Let me introduce you to a 5.0 horsepower ‘marital aid’. My wife’s love language is ‘acts of service‘. It doesn’t matter how many times tell her I love her, bring her flowers or tell her she’s beautiful — although she does love Pecan Turtles from Vande Walle’s — unless I show it by acts of service it’s just blah, blah, blah. One of her passions is gardening and healthy food. I made a big deposit in her emotional bank account by rototilling the garden for her yesterday. Under normal circumstances, it’s not how I’d choose to spend my Saturday morning, but…
Consider this article I found after my initial posting. It indicates that I’ve been on to something for years:
Ever seen a book called Porn for Women? The cover sports a smiling man performing an act that undoubtedly makes many women sigh with pleasure: He’s vacuuming the living room. Inside the pages, another man does laundry, promising to go grocery shopping with the kids “so you can relax.”
It’s definitely a clever gimmick. But the book hits on what women — and the experts — have known for years: If you want to get lucky, you need to get your hands on a bottle of Windex. The best foreplay may, in fact, be a clean kitchen. And all this week at Good in Bed, we’re talking about foreplay techniques that really work.
The concept of “choreplay”— that women are more likely to want to have sex when their male partner helps out around the house — is a hot topic in research circles. One recent study from the University of Western Ontario found that wives are happier when their husbands pitch in with housework. Another report from researchers at the University of Illinois at Chicago even suggests men who help clean, take care of their kids, and do other domestic chores may see the benefits of their labor pay off in the bedroom.
When you think about it, these “mop-and-glow” findings make a lot of sense. Researchers in the Netherlands have found that the key to getting a woman turned on and to the heights of orgasmic bliss is a deep sense of relaxation and a lack of anxiety. They scanned the brains of 13 women and 11 men while they were manually stimulated to orgasm by their partners. The scans showed that, for women, the parts of the brain responsible for processing fear, anxiety and emotion slowed down the more aroused they became, producing a trancelike state at orgasm. Men showed far less change in these areas of the brain.
via Fox on Sex: The New Foreplay? It’s ‘Choreplay’ | Fox News.
What about you? What is your significant other’s love language? Are you learning to speak it fluently? For my wife, the smell of lemon-scented Dawn on my hands is an aphrodisiac if you get my drift. I could try to get her to see things my way but it’s actually easier to learn her language and speak it every chance I get! Take some time to learn your so’s love language this long weekend…