On the temporary nature of things…

501323691_aa38277405Ajahn Chah writes:

“Do you see this glass?” he asked us. “I love this glass. It holds the water admirably. When the sun shines on it, it reflects the light beautifully. When I tap it, it has a lovely ring. Yet for me, this glass is already broken. When the wind knocks it over or my elbow knocks it off the shelf and it falls to the ground and shatters, I say, ‘Of course.’ But when I understand that this glass is already broken, every minute with it is precious.”

via Freud and Buddha By Mark Epstein.

 

If it isn’t working

Nicholas Bate shares this…

(1) It’s maybe them (2) It’s maybe the system (3) It’s maybe you (4) It’s maybe a combo of all three (5) But the one you can start with is you (6) Get good (7) Get really good (8) Don’t accept any excuses from that crappy inner voice which reports to your dark side (9) one more hit of the snooze button? (10) ha ha, no way! (11) one more cup of coffee? (12) absolutely not! (13) skip the gym, it’s been a tough day! (14) are you crazy!? (15) as once you repair you, they realise they need fixing otherwise they simply lose you. (16) and once you re-invent you, you have so much energy, focus and cool, it’ll only take minutes to fix the system.

Source: If It Isn’t Working 16 – Nicholas Bate

How to Be Your Own Therapist and Solve the More Manageable Problems in Your Life

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Therapy is no doubt a helpful tool when you have problems to overcome, and one of the primary strategies therapists use to uncover and solve your issues involves identifying common behavioral patterns. But you don’t always need a therapist to recognize and correct an unhealthy pattern in your life. Here’s a primer for how you can solve the problems that don’t require professional help.

The world is good at creating patterns and we have an innate ability for picking them up. As we grow, our experience becomes a giant database of information and we make associations between similar events and occurrences as a way of understanding the world. While recognizing these patterns can be an incredibly helpful tool for solving our own issues, we’re much better at recognizing them in others than we are in ourselves. We also have a tendency to see patterns where we want to see them, even when they aren’t really there. We enlist the help of therapists because they’re trained to connect the behavioral dots, but with a little work we can hone our pattern recognition skills and solve many of our own problems. In this post we’ll give you a basic introduction to how pattern recognition works, how you can use it to investigate your issues, and what you need to watch our for so you don’t identify any patterns incorrectly.

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