“We create ourselves. The sequence is suffering, insight, will, action, change.” Source: How People Change: Psychoanalyst Allen Wheelis on the Essence of Freedom and the Two Elements of Self-Transcendence
How People Change
You deserve to be loved
This poem comes to you via Celia, one of the poets of TikTok…
“You deserve to be loved
And I don’t mean that in a superficial way
I mean you deserve to be absolutely adored each and every freaking single day
You deserve to be cherished
Your smile kept in someone’s favorites list
Along with your eyes and your heart
Someone who smiles after every time you’ve kissed
You deserve to be romanticized
“How did I get to keep an angel like you?”
Your presence brings serenity
Beauty, sunshine, and of course laughter too
You deserve to be a muse
All the poems you’ve inspired
You deserve to be able to rest
I’ll kiss your eyelids when you’re tired
You deserve to feel at home
Arms wrapped around you when you’re cold
You deserve to feel desired
I’ll think you’re hot even when you’re old
You deserve to be loved
No matter what has happened in the past
You deserve the happy fairy tale ending
Just absolute pure happiness at last”
Strategy Tip #1
Here’s a new blog you might want to track…
I want to share with you some tips I have developed during my career.
💡 Working Tip #1
Want to achieve remarkable growth in your personal, professional, and business life?
Start by becoming aware of, identifying and eliminating the barriers that hold you back.
Embrace change, clarify your purpose, vision, and mission, and develop new strategies to break free from constraints.
By improving your management practices, you’ll pave the way for accelerated growth.
Reach out today to unleash your true potential and embark on a transformative journey!
Purpose
Having a clear purpose also means that you will always get up again and continue your journey towards growth and greater awareness.
Is Hermann Hesse relevant today?
Today is the the 146th anniversary of Hermann Hesse’s birth. Is he still relevant today? I believe he is for a number of reasons. His novels and stories explore themes that are still relevant, such as:
- The search for meaning and purpose in life
- The conflict between the individual and society
- The nature of good and evil
- The importance of personal growth and development
- The relationship between the material and spiritual worlds
Hesse’s writing is also characterized by its lyrical beauty and its insights into the human condition. His novels are often read as coming-of-age stories, but they also offer wisdom and guidance to readers of all ages.
In addition, Hesse’s work has been praised for its relevance to the modern world. His novels often deal with issues such as alienation, isolation, and the loss of traditional values. These are all issues that we still face today, and Hesse’s work can help us to understand and cope with them.
Here are some specific examples of why Hesse’s work is relevant today:
- The search for meaning and purpose in life. Hesse’s novels often feature characters who are searching for meaning and purpose in their lives. This is a question that many people still ask themselves today, and Hesse’s work can offer insights into the search for meaning.
- The conflict between the individual and society. Hesse’s novels often explore the conflict between the individual and society. This is a conflict that is still relevant today, as we see people struggling to find their place in a world that is often seen as being hostile to individuality.
- The nature of good and evil. Hesse’s novels often explore the nature of good and evil. This is a question that has been asked by philosophers and theologians for centuries, and Hesse’s work offers a unique perspective on this age-old question.
- The importance of personal growth and development. Hesse’s novels often emphasize the importance of personal growth and development. This is a message that is still relevant today, as we see people seeking to improve themselves and become the best versions of themselves.
- The relationship between the material and spiritual worlds. Hesse’s novels often explore the relationship between the material and spiritual worlds. This is a question that has been asked by mystics and religious leaders for centuries, and Hesse’s work offers a unique perspective on this complex issue.
His novels are often read as coming-of-age stories, but they also offer wisdom and guidance to readers of all ages. If you are looking for a writer who can help you to understand yourself and the world around you, then Hermann Hesse may be a good place to start.
You can read one of his most beloved poems here and hear him read it to you in his own voice.
50 Rules For Life From Marcus Aurelius
“Marcus Aurelius was a Roman emperor, born nearly two millennia ago (121 – 180). Marcus became the Emperor of the Roman Empire in 161 and ruled for nearly two decades until his death in 180. It is important to realize the gravity of that position and the magnitude of power that Marcus possessed. He held one of—if not the most—powerful positions in the world at the time. If he chose to, nothing would be off limits. There is a reason the adage that power in absolute absolutely corrupts has been repeated throughout history—it unfortunately tends to be true. And yet, as the essayist Matthew Arnold remarked, Marcus proved himself worthy of the position he was in.”
Three Core Reminders for Spiritual Practice by @TaraBrach
This talk explores three powerful ways you can direct your attention when you find yourself emotionally stuck: Wake up from thoughts; feel your feelings and remember love. We explore both the habits blocking these basic movements toward freedom, and what nourishes them. Together they can serve to open your mind, awaken aliveness and heal your heart.
If abandonment is the core wound
Jeff Foster
the disconnection from mother
the loss of wholeness
then the most potent medicine
is this ancient commitment
to never abandon yourself
to discover wholeness in the whole-mess
to be a loving mother to your insides
to hold the broken bits
in open awareness
to illuminate the sore places
with the light
of love
Source: Three Core Reminders for Spiritual Practice – Tara Brach
Action for Happiness Calendar – July 2023
And this…
Dear readers, I wish you a happy July!
Here you are the Action for Happiness Calendar for this month of July.
This month’s theme is “Jump Back Up“. If we want to live a happier life, we have to learn resiliency. We have to understand how we deal with events so as to choose our actions to get up again from difficult times.
GGSC Happiness Calendar – July 2023
Love this…
Here you are the GGSC Happiness Calendar for the month of July.
This month’s theme is spreading goodwill and kindness.
So, let’s commit together to spreading both goodwill and kindness so as to make our part in bringing some happiness to our world!
The Work of Happiness
“What is happiness but growth in peace.”
May Sarton
Go to the source to read the poem: The Work of Happiness: May Sarton’s Stunning Poem About Being at Home in Yourself
The Truelove
Poet and Philosopher David Whyte on Reaching Beyond Our Limiting Beliefs About the Love We Deserve…
“There is a faith in loving fiercely
the one who is rightfully yours,
especially if you have
waited years and especially
if part of you never believed
you could deserve this
loved and beckoning hand
held out to you this way…”
Go to the source to read the rest of the poem and hear the author read it in his own voice: The Truelove: Poet and Philosopher David Whyte on Reaching Beyond Our Limiting Beliefs About the Love We Deserve
What does healthy interdependence look like?
Healthy interdependence is a dynamic and balanced relationship where individuals or entities mutually rely on and support one another while maintaining their autonomy. Here are some characteristics of healthy interdependence:
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Mutual Respect: Each party recognizes and values the needs, rights, and boundaries of the other, promoting a sense of fairness and equality.
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Effective Communication: Open and honest communication allows for clear expression of thoughts, feelings, and needs, leading to better understanding and conflict resolution.
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Cooperation and Collaboration: Individuals work together towards common goals, pooling their resources, skills, and strengths to achieve shared objectives.
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Interpersonal Boundaries: Healthy interdependence respects personal boundaries, allowing each person to maintain their individuality, autonomy, and self-care.
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Reciprocity: Both parties contribute and benefit from the relationship, providing support, assistance, and understanding when needed.
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Trust and Reliability: Trust forms the foundation of healthy interdependence, where each party can rely on the other to fulfill their commitments and keep their word.
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Encouragement and Empowerment: Healthy interdependence involves supporting and empowering each other’s personal growth, success, and well-being.
Remember, healthy interdependence is about balance and cooperation, where the needs and well-being of both parties are equally valued and fostered. By the way, if you enjoyed these thoughts, you might also enjoy a previous post on how a healthy relationship is like taking a bike ride with your partner…
What is an insecure attachment style?
Attachment theory, developed by psychologist John Bowlby, proposes that individuals develop specific attachment styles based on their early experiences with caregivers. Insecure attachment styles are characterized by difficulties in forming and maintaining healthy relationships. There are three main types of insecure attachment styles:
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Anxious-Preoccupied Attachment: Individuals with this attachment style often feel a constant need for reassurance and fear abandonment. They may be clingy, possessive, and highly emotional in their relationships. They tend to exaggerate problems and seek constant validation from their partners.
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Dismissive-Avoidant Attachment: People with this attachment style are uncomfortable with emotional intimacy and tend to avoid it. They may appear emotionally distant, self-reliant, and dismissive of their own or others’ needs. They often value independence and may have difficulty relying on others.
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Fearful-Avoidant Attachment: Individuals with this attachment style have a mix of anxious and avoidant traits. They desire close relationships but are afraid of intimacy and potential rejection. They may have low self-esteem, struggle with trust, and frequently experience a push-pull dynamic in their relationships.
It’s important to note that attachment styles can evolve and change over time with self-awareness and personal growth. Understanding your attachment style can provide insights into your relationship patterns and help you cultivate healthier and more fulfilling connections with others.
This bears repeating…
My friend RJ is always good for an epiphany or two every time we talk. Yesterday he introduced me to Edith Eva Eger, author of The Choice. She says:
I am Dr. Edith Eva Eger. Since my childhood days in Hungary, friends and family have called meEdie. We lived a ‘normal life’, a happy life, uneventful in its quiet bliss. Then it was slowly, yet suddenly, all taken away, altering the course of my life forever.
Edith Eva Eger
Hear her talk about her choice…
Now that you’ve been introduced to Edith, how will you respond?
The Oddly Healthy Reason People Choose Partners Who ‘Trigger’ Past Wounds
It is not about finding someone who does not trigger you. It is about finding someone who you feel safe being triggered by. Source: The Oddly Healthy Reason People Choose Partners Who ‘Trigger’ Past Wounds
Meditation: Loving What Is by @TaraBrach
Tara Brach writes “while we might not directly love what is, there is a pathway to this inner freedom. As we explore in this meditation, we begin with allowing the changing sensations and emotions to move through us, just as they are. As this allowing presence deepens, it becomes suffused with the tenderness of love”…
In this choiceless, never ending flow of life
Dorothy Hunt
There is an infinite array of choices
One alone brings happiness
To love what is.
Life
Growth, freedom, and fulfillment come from doing whatever we dedicate our time to with our full awareness, commitment, and purpose.
You Say, ‘Jesus Is the Only Way’!”
Interesting! I posted this over 10 years ago and just stumbled over it again. I still like the thoughts it contains…
I might lose a friend or two over this post, but over the weekend, I read an article by Dr. Steve McSwain on the Huffington Post and it rocked my world! I curate it here:
To those who know me, it is no surprise that I was born with a WHY chromosome.
Because I was so fortunate as to travel the world during my teen years…those highly impressionable years…I’ve seen things, heard things, experienced things that became fertile soil to my many questions.
I was raised in a Southern Baptist pastor’s home. Everyone I knew was Christian. Most were Baptist. Even if you did not go to church, you regarded yourself as Christian and, very often, as Baptist, too. So, the nearest thing to me of a person of another “religion” was a Catholic.
Yet, on more than one occasion, I’ve stood with thousands of other actual Catholics in St…
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Be and love rather than have
Raffaello Palandri shares…
There are many things we can do to grow and live a happier life. One of the best is choosing to be and love rather than to have.
Our deepest fears…
‘Our deepest fears are like dragons guarding our deepest treasure.’ Rainer Maria Rilke
Bright, shiny objects! 
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