Tag: depression

There Is Nothing Missing…

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Beautiful soul Jennifer Pastiloff shares:

I feel like I’m about to write copy for an antidepressant commercial. Are you depressed? Trouble sleeping? Find you can’t focus? Find you’re feeling down when you have no real reason to, and, in fact, anyone would think you’re insane for admitting it?

I’ve been struggling lately. And it’s a little overwhelming.

That’s what I have done. Or what I want to do. Try to put down some of my load: in a parking lot, in a blog post. Anywhere, really.

I suffer from depression. Or I have suffered. Which is it? Past tense? Present?

Let me be frank: I’m slipping a little lately. So is it present tense? Do I acknowledge it, then shift my thoughts, creating new mantras, such as, “I am happy! I am free of depression!” or do I sit quietly on this airplane and contemplate it?

What does that even mean — depressed? Is it something I’ve been told (yes!) or something I know deep in the labyrinth of my body, in my DNA (also yes)?

For as long as I can remember, I’ve felt a certain sadness I could never explain to anyone: a dead part inside of me that made me pretend I was sick and stay home from school (even in kindergarten) so I could eat cream cheese and olive sandwiches and watch TV with my mom. During college, I would leave NYU during the weekends to go home to Cherry Hill, NJ, an hour and a half ride on the Peter Pan Bus, so I could be at home, safe from the slick world of New York City and from feeling anything except hunger. Perhaps that’s how I fell in love with anorexia; it allowed me to stop feeling such nothingness. I replaced nothingness with anxiety and hunger, but I no longer felt depressed.

The point is, my life is pretty great. I’m happily married. I’m successful. I’m healthy. So, what is it? What is this demon?

Go to the source of this quote: There Is Nothing Missing: The Epiphany That Helps Me Cope With Depression

I’ve been learning a lot about ‘nothing’ along these lines lately as in ‘nothing is wrong with me anymore‘ and now ‘there is nothing missing’; both good mindful meditations…

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Why Self-Compassion Trumps Self-Esteem

Have you tried to pump up your self-esteem? Kristen Neff explains why it doesn’t work in the long run:

In this incredibly competitive society of ours, how many of us truly feel good about ourselves?

I remember once, as a freshman in college, after spending hours getting ready for a big party, I complained to my boyfriend that my hair, makeup, and outfit were woefully inadequate. He tried to reassure me by saying, “Don’t worry, you look fine.”

“Fine? Oh great, I always wanted to look fine . . .” Continue reading “Why Self-Compassion Trumps Self-Esteem” →

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Why Feeling Like a Victim Makes You Unhappy

shelley-bullardShelly Bullard writes:

We all get caught in the victim-trap from time to time. Feeling like we’ve been wronged; like we were right and they were, well, I’m sure we can complete the sentence with lots of words. It’s true, being a victim is not an uncommon stance to take in this world.

But you should know that feeling like a victim only makes you feel worse. Many of us don’t realize this. In fact, often we hang-out in victim-land because we unconsciously believe that it will get us what we want (which is care, concern, and love). On some level we think being a victim will make us feel better! We are sorely mistaken.

If you recognize that sometimes you identify as a victim and you want to stop the pattern, then keep reading. In this article I’m going to discuss why feeling like a victim ultimately leads to more unhappiness, and how to turn the pattern around. Continue reading “Why Feeling Like a Victim Makes You Unhappy” →

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Do You Forgive Yourself?

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We often talk about the importance of forgiveness and resentment release, release resentment, and make peace with what others have hurt us in the past. But what to forgive the person who unwittingly to blame more?

This person is the one you wake up and spend every moment of every day. It is the person most worthy of your love, understanding and forgiveness radical. Obviously, that person is you. Can you forgive?

As sure as you’re alive to read the words on this page, you hurt someone and you have been hurt by someone at some point in their lives. Part of his anger over it can permanently damage inside. It’s barely recognizable, unless you know what you’re looking for. Do you like the sense of wonder, freedom and invincibility fallen by the wayside, replaced by a disguised unforgiveness, fear self-doubt, anxiety, feelings of inadequacy or depression?

If you do not let them get to the last, is the time. There is nothing in the past for you, you can not change what you do. Whatever you want to do something else, let him go. You have the best you can do with what you had, you know and where you were in your life at that time.

You have complete control over how, where, on the effects of this. This is a new day. Do the best you can do. You will not always get it quite right, but that’s okay. Forgive yourself and start again.

That were not put on this earth to make everything perfect at all times in your life. In fact, life is just the opposite. The journey of life is full of unexpected twists and turns and sometimes unpleasant. Too bad and cause problems, to make bad decisions and experience the effects of other bad decisions. But you do not have to do is get stuck. Guilt serves no purpose other than to keep, then release. You live and learn. Forgive those who hurt you, and most importantly, forgive yourself.

Before proceeding with the rest of your day, I encourage you to take a long time now to repeat (5-20 times) my favorite positive affirmation of forgiveness:

I totally and unreservedly apologize to myself.

Use this daily affirmation. Tape to your mirror, your desk or dashboard of your car. Use it as a reminder to live like you’re in this for more than the past.

Your job in life is to recreate yourself and your life story every day, but how to change history if they do not move in the next chapter?

Stop reliving the past and start creating today. My friend … please fully forgive you.

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