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7 Goals You Should Accomplish in 10 Years

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Life and everything in it revolves around balanced equations. The numbers are critical. Just the slightest imbalance and big issues arise. Keeping this in mind when setting personal goals, we should first take stock of where we already are. Perhaps you have done quite well financially, but your personal relationships are severely lacking. Maybe your marriage is secure and amicable, but in the area of romance the fire has long dimmed. We need to take an honest assessment of where we have succeeded and where we have failed. Then we can determine how to proceed forward. With this in mind, here are 7 areas of life to focus on for the next 10 years of your life plan.

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10 Ways to Help Kids Deal with the Loss of a Loved One

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Experiencing loss is a part of life that everyone has.  Losing someone is a challenge no matter what age you are.  Imagine how much harder it is for a child who has never experienced what it is like to be separated from loved ones.  Now that’s a challenge, but here is a list of things to keep in mind when talking with your children about the loss of a loved one.

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On gratitude…

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I found a new blogger today. Amanda M. shares…

“One of the things that I use to get over negative and obsessive thinking is the practice of Gratitude. I have a book dedicated to all the things that I am grateful for. Everyday (almost) I list all the things that I am grateful for and I don’t stop until I’ve filled one page. On the days that I feel most negative, it takes the longest time to fill a page, but once I have, I feel calm, serene and full of Grace. These days, I’m feeling particularly grateful for the spring time scent of Jasmine that blooms at the door of my office. Aside from putting Jasmine in my Gratitude Journal, I also step outside and take in a deep breath of the sweet perfume, getting lost in the moment and coming out the other side a little more centered. The daily practice of Gratitude makes the world seem a friendly place and gives me a good measure of positivity.” Source: Daily Practice « My Recovery in 12 Steps

Thanks…

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Does The Food We Eat Affect Our Productivity?

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Don’t blame them! It’s not their fault…

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Keen insite this morning from Mastin Kipp of The Daily Love…

Many times in relationships we love to blame the other person.

We like to blame them for not loving us the way we want to be loved, or for not making us enough of a priority, or for being too stubborn and on and on.

Then we start giving names to the way we interpret others actions. So instead of saying: “Hey, I’d really appreciate it if you let me figure it out on my own,” or “The way I really feel loved is when you (fill in the blank)”. When we are lacking, we say: “You’re a jerk”, or assume that they don’t love us.

So instead of expressing how we feel, we blame, judge and then convict the other person of being guilty. Then we project our verdict onto them and wonder why they react negatively and then use that negative reaction as further proof that our verdict was in fact, correct.

Instead of blaming and judging, if we can open up, become vulnerable and EXPRESS our feelings and needs, we give the other person an opportunity to course correct and with this new information.

And, if over time we are expressing our needs and feelings and they aren’t being seen, have the courage to pick up our things and leave. That’s the Master’s path – vulnerability and courage.

It might seem scary, but showing emotion and expressing your needs is how you build intimacy. And having high standards and the courage to maintain them is how you make sure that only the best kind of relationships remains in your life.

It’s the mark of a Master to no longer blame the other person, but instead to see the other person as a mirror of his or her own life. It’s the mark of a Master to share his or her feelings, rather than blaming someone else for not meeting the needs that were never expressed in the first place. It’s the mark of a Master who is strong enough to walk away from a broken and unfulfilled kind of love if his or her needs and emotions aren’t being seen. It’s the mark of a Master to be able to also meet the needs of their partner.

When you see the current relationships of your life as not a victim, but as a mirror of your own life, you can begin to take empowered action.

So, you say you want love, yes?

Then whatcha gonna do today? Blame them? Or express yourself and set loving boundaries?

Do you want to keep going round in the dramatic circle of blame or do you want to step into the loving flow of vulnerable expression?

The choice is yours. What’ll it be?

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The If, Then Game

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I’d like to share part of this post from Alissa Finerman with you…

Starting early in life we learn the power of if … then statements in a very simple and seemingly innocuous way. For example, in math class we use if … then statements to learn logic. If a = b and b = c, then a = c.

The if … then game goes on and on. We play it in every area of our life – relationships, career, healthy living, and finances.

 If I am in a relationship, then I’ll be happy.

If I get a new job, then I’ll be happy.

If I lose weight, then I’ll be happy.

If I make more money, then I’ll be happy.

Society and the media influence our mind to think with a set of conditions that help us make sense and draw logical conclusions (this is helpful). But somewhere along the line, we screw up the logic and substitute our own set of conditions that do not follow and, therefore, result in irrational conclusions (this is unhelpful).  It’s important to note that happiness doesn’t require any if … then conditions. The Dalai Lama believes happiness is a choice.

Often, we create a situation in our mind, such as being happy, and make it dependent on another event. But in reality, this state of well-being is not dependent on any set of conditions other than our own mindset and perspective right now.  Things such as a starting a new relationship, getting promoted, making more money, losing weight do not necessarily equal happiness.  Happiness is available, right here – right now – in this moment, whether you are going through a major life transition or in the greatest relationship of your life. It doesn’t depend on anyone but you. By definition, if … then statements take you out of the present moment and steer your focus to the future.

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A New Way Of Looking At Love That Changes Everything!

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What do you think of when you hear the word, “love”? Lovers entwined in a passionate embrace? The joy and fulfillment of finding your soul mate? Or perhaps you recall the feelings you have for your children, your parents or your friends.

All of these experiences of love have one thing in common: they’re dependent on another person. Don’t get me wrong, loving relationships are great, but we all know that relationships change and basing our happiness and love on other people isn’t the wisest choice. But what if you could experience a love that didn’t depend on anything outside you?

What if you could love for no reason at all?

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Acting As If

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Acting as if is another recovery truism that’s been around for a long time. I still use it regularly in my life.

I know people who are not in recovery athletes, performers, artists -who use the technique too.

All it means is that if it’s time to act, we do— whether taking that action feels comfortable or not. Instead of doing nothing, or waiting for confidence, success, or inspiration to overtake and motivate us first, we go ahead and move forward with an action anyway and let the good feelings catch up to us. We act as if the desired change has already taken place.

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The Truth About Energy Drinks

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The real truth is that most people are already consuming too much energy, which is why there’s an obesity problem. (Think about it.) So adding to your energy excess by guzzling a calorie- and sugar-laden drink doesn’t make a lot of sense. In fact, ask yourself this: Is it a lack of incoming sugar that’s causing you to be tired-or is it that you’re consuming too much of it in the first place? Chances are, it’s the latter. Our advice: If you feel you need a boost, reach for unsweetened beverage that contains only caffeine-like a black coffee from Dunkin’ Donuts. It has zero grams of sugar, 146 mg of caffeine, and just 20 calories-all for about 2 dollars.

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Five simple rules of happiness

1. Free your heart from hatred.
2. Free your mind from worries.
3. Live simply.
4. Give more.
5. Expect less.

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When Life Twists and Turns

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Today’s thought from Melody Beattie…

“Sometimes in life, no matter how deeply we intend to make the best decisions possible for ourselves, things happen. Marriages end, jobs turn sour, friends wane. For reasons outside our control or understanding, the situation twists and turns into something other than what we bargained for. Have you been waiting for a situation to revert to what it originally was—or what you hoped it would be when you got in? Are you telling yourself that there’s something wrong with you, when the reality is, the situation has changed into something other than what you thought it was? Things often don’t go as smoothly as we planned. Sometimes, we need to endure and get through the rough spots. But I’m talking about those grindingly difficult moments when life suddenly twists on us. These are the times we need to quit torturing ourselves. Let go of what you thought would happen. If life has twisted on you, don’t turn on yourself. Don’t try to make things be the way they were. Come up to speed. Return to now. Let yours elf accept the new situation at hand.The road isn’t always a straight course. Sometimes, even a path with heart unexpectedly twists and turns. God, help me relax and trust myself enough to deal with reality, not my fantasy of what I hoped it would” via August 28: When Life Twists and Turns Language of Letting Go.

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Learn to Love the Taste of Water

“Everyone knows drinking water is vital for our health, but not all of us are keen on its taste or relative tastelessness. Make sure you drink enough water and enjoy drinking it with these tricks suggested by WikiHow.The suggestions fall into two categories: change the taste of water or how it tastes to you or change how you think about water. Tips in the first category include trying other water sources, such as mineral water, or adding things like lemon or mint to the water to add more flavor.” Me? I’m trying. I squirt Nellie & Joe’s Key West Lemon Juice in my water. How about you?

Go to the source to Learn to Love the Taste of Water…

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Don’t Follow your Heart

Why not?

Should you just “follow your heart” as you date, in your marriage, while you work, as you socialize?  No. At least not most of the time.  That’s because when most people say, “follow your heart,” they’re really just saying, “follow your feelings.”  And yes, feelings by themselves can sometimes lead you down a smooth road, but more often than not, they’ll lead you on a road full of potholes and maybe even a fatal crash.

Think about it

How many times have you heard about husbands divorcing their wives of many years to get that “loving feeling” with a new “trophy wife?” How many women have said to you, “I just don’t feel in love anymore.” They’re leaving their husbands for a man who “really listens, understands and cares.”  And how many have left their job on a whim because they “felt” like it in order to start a new business that quickly went out of business?

The Problem

We live in a culture where people make major decisions solely in response to their feelings, regardless of who they hurt or what promises they break. Authors Stephen and Alex Kendrick in their book, The Love Dare, say the problem with “following your heart”, as most people define it, is that you are just chasing whatever feels right at the moment, even though it may not be right.  It means throwing caution to the wind and pursuing your latest whim, even though it may not be logical.  The Kendricks further note that, “People forget that feelings and emotions are shallow, fickle, and unreliable.” Emotions can fluctuate depending upon circumstances.  The Kendricks further suggest that instead of following your heart, lead your heart.

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25 Ridiculously Healthy Foods

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The most underrated, yet most powerful tool, you can use…

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The most underrated skill in the world is listening.  So few people actually listen to each other deeply.  They’re too busy thinking about what they’re going to say next or how to get other people to listen to them.  They are self-centered when they should be people-centered.

What a loss.  Because there is so much to gain from using your ears for their intended purpose:  listening – not waiting for a pause to talk.  When you develop a listening ear, you gain insights into what makes people tick, what they need, and how to compel them to action.  You develop profound connections.  The most successful people in the world are all great listeners.  Their own voice is not their focus.  They’re so good at hearing, they don’t just listen to the words being said by others, they also grasp the meaning beneath those utterances.  They therefore understand what people want, and they build great companies, amazing nonprofits and terrific agencies based on that knowledge.

Some people listen at first, but then stop.  That’s not good either.  People cease listening when they think they know the answers they’re going to get—or when they think they have better answers.  This is dangerous.  We have to keep listening, because few people stay the same or lock into one thought forever.

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I have been learning deep lessons in this area and Katya has a great perspective that I think is worthy of your attention. Follow the ‘via’ link if you want to expand your skillset…

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Psychologists tell us that it takes 21 days to forge a new habit — yet most new year’s resolutions are broken in first week. Why? Lack of persistance. This simple little tool may just be the answer for you…

“Whether you’re staring down the end of the year and want to get a head start on your New Year’s Resolutions, or you just want to make a positive change in your life, like getting out for a walk periodically or remembering to get a little exercise when you wake up, Habitforge can help. Habits are generally activities that you repeat without really thinking about having to do them, and it takes repetition to turn an activity from something occasional to a real habit that is part of your daily routine.

Simply tell Habitforge what it is you want to do and how frequently you want to do it, and the service will help you make your vague goal into something you actually do with some regularity. The goal is that eventually, Habitforge will be able to step aside, and you won’t even think about it—you’ll just do it.

Habitforge reminds me of Disciplanner, another tool that’s designed to help you take vague goals, like exercising every day and packing your own lunch, and turning them into things that you actually do. Accounts at Habitforge are free, and getting your reminders set up is incredibly simple: Unlike with Disciplanner, Habitforge has no graphing or analysis tools available to make sure you did what you set out to do, just a reminder and some light tracking of your progress. Source: Habitforge Helps You Build Healthy Habits – AppScout target=”_blank”

You can set up a free habitforge account here…

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Nice ride!

Yesterday morning, I took a nice ride on a new [to me] mountain bike at Blackwell Forest Preserve in Warrenville, IL. More thoughts on that later — I just wanted to get the pictures up…

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Are you an entrepreneur? Want to be one? Then it’s good to ponder this…

What exactly is it that sets entrepreneurs apart from the rest? What is it that makes certain people believe in themselves enough to take the prospect of failure head-on and have the determination to come out on top? It takes a special kind of person to set an idea in motion, riding the highs and lows from humble beginnings to ultimate success.”

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…but I have been bloody busy with the Agritechnica trade show in Hannover. I set up a social media dashboard in the menubar so you can track the work I’m doing with AGCO in Germany. So sorry, but with doing social media 12 hours a day, I just haven’t been able to maintain my normal editorial schedule for my business. Needless to say, there won’t be a ‘top tactics and tools’ post today — next Tuesday, I hope I’m recovered from jet lag enough to write on ‘tactics and tools’ #5 – Shareaholic!

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PDC is Personal Digital Coaching and it’s totally different than the kind of experience that’s being discussed here…

“I’ve been reading with great interest this past week as some of the leading web application companies discuss their philosophies regarding the providing of phone support for their services.” WebWorkerDaily » Archive Phone or Email Support – Which Do You Prefer? «

Give me a call at (920) 710-0790 or contact me through the contact page…

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Hmmm. Looks like everything you need to know about social media you may have learned in kindergarten. Not quite, but this confirms some of my preconceived notions…

“There are hundreds of ways to exploit social media to help your business or to build your personal brand but one that should stand head and shoulders above any other is the simplest of them all and has been around for as long as we have been on the planet….help other people. It sounds really really easy and you probably don’t even think it warrants you reading the rest of this post but if you stop and think about it for a second do you really help others? Do you consistently go out of your way to help others and put their needs above yours?

Let me let you in on a little social media secret: helping others is the key and any work you put in to help others will come back to help you in the long run 10 times over. The beauty in this day and age is that it is so easy to help others through social media now. You just have to want to.

It’s not going to happen in a week or even a month (although it can) but if you make it your mission to help people online in whatever way you possibly can it will always come back and make your day when you least expect it. I am not just talking about re-tweeting somebody or linking to them in your blog but actually going properly out of your way and helping somebody else to achieve their goals. Not your goals, their goals.” Source: Why you should help others to help yourself in social media

btw, few people do this better than my buddy Dana VanDen Heuvel of MarketingSavant. Go to the source and read the rest of the article, but check out Dana’s site too if you haven’t done so — it’s one of the best you’ll ever find on the topic of thought leadership and internet marketing…

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