My Creative Life: Brené Brown

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Your Story?

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Craig Harper writes:

Once upon a time, JK Rowlings was an unknown, unpublished, impoverished author.
Once upon a time, Thomas Edison was a telegraph operator with three months of formal education.
Once upon a time, Stephen Spielberg made 8 mm films and charged local kids 25 cents to watch.
Once upon a time, I was a fat kid who got picked last for every sporting team.

You’ll never have more potential than you do right now but you will have less time.

What’s the next chapter of your story?

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The Beginner’s Guide to Unschooling

Leo Babauta
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Leo Babauta writes today about a topic that interests me because we homeschool two of our boys…

There’s nothing I get asked about more as a parent than unschooling, and nothing I recommend more to other parents.

It’s an educational philosophy that provides for more freedom than any other learning method, and prepares kids for an uncertain and rapidly changing future better than anything else I know. My wife and I unschool four of our kids, and have been for several years.

And yet, as powerful as I believe unschooling to be, I’ve never written about it, because the truth is, I certainly don’t have all the answers. No one does.

The beauty of unschooling is in the search for the answers. If anyone had all the answers, there would be no search. And so what I’d love to teach unschooling parents and kids is that the search is the joy of it all.

But I’m getting ahead of myself: what is unschooling? Why should you do it? How do you do it? What should you read? We’ll talk about all that today.” Full story at: » The Beginner’s Guide to Unschooling :zenhabits.

There are many reasons to homeschool, but the think that caught my eye in Leo’s post is this: unschooling “prepares kids for an uncertain and rapidly changing future better than anything else I know”…

I work in a career that didn’t exist when I was in college and everything almost all the skills I learned to perform in this career I taught myself. I’m going to drill down on Leo’s post and evaluate what he has to say…

College students spending less time studying [but it costs more!]

Parents [and students] ponder this:

Over the past half-century, the amount of time college students actually study – read, write, and otherwise prepare for class – has dwindled from 24 hours a week to about 15, survey data show.

And that invites a question: Has college become too easy?

Ashley Dixon, a sophomore at George Mason University, anticipated more work in college than in high school. Instead, she has less. In a typical week, Dixon spends 18 hours in classes and another 12 in study. All told, college course work occupies 30 hours of her week. Dixon is a full-time student, but college, for her, is a part-time job.

“I was expecting it to be a lot harder,’’ said Dixon, 20. “I thought I was going to be miserable, trying to get good grades. And I do get good grades, and I’m not working very hard.’’

Declining study time is a discomfiting truth about the vaunted US higher-education system. The trend is generating debate over how much students really learn, even as colleges raise tuition every year.

Some critics say colleges and their students have grown lazy. Today’s collegiate culture, they say, rewards students with high grades for minimal effort and distracts them with athletics, clubs, and climbing walls on campuses that increasingly resemble resorts.

Academic leaders counter that students are as busy as ever but that their attention is consumed in part by jobs they take to help make ends meet.” Get more here: College students spending less time studying – Nation – The Boston Globe.

Now, consider this:

See Your Imperfect Self As Precious

Leslie Becker-PhelpsLeslie Becker-Phelps writes:

As a therapist, I am often faced with people who struggle with feeling essentially flawed in some way. They are quick to take responsibility for their errors or to blame themselves for problems with friends. And, they experience their struggles, mistakes, and imperfections as proof that they are lesser as a person.

As I listen to them, I know that when they look in the mirror, they do not see the value in them that I see. It is this negative self-perception that is the real source of their torture, not the daily issues that loom so large for them. Being overweight, shy, depressed, or socially awkward may cause them great pain; but I see this pain as a distress that requires caring – not condemnation. Making mistakes at work or becoming upset with your children is just part of life. After all, there’s a reason that “It’s only human” has come to be an expression. No one – and I mean no one – handles everything well all the time. And everyone – and, again, I mean everyone – has things they really struggle with.” Get more here: See Your Imperfect Self As Precious | Psychology Today.

Elevator Groupthink

I am wondering how I would react. Interesting post over on Brain Pickings: Elevator Groupthink: A Psychology Experiment in Conformity, 1962. via Elevator Groupthink.

Not Knowing

“Being the person that always knows and always has an answer, doesn’t leave a lot of room for learning. And for people to have the energy to teach yourself. The more I work, the closer I get to *not* knowing and to understanding that what matters is the responses not the pre-dertermined idea.” Andrew Zuckerman (via On Curiosity) via Not Knowing.

Aim at heaven and you will get earth thrown in

Aim at heaven and you will get earth thrown in. Aim at earth and you get neither. – C. S. Lewis

via Aim at heaven and you will get earth thrown in. Aim at earth and….

The most important skill to master


Leo Babauta

Leo Babauta writes:

If you’re like me, you are constantly learning new skills — gardening, carpentry, pizza-making, languages, sports, and so on. And I think this is a fun and wonderful thing to do.

But what’s the most important skill?

That’s debatable. I think compassion is a huge one, as is mindfulness. I’d go with those two any day of the week.

But if I had to pick just one, it would be this: learning to be happy with yourself.

That seems too simple, to trite! Too mushy and New-Agey! And I’ll grant all of that, but I stand firmly by my pick.

Why? The answer has to do with how this one thing can affect everything else in your life. If you are not happy with yourself, or your body, you become insecure. You think you’re not good enough. You fear being abandoned and alone. You do lots of other things to compensate, and these lead to problems.

So many of the problems people have stem from this one thing — being unhappy with themselves (often in the form of being unhappy with their bodies). Let’s take a look at why, and then look at some ideas of how to master the skill.

Get more here: » The Most Important Skill to Master :zenhabits

…in which no one shows up for the first hangout, so this is just a brief overview…

…on improving yourself

"Employ your time in improving yourself by other men's writings so that you shall come easily by what others have labored hard for." ~ Socrates

10 Easy Ways to Lower your Lifespan

10 Easy Ways to Lower your Lifespan via ilovecharts: Continue reading “10 Easy Ways to Lower your Lifespan”

On understanding…

“O God, help us not to despise or oppose what we do not understand.” ~ William Penn

via Anderson Layman’s Blog: On understanding……….

Cool ‘infographic’ from Tony Shin!

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If your happiness is based on always getting a little more than you’ve got…

Seth Godin

…then you’ve handed control over your happiness to the gatekeepers, built a system that doesn’t scale and prevented yourself from the brave work that leads to a quantum leap.

The industrial system (and the marketing regime) adore the mindset of ‘a little bit more, please’, because it furthers their power. A slightly higher paycheck, a slightly more famous college, an incrementally better car–it’s easy to be seduced by this safe, stepwise progress, and if marketers and bosses can make you feel dissatisfied at every step along the way, even better for them.

Their rules, their increments, and you are always on a treadmill, unhappy today, imagining that the answer lies just over the next hill…

All the data shows us that the people on that hill are just as frustrated as the people on your hill. It demonstrates that the people at that college are just as envious as the people at this college. The never ending cycle (no surprise) never ends.

An alternative is to be happy wherever you are, with whatever you’ve got, but always hungry for the thrill of creating art, of being missed if you’re gone and most of all, doing important work.

via Seth’s Blog: If your happiness is based on always getting a little more than you’ve got….

Wanna Be Right Or Be Loved?

The Law of Attraction is a law, just like gravity is a law. It’s working all the time whether you choose to be aware of it or not.  We are always drawing to us the people, places and experiences that match our state of being.

via Wanna Be Right Or Be Loved?.

You Are Not A Victim

Todd LohenryHere’s a kick in the pants from Kute Blackson

You are not a victim.

Regardless of what might have happened in your past.

You have a choice in this moment to choose what your experience of yourself and life will be today.


If you want to be happy, being a victim doesn’t serve you in any way.

It takes real courage to forgive and let go. It takes courage to take responsibility for your inner experience, especially when someone has wronged or hurt you.

The degree to which you take responsibility for your inner experience determines the degree of freedom that you will experience in your life.

So how much freedom do you want to experience?

You choose

There are many things you will never be in control of in life. This is a fact.

The weather.
The Traffic.
Other people’s opinions of you.
The government.
The media.
Your spouse or lover.
The stock market.

But you have the choice to choose your interpretation of what happens. And to choose again until the choice you choose serves your true happiness.

Source: You Are Not A Victim. Own Your Power!

Go to the source if and read the rest of Kute’s post if this resonates with you. Own your own power!

Yesterday I spoke at an in-service day for teachers at Northeast Wisconsin Technical College on the topic of social media for academic thought leaders. Here’s my preso…

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As We See Another, So We See Ourselves

“We can’t afford to judge because as we see another, so we see ourselves.”

– Doreen Virtue, Virtue is a best-selling self-help author and holds B.A., M.A., and Ph.D. degrees in counseling psychology.

Just Be You

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One of the amazing things about life is that every day we get a fresh start. Every day we get the opportunity to learn a new lesson, grow a little more, deepen our connection to life, to each other and to our own spirit.

Sometimes, the desire to expand can cause us to forget that which we already are.  While it is important to continue evolving, learning and growing, being too focused on this can get in the way of our ability to be present and enjoy what we have.

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