Without effort, your relationship is going to fall apart, so make sure you’re playing your part. And make sure you aren’t settling for someone who refuses to do theirs: Without Effort, Your Relationship Will Fall Apart
If you appreciate good music
Let Rick Beato show you how to appreciate it more!
Sons of Narcissistic Mothers
How narcissistic mothers manipulate and damage their sons: Sons of Narcissistic Mothers
3 Surprising Reasons You Are Broke
1 in 3 American workers lives paycheck-to-paycheck. Here’s why: 3 Surprising Reasons You Are Broke
March Theme: Kindness, Compassion, and Wellbeing
Yes. Be kind…
“Be Kind” is a popular meme — encouraging people to be kind to one another.
Kindness and compassion can be seen as a way to help others, but compassion also benefits the giver as well as the receiver of that kindness.
Throughout the month of March, At the Gates of the Soul will explore how compassion can benefit our mental wellbeing.
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Emma Seppala wrote about research on the health benefits of compassion a few years ago, in an article for Greater Good Magazine. She points to research that says compassion is a natural part of being human.
Though economists have long argued the contrary, a growing body of evidence suggests that, at our core, both animals and human beings have that “compassionate instinct.” In other words, compassion is a natural and automatic response that has ensured our survival.
Seppala also writes about the psychological…
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What Makes Unhappy Couples Stay Together?
Research on attachment style reveals reasons why people stay together too long: What Makes Unhappy Couples Stay Together?
3 Simple Rules for Criticizing a Difficult Person
These 3 rules for voicing your criticisms are game changers: 3 Simple Rules for Criticizing a Difficult Person
‘Younger feminists have shifted my understanding’
It’s a myth that wisdom comes only with age, the writer argues. Young women and girls offer new tools to use: Rebecca Solnit: ‘Younger feminists have shifted my understanding’
Top 20 Rock Anthems of All Time According to @rickbeato and @brenebrown
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10 quotes from great minds on why you should vote
Don’t feel like going out to vote? These ten thinkers have something to tell you: 10 quotes from great minds on why you should vote
iGen: Why Today’s Super-Connected Kids Are Growing Up Less Rebellious, More Tolerant, Less Happy–and Completely Unprepared for Adulthood
My partner and I are reading this book to gain insight into what we see happening with my son and his peers. I highly recommend it if you have teenagers…
Facing Your Inner Critic
Harsh self-criticism may seem inevitable, but it’s not your only option: Facing Your Inner Critic

The Power and Shame of Women’s Anger
When women stop apologizing for and start owning their rage, change happens: The Power and Shame of Women’s Anger
The False Prophet of Common Sense
“If you care about understanding something, then you need to study it, either learning from others’ experience or collecting the data yourself that would allow you to test the causal claim of your common sense theory. In the absence of data, we are all free to speculate, but it is worth reminding yourself that your speculation is exactly that; a flimsy common-sense story that is vulnerable to being blown over by a gust of actual evidence. The common-sense stories we tell to make sense of the world may be compelling, but they are not evidence.
This understanding is essential to taking our own common sense with the grain of salt that it deserves. What seems like common sense to us is, to a great extent, driven by intuition. And, as authors like Daniel Kahneman, Max Bazerman, Dan Ariely, Richard Thaler, and Cass Sunstein have written about so articulately, intuitive judgment is beset by biases. It is possible to train your intuition to improve its fidelity, but that requires substantial training, practice, and feedback. It is rare that life provides us with sufficient training, practice, and feedback. Without them, it is dangerous to place too much confidence in your common-sense intuitions.”
Why it’s easy to be overconfident in our intuitions: The False Prophet of Common Sense
Punishing Your Child for Lying Can Prompt More Lying
Kids will do almost anything to feel secure in their family—including lying: Punishing Your Child for Lying Can Prompt More Lying
You are my Spring blessing
What a sweet poem!

(Steve Hanks painting)
You are my Spring blessing
Loveliest girl in my world,
she drank her morning coffee and
her tan bare feet moving with the morning song
of the birds and the nearby sea.
The sea lions were singly loudly and
she told me.
I love the Monterey sounds , the strong coffee and
the poet’s song.
Please whisper me a poem to make me smile.
“Something wicked, something sweet.
You are.
You are my whiskey kisses at midnight,
you are my six am friend,
who walk the long Monterey sea shore with me.
I love you content, I love you restless.
You are my sea-side blessing,
a poet’s last wish.
I shall love you,
till I can’t love no-more.”
The prettiest girl near the dancing Pacific,
she smiled and she brought me near.
She wrapped her arms around me and
I laid in her lap.
She told me.
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