprocal”. Interdependence can be thought of as a relationship where each party gives and receives from his or her own internal overflow. Which is TOTALLY different than “codependence” which can be thought of as being “addicted to someone”.
Another way to look at it, spiritually, is this:
A codependent person makes someone else his or her Higher Power. An interdependent person knows that The Uni-verse is their Higher Power and keeps their focus on that, while choosing to be in a relationship with someone else who is also looking to The Uni-verse to fulfill them…
You see, when we make someone else our Higher Power, we are REALLY setting ourselves up for pain. This is a top cause of pain in relationships and of break ups. We are looking to someone else for something they can never give us – which is perfect and unwavering Love. There is only one place unwavering Love comes from and that is The Uni-verse.
The Love of The Uni-verse never changes; other people change all the time. When we keep our eyes on The Uni-verse and surrender to It’s will for us, we take everyone else off the hook for our happiness. We no longer seek to take Love from them, but to show up from a place of overflow and give Love to them. This kind of relationship creates two really great givers and FORgivers. This is the cornerstone of having an awesome and long-term relationship.
Are you making a person your Higher Power? Are you ready to take your eyes off of them and put them towards The Uni-verse and accept It’s perfect Love for you? Can you see yourself and those you are in relationship with as imperfect human beings who are fallible and Love them anyways, not because they are fulfilling your every need, but because it is Love that is who you really are? Do you think you might be addicted to someone?” Source; A Top Cause of Relationship Pain & BreakUps!
Of course for me, the Uni-verse is Jesus, but Mastin Kipp makes brilliant sense here. For me, anyway. As Gibran said “Do not say I have found THE truth, but I have found A truth”. Kipp and his site have really been a blessing to me as I try to take a healthier perspective on relationships…
Related articles
- Daily Recovery Reading – August 22, 2011 (12stepsthinkaboutit.org)
- Codependent Relationships (mademan.com)
Don’t Make Yourself Small – Contemplate Your Success!!
This morning, I curated Mastin Kipp’s entire post because it was all so good…
How do you make yourself small?
Do you always come up with reasons why things can’t happen? Do you always seem to be arguing for your limitations rather than you strengths?
Well, me too. And so did my friend the other night. We had dinner and they were talking to me about all these things they wanted to do, but they couldn’t make it happen. And since I’m always in coach/mentor mode, I couldn’t help but chime in and help. I was shocked to see how every idea I had to help this person was shot down by an excuse.
I’ve heard all of the excuses out there, and given myself plenty, too. You know the normal ones like:
I’m too old. I don’t have enough money. I don’t have enough time. Success doesn’t happen to people like me. It’s too hard. I’m not smart enough. No one will like it anyway. It’s too complicated. I don’t have the proper qualifications, etc, etc, etc.
What I’m suggesting is this… Be aware of these limiting thoughts, but don’t let them stop you. Be aware of the challenges in your life (cuz we ALL have them), but don’t let them stop you.
Wayne Dyer tells a story about how they used to make ships out of wood, because wood floated and metal sank. It wasn’t until they figured out that it wasn’t the material that you used that mattered, it is how much water is dispersed that matters that they started building ships out of metal.
What was before impossible is now possible just by looking at things a little differently. Instead of contemplating how things sink, it was the contemplation of how things float that lead to that breakthrough.
So I’m curious… in your life, are you contemplating and justifying how your life can sink? And… as a result, is it? Or, are you contemplating what’s possible? Are you aware of what’s going on, but not making it worse than it is. Are you dwelling in possibility or impossibility?
Today, I want to suggest that you start contemplating how your life can float or rise to the top, instead of sinking. I want you to be aware of your limitations and the challenges of your life, but not let them stop you.
Are you up for it?!
via thedailylove.com
Me? I’ve been making excuses but I have a company to run and a book to write and people to serve. How about you?
Related articles
- Laurie Gerber: 3 Steps to Facing and Chasing Your Fear (huffingtonpost.com)
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