20 Ways to Give Without Expectations

“The true measure of a man is how he treats someone who can do him absolutely no good.” Samuel Johnson

As a recovering codependent, I love to help and give but sometimes, even I don’t see the strings that are attached until it is too late! “Let someone tell a story without feeling the need to one-up them or tell your own.” Get more here: 20 Ways to Give Without Expectations | Tiny Buddha: Wisdom Quotes, Letting Go, Letting Happiness In. btw, like Lori’s #20: I’ve left this one open for you to write. How do you give just to show you care?

On time…

Clock in Kings Cross railway station

“You wake up in the morning, and lo! your purse is magically filled with twenty-four hours of the magic tissue of the universe of your life.  No one can take it from you.  No one receives either more or less than you receive.  Waste your infinitely precious commodity as much as you will, and the supply will never be withheld from you.  Moreover, you cannot draw on the future.  Impossible to get into debt.  You can only waste the passing moment.  You cannot waste tomorrow; it is kept for you.” Thomas Arnold Bennett via On time…………….

Look’s like Caleb’s going to high school…

Me at my 8th grade graduation in 1972. Apparently the mafia look was in style then — apparently the black shirt must be some kind of family tradition…

The cost of great pictures

Holy Kaw! Get more here:

The cost of great pictures: Awkward photographer stances.

The Victor

Pops Digital via The Victor.

Spoiler: The Faceboat Sinks at the End

Wow. How the mighty have fallen! Failbook – Funny Facebook Status Messages (Failbooking) via Spoiler: The Faceboat Sinks at the End.

GIGO

Escape Adulthood with Kim & Jason via Things Nobody Told You About Being Creative: Interview with Austin Kleon.

Talent < Table Salt?

Lead.Learn.Live. via Talent < Table Salt?.

Nonviolent Communication

Nonviolent Communication (NVC) (also called Compassionate Communication or Collaborative Communication[1][2]) is a communication process developed by Marshall Rosenberg beginning in the 1960s.[3] NVC often functions as a conflict resolution process. It focuses on three aspects of communication: self-empathy (defined as a deep and compassionate awareness of one’s own inner experience), empathy (defined as listening to another with deep compassion), and honest self-expression (defined as expressing oneself authentically in a way that is likely to inspire compassion in others).

NVC is based on the idea that all human beings have the capacity for compassion and only resort to violence or behavior that harms others when they don’t recognize more effective strategies for meeting needs.[4] Habits of thinking and speaking that lead to the use of violence (psychological and physical) are learned through culture. NVC theory supposes all human behavior stems from attempts to meet universal human needs and that these needs are never in conflict. Rather, conflict arises when strategies for meeting needs clash. NVC proposes that if people can identify their needs, the needs of others, and the feelings that surround these needs, harmony can be achieved.[5]

While NVC is ostensibly taught as a process of communication designed to improve compassionate connection to others, it has also been interpreted as a spiritual practice, a set of values, a parenting technique, an educational method and a worldview.” Get more here: Nonviolent Communication – Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia.

Boo had babies!!!

My favorite kitty Boo had 4 little kittens last night! Rodents beware… :-D

6 Simple Hacks to Increase Your Energy

Getting things done quickly and well requires mental and physical energy. The better more you have the better your results. This applies to all every area of life from getting in a good workout to performing your best at your job. Unfortunately, energy isn’t something we always possess. This is especially true when we’re under stress, haven’t gotten enough sleep, or are distracted by having too many things to get done.

In this article I provide 6 tips to increase energy. Some work immediately and others provide their benefit over time. I use all of them regularly myself. They’ve helped me get through 80 hour work weeks while running a start-up business without having to overstimulate myself with too much caffeine.” Get more here: 6 Simple Hacks to Increase Your Energy.

John Edwards, Guilty of Narcissism?

John Edwards official Senate photo portrait.

Narcissism helps us all get by in the face of adversity. It helps us believe in ourselves enough to keep going. We all have some of it, or we wouldn’t have survived this long. Entrepreneurs, actors, politicians and many professionals (doctors, lawyers, etc.) tend to have above-average rates of narcissism, because it helps them push forward despite repeated criticism, rejection, set-backs and occasional public humiliation.

In other words, they believe in themselves so much more and in what other people think so much less, that they can survive as risk-takers – and they are risk-takers. When they have a good idea, good talent and other good qualities, this narcissism helps them contribute to society from positions of leadership and power. You want your leaders to have some extra narcissism so that they can cope in protecting us from strong enemies and leading us forward in dealing with big problems.” Get more here: John Edwards, Guilty of Narcissism? | HCI High Conflict Speakers, Books.

What Are You Waiting For?

“Before someone’s tomorrow has been taken away, cherish those you love, appreciate them today.” Michelle C. Ustaszesk via Tiny Wisdom: What Are You Waiting For? | Tiny Buddha: Wisdom Quotes, Letting Go, Letting Happiness In.

Detachment means “freedom from emotion”

The Way You Make Me Feel
The Way You Make Me Feel (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Letting someone else’s behavior determine how we feel at every turn is irresponsible. Our emotions should be determined by us, not by someone else. But no doubt we have spent years confusing the boundaries that separate us from other people. Whether at work or at home, we have too often let someone else’s “insanity” affect how we behave and how we feel.

At first, it may seem insensitive not to react to others’ problems or negative behavior. We may fear they’ll think we simply don’t care about them. Learning that it is far more caring to let other people handle their own lives takes time and patience. But with practice, it will begin to feel comfortable. In fact, in time it will feel freeing and wonderful.

I will work on detachment today, knowing that in time the rewards will come. 

Waste of time?

Failbook – Funny Facebook Status Messages ( Failbooking ) via If a Bro Works Out in a Gym and Nobody’s Around to See It, Does He Even Exist?.

Honesty

Melody Beattie writes:

“Admitted to God, to ourselves, and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs.” Step Five of Al Anon

Talking openly and honestly to another person about our­selves, in an attitude that reflects self-responsibility, is critical to recovery.

It’s important to admit what we have done wrong to others and to ourselves. Verbalize our beliefs and our behaviors. Get our resentments and fears out in the open.

That’s how we release our pain. That’s how we release old beliefs and feelings. That’s how we are set free. The more clear and specific we can be with our Higher Power, our­selves, and another person, the more quickly we will experience that freedom.

Step Five is an important part of the recovery process. For those of us who have learned to keep secrets from ourselves and others, it is not just a step — it is a leap toward becom­ing healthy.

Today I will remember that it’s okay to talk about the issues that bother me. It is by sharing my issues that I will grow beyond them. I will also remember that it’s okay to be selective about those in whom I confide. I can trust my instincts and choose someone who will not use my disclosures against me, and who will give me healthy feedback.” via June 5: Honesty.

Time is $

Anderson Layman’s Blog via Great moments………………..

Are You Running Away from Yourself?

“No matter where you go, there you are.” Confucius. Get more here: Are You Running Away from Yourself? | Tiny Buddha: Wisdom Quotes, Letting Go, Letting Happiness In.

A reminder for procrastinators…

notsalmon via A reminder for procrastinators….

How to Make Your Summer Memorable

Escape Adulthood with Kim & Jason. Get more here: How to Make Your Summer Memorable.

Believe your troubles behind you.

notsalmon via Believe your troubles behind you..

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