Thinks I find along the way
Rick Hanson has always been one of my favorites. He says “the most important thing is to remember the most important thing.” (I prefer ‘the main thing is to keep the main thing the main thing.” but you get it) Source: Keep Your Focus on What Is Important
Arnold Schwarzenegger started his fitness newsletter to help people. However, he is also helping people with mental health-related issues. Source: Amidst the World Suffering From “Loneliness Epidemic,” Arnold Schwarzenegger Offers Eye-Opening Advice: “Making Friends as an Adult Is Nearly Impossible” – EssentiallySports
btw, if you haven’t seen Arnold’s documentary on Netflix, I highly recommend it…
John Touhey writes “There are going to be times when you are snubbed, experience rejection, or feel used. This happens to all of us. Being in that situation feels terrible – and it is perfectly reasonable to acknowledge your negative feelings. Try not to let the experience define you, however, or let it ruin your college experience. Remember there is something even more intense than the pain you feel in the moment — and that is the desire that you have to be in relationship with others. The biggest mistake you can make is to get hurt my someone and then decide you don’t really need friends and can go it alone. That is a lie. As beings created in the image and likeness of God, we need human relationships as much as we need food, water, and oxygen. If you were feeling desperately hungry, you wouldn’t stop looking and asking for something to eat until you found it. The same thing applies when looking for friendship. Be persistent and never give up!” Source: Feeling lonely at college? Here are 6 tips that may help
Here are empowering strategies from championship teams. Source: How to Overcome Feeling Lonely and Powerless
3 reasons to avoid a fantasy filter when looking for a long-term partner. Source: Can You Really Find Your Soulmate or “Twin Flame”?
Intimacy is the bedrock of any successful relationship, fostering emotional connection and trust between partners. However, sometimes couples may find themselves struggling with a phenomenon called “intimacy anorexia.” In this article, we will delve into the causes of intimacy anorexia and explore strategies to overcome it, fostering a healthier and more fulfilling relationship.
Continue reading “Understanding Intimacy Anorexia and Overcoming It in Relationships”
Exposing faulty ideas about worthiness. Source: What Is Self-Esteem?
The statue of Mary atop the Golden Dome of Notre Dame is a beautiful and iconic landmark. It is a 19-foot-tall, 4,000-pound statue of the Virgin Mary, cast in bronze and gilded in gold. The statue was designed by Chicago artist Giovanni Meli and was donated to the university by the sisters, students, and alumnae of Saint Mary’s College, Notre Dame’s sister school.
The statue is depicted in the pose of the Immaculate Conception, with her hands folded in prayer and her head slightly bowed. She wears a long, flowing gown and a crown of stars. The statue is set against a backdrop of blue sky and clouds, and it is illuminated by spotlights at night.
The statue has been a source of inspiration and comfort to generations of Notre Dame students, faculty, and alumni. It is a symbol of the university’s Catholic faith and its commitment to academic excellence. The statue is also a popular tourist destination, and it is often seen as a symbol of the city of South Bend itself.
Here is my review of the statue:
Long distance relationships (LDRs) can work for some people, even for long periods of time and at great distances. Certain combinations of circumstances and personalities can nurture a successful LDR. Yet, for others, an LDR might as well be DOA. While in some cases, no matter how strong the feelings between the two people may be, the distance proves too difficult for the relationship last.
Source: Pros And Cons Of Long Distance Relationships | YourTango
There are two types of people out there in the dating universe: People who believe that long-distance relationships will work and people who do not.
Source: Why Long-Distance Couples Have Happier Relationships, According To Research | YourTango
I find the third instance most interesting: “Not acknowledging your feelings and thoughts and trivializing your emotions is a technique that allows a gaslighter to emotionally exploit you and gain control over your actions. When they see you being upset and emotional over something — especially something they did or said — they’ll rush to tell you “you’re overthinking it” and that “you should get over it”. That might give you the impression your partner is just trying to make you relax and feel better, but in reality, it’s an attempt to trivialize your feelings and make you question them as well as yourself. Over time, you might become hesitant of expressing your thoughts and feelings to anyone close to you, out of fear they’ll trivialize them just like your partner does. And that’s exactly what a gaslighter wants: to make you feel insecure and isolated.” Source: 5 Times Your Partner Gaslighted You Without You Noticing | by Margaret Pan | Hello, Love | Medium
Don’t. Let. Them. Win. Source: Ghostlighting Is The New WTF Dating Trend That Can Mess With Your Head And Heart
Do you have a version of this rule in your house?
“A lover asked his beloved, Do you love yourself more than you love me? The beloved replied, I have died to myself and I live for you…” ~ Rumi
Source: Do You Love Me? A Deep and Meaningful Poem by Rumi – Purpose Fairy
There’s no one like Elton John, especially 1970-75 Elton John. YouTuber Jon Blackstone loves him in a way I really appreciate. Treat yourself…
Expectations can be a double-edged sword in our lives. On one hand, they provide us with a sense of hope and anticipation. On the other hand, when expectations are not met, they can quickly turn into seeds of resentment. In this blog post, we will explore the notion that “expectations are future resentments” and how managing our expectations can lead to a happier and more fulfilling life.
Expectations are innate to our human nature. We constantly form expectations about various aspects of our personal and professional lives. We expect things to go a certain way, people to behave in a particular manner, and situations to unfold as we imagine. These expectations can stem from societal norms, personal beliefs, past experiences, or our own desires and aspirations.
When our expectations are not met, it can lead to disappointment, frustration, and even resentment. We may feel let down by others or ourselves, and it can have a negative impact on our emotional well-being. The cycle begins when we set an expectation, and whether consciously or unconsciously, we attach our happiness or fulfillment to its fulfillment. However, life is unpredictable, and things don’t always go as planned.
While it may be difficult, managing our expectations is crucial for our own mental and emotional well-being. Here are some strategies to consider:
Expectations have the potential to shape our experiences and relationships. By acknowledging that “expectations are future resentments,” we can strive to manage them effectively. Embracing acceptance, clear communication, flexibility, and gratitude can lead to a more harmonious and peaceful existence. Remember, life is full of surprises, and it is up to us to navigate them with resilience and optimism.
So, let go of rigid expectations, embrace the beauty of uncertainty, and cultivate a mindset of gratitude. Free yourself from the burden of future resentments and allow life to unfold in its own magical way.
Remember, expectations are merely illusions of control – let them go and set yourself free!
Stay tuned for more insights into personal growth and well-being.
Note: Expectations are normal, but the excessive or unrealistic expectations can impact mental health. If you find yourself struggling with unmet expectations and it is affecting your well-being, it may be beneficial to seek support from a mental health professional.
A new study synthesizing information from almost 1 million people gives answers. Source: Does Facebook Make People Unhappy?
Ryan speaks with Greg Harden about how Stoicism influenced his new book Stay Sane in an Insane World: How to Control the Controllables and Thrive, the techniques that he has used to coach so many sports greats to the highest levels of success, the difference between confidence and ego, why Tom Brady likes The Obstacle Is The Way, and more.
My biological father was a ‘sperm donor’. I can relate to this author: “After my father left, I struggled with abandonment issues, people-pleasing, anxiety, and low self-esteem. Here’s how I found my worth. Source: How I Found My Worth in Spite of My Father’s Abandonment – Tiny Buddha”
Here are 10 questions to assess the state of your union. Source: Maybe It’s Time for Your Relationship Check-Up
Bright, shiny objects! 
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