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Love this quote! Thanks, Stephanie…

Stephanie Shirley's avatarThe Comm Entrepreneur

“Nature does not hurry, yet everything is accomplished.” Lao Tzu

So often in life, nature is something we first try to change and then try equally as hard to replicate. I might be among the worst offenders of this. I’m always looking for ways to be more efficient with my time, cut-out the waste and cram in just one more hour’s worth of work somewhere, somehow. But time and time again, this haste has led me to mistakes, accidents and set-backs that in the end required more of my time than if I had just tried to do things right in the first place. Just a few days ago I was inspired by the Lao Tzu quote, “Nature does not hurry, yet everything is accomplished.” Ancient philosophers have quite a knack for making the most obvious statements while lining them with an intensely deep meaning that changes your world in…

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Too Fabulous To Settle!

“A relationship isn’t going to make me survive. It’s the cherry on top.” Jennifer Aniston. via Dash Of Sass – Too Fabulous To Settle!.

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Sadness

Grief

Melody Beattie via:

“Ultimately, to grieve our losses means to surrender to our feelings.

So many of us have lost so much, have said so many good-byes, have been through so many changes. We may want to hold back the tides of change, not because the change isn’t good, but because we have had so much change, so much loss.

Sometimes, when we are in the midst of pain and grief, we become shortsighted, like members of a tribe described in the movie Out of Africa.

“If you put them in prison;’ one character said, describ­ing this tribe, “they die:’

“Why?” asked another character.

“Because they can’t grasp the idea that they’ll be let out one day. They think it’s permanent, so they die:’

Many of us have so much grief to get through. Sometimes we begin to believe grief, or pain, is a permanent condition.

The pain will stop. Once felt and released, our feelings will bring us to a better place than where we started. Feeling our feelings, instead of denying or minimizing them, is how we heal from our past and move forward into a better future. Feeling our feelings is how we let go.

It may hurt for a moment, but peace and acceptance are on the other side. So is a new beginning.

God, help me fully embrace and finish my endings, so I may be ready for my new beginnings.” via June 11: Sadness.

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The Relationships We Wish Would Improve

“When you stop trying to change others and work on changing yourself, your world changes for the better.” Unknown. via Tiny Wisdom: The Relationships We Wish Would Improve | Tiny Buddha: Wisdom Quotes, Letting Go, Letting Happiness In.

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LOL! Thanks for sharing…

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vulture

Photo Credits: fairy-wren. The White-backed vulture is an endangered species breeding in trees on the savannah of west and east Africa, laying one egg.  The vulture weight 9 to 16 pounds and has a 6-7 foot wingspan.  Like other vultures, it is a scavenger, feeding mostly from carcasses of animals which it finds by soaring over savannah. It also takes scraps from human habitations.

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Five Best Internet Radio Services

I love to listen to Baroque music while I blog [stimulates the brain, other physical benefits, etc.];

“Streaming music sites are a dime-a-dozen, but internet radio services—the kind where you press play, sit back, and enjoy music that you know you’ll love and only interact if you hear something you don’t—are a rarer breed. Sometimes you’re in the mood to just listen to music, not be a DJ. This week we’re going to take a look at five of the best internet radio services, based on your nominations.

For those times when you don’t feel like searching for something to hear or curating a playlist, internet radio services deliver on the promise to press play on a genre or song-based radio station and know you’re going to hear something you like. Sometimes you can interact with the station, other times you can’t. We asked you which internet radio services you thought were the best, you weighed in with dozens of nominations, and now we’re back to look at the top five.” Get more here: Five Best Internet Radio Services.

I usually use Pandora but lately, I’ve been trending toward Spotify because it’s more social and it integrates well with WordPress when I want to share music [although I do feel it’s too high priced!]. Follow the link to get the rundown on the top five — my recommendation? Pandora is the best value…

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Be truly artistic

“The more I think it over, the more I feel that there is nothing more truly artistic than to love people.” Vincent van Gogh via Anderson Layman’s Blog via more truly artistic………………..

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Live in your stretch zone!

notsalmon via Live in your stretch zone!.

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Every picture tells a story….

I miss you, too, Mr. President…

jeb610's avatarA Nine Pound Hammer....or a woman like you, either one of these will do

This past Tuesday, Nancy Reagan laid flowers on the grave of her late husband Ronald Reagan who passed away eight years ago.

May he always rest in peace.

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Song of the Week: “So Small”

Thanks for sharing; hadn’t heard/seen this one yet. Good message…

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What makes blogging so addictive?

:-D

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Why You Should Live Like You Were Dying

Nice post, Marie…

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Angel

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The acoustic kings

Love Coldplay. Love this music. Seems to me, though, that so many love songs are codependent by their very nature. The sentiment is nice, but can you actually ‘fix’ another person? I’ll just shut up and enjoy the song… :-D

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Thanks for the inspiration! :-D

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EM 2012 in 3D: Gomez köpft Deutschland zum Sieg gegen Portugal

Historical logo of the DFB, (Deutscher Fussbal...

“Es war lange Zeit ein zähes Ringen zwischen der DFB-Elf und Portugal. Doch dann traf ausgerechnet der Mann, dessen Einsatz bis kurz vor Anpfiff noch nicht sicher war: Bayern-Stürmer Mario Gomez.” Video hier: EM 2012 in 3D: Gomez köpft Deutschland zum Sieg gegen Portugal – Nachrichten Sport – Fußball – EM 2012 – WELT ONLINE. [For those of you who didn’t study German, Germany won the European championship 1.0 yesterday…]

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Codependency? What it is…

“Codependency (or codependence, interdependency ) is defined as a psychological condition or a relationship in which a person is controlled or manipulated by another who is affected with a pathological condition (as in an addiction to alcohol or heroin); and in broader terms, it refers to the dependence on the needs of or control of another.[1] It also often involves placing a lower priority on one’s own needs, while being excessively preoccupied with the needs of others.[2] Codependency can occur in any type of relationship, including family, work, friendship, and also romantic, peer or community relationships.[2] Codependency may also be characterized by denial, low self-esteem, excessive compliance, or control patterns.[2] Narcissists are considered to be natural magnets for the codependent.” Get more here: Codependency – Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia.

Wondering if this applies to you? Here are some questions that may help you decide…

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Basics of Codependency

Codependency: The Game

“Whether Codependency is developed in childhood or in adulthood the Codependent demonstrates a lack of trust in themselves. Because they are unable to fix what they see as other peoples problems they feel deficient. Because they believe the lies that a Dependent tells them after being challenged by the Codependent (who often correctly asses the situation in the first place) they learn not to trust their own judgement or intuition. This lack of trust in themselves often leads to them clinging on to those who cannot or will not love them back – often settling for too little. Codependents are also controlled by others and find it hard to resist when someone they grow tired of caring for says or does something that indicates things may change, that they will make more effort and behave how the Codependent expects. So they stick by the Dependent hoping things will be different this time.

Codependents deny their true feelings (fear, neediness, anger, ambivalence towards a Dependent) because they are afraid that they may have to acknowledge that they have to take an action that they really don’t want to take e.g. leaving the Dependent or face a truth that they do not want to face e.g. they can’t fix this problem, the Dependent is abusive etc. Denial of feelings leads to physical problems as the body starts to struggle with the effects of stress and anxiety e.g. high blood pressure, fatigue etc. or as often can happen the effects of substance abuse/food abuse that the Codependent practices in order to numb their emotional pain.

Codependents undertake in manipulative behaviour in the name of love and trying to help but in the end “We aren’t the people who ‘make things happen’. Co-dependents are the people who consistently, and with a great deal of effort and energy, try to force things to happen” Beattie pg. 76. Codependents don’t understand that they don’t have to control others and that any element of control means that the other person would normally have no interest in achieving the outcome the Codependent wants to achieve. They ignore the reality because they are frightened of what it really means for them. “People ultimately do what they want to do. They feel how they want to feel (or how they are feeling); they think what they want to think; they do the things they believe they need to do; and they will change only when they are ready to change. It doesn’t matter if they’re wrong and we’re right. It doesn’t matter if they’re hurting themselves. It doesn’t matter that we could help them if they’d only listen to, and cooperate with, us. IT DOESN’T MATTER” Beattie pg. 80-81.” via Basics of Codependency.

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The Path To Healing

Tommy Rosen has been doing a great job covering the 12 step program over at The Daily Love. Today he writes:

In this Step, we will practice taking full ownership of the circumstances of our relationships in our lives to this point. We will own our side of the street completely and we will approach those that we have harmed with humility, honesty, compassion and a sincere desire to set things right. We will put out of our minds anything that they may have done wrong and approach them to apologize and also to make an amends. Many people confuse making amends with an apology. An apology is to say sorry for what you have done. To “make amends” is to express that you are changing yourself in such a way that you will not commit the same act again. To make amends also has a connotation of making reparations. We will need to make the situation right. If we have stolen, then we re-pay what we have stolen. If we have cheated, then we ask what we can do to make it up to them. Far beyond a simple apology, which by the way, we may have given before many times, when we give an amends, it is a more profound act that can bring true healing in its wake.

Go to your 8th Step list and note all the people who are in your general location. These are people who you can get to easily face to face. Begin to make appointments to see them. No need to let them know exactly what your intention is other than to get together to connect and that it is important to you. Sometimes they will not want to see you. We always try to make amends face to face unless it is not possible. If a person refuses to see you, or lives halfway across the world or if they have passed on, then writing a letter will be sufficient. Prepare yourself before you meet someone to make an amends. Make certain you are ready to own your side of the street and stay off of theirs. It is wise to discuss each amends first with your sponsor or teacher.” Get more here: Step Nine – The Path To Healing – Making Amends!.

Follow the link and read the whole series in you’re interested…

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Groovy Probiotics

English: Mature Kombucha

“We’ve been told yogurt is good for us.  And in times past, most cultures have traditions of fermented food, such as sauerkraut, kimchi, kefir, and a tasty tea-based drink I’ve been fermenting at home, called kombucha.  All these foods are jam-packed with living yeast and bacteria species that go down your gullet to comingle with the one hundred trillion (yes, trillion) bacteria already living there.

90% of the cells in your body are the bacteria who live on and within you. Most of them live in your colon.  The species of bacteria in your colon could determine how thin or fat you are, or maybe how vulnerable you are to stress.  The commensal beasties are difficult to study as they don’t live outside the human gut and can’t be cultured in a lab.  There’s a lot to learn.

So fermented food had an obvious advantage in that it kept longer in the days before refrigerators, but did it have another advantage perpetuating it’s existence in so many cultures in human history?  Are the probiotics helpful in keeping the beasties in our gut happy and healthy?  I’ve discussed this issue a bit in a previous post, but last year a new paper came out that is also interesting:

Probiotics function mechanistically as delivery vehicles for neuroactive compounds: Microbial endocrinology in the design and use of probiotics.” Get more here: Groovy Probiotics | Psychology Today.

Good stuff! Lately, my wife has been introducing us to probiotics and it’s definitely worth looking into…

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