5 Ways to Manage Disappointment

Disappointment can lead to a downward spiral. Read this to ‘check yo’self before you wreck yo’self’! Go to the source: 5 Ways to Manage Disappointment

Here’s another post I did on the topic 10 years ago and there’s more reading here

Shoulda, Woulda, Coulda: How to Better Manage Feelings of Regret

J. Kim Penberthy writes “A friend of mine – we will call him “Jay” – was working for IBM in New York City in the early ‘90s. He was a computer programmer and made a good salary. Occasionally, competitors and startups approached Jay to join their companies. He had an offer from an interesting but small organization in Seattle, but the salary was paltry and most of the offer package was in company shares. After consulting with friends and his parents, Jay declined the offer and stayed with IBM. He has regretted it ever since. That small company was Microsoft.” Source: Shoulda, Woulda, Coulda: How to Better Manage Feelings of Regret

5 Symptoms of Repressed Anger

What repressed anger looks like. Source: 5 Symptoms of Repressed Anger

Why You Need Instant Gratification, According to Science

We spend about 43 per cent of our day doing things without thinking about them. For many of these habitual behaviours, we don’t recognise them as such. However, these learned behaviours are necessary for living our life.

Wendy Wood

I’m a huge fan of the book The ONE Thing. In it, the author Gary Keller talks about the idea that you really don’t need to be as disciplined as you think. Why? Because you only need enough discipline to start a habit and the habit then takes over. Go to the source: Why You Need Instant Gratification, According to Science

Do you do it or does it do you via @alanwatts

How to Play The Game of Life

How to Be a Critical Thinker

WikiHow writes: “Sometimes it can be hard to navigate this world of ours. It’s so easy to be led down the wrong paths by the charlatan map-makers of human society. Merely trusting in this system ensures that you will be misled and scammed and made a fool. Without critical thinking ability, there is nothing standing between you and the lies. However, with critical thinking ability, there is nothing standing between you and the truth.” Here are some thoughts on how to become more of a critical thinker! Source: How to Be a Critical Thinker

You 2.0: Deep Work

When your phone buzzes or a notification pops up your screen, do you stop what you’re doing to look and respond? That’s what many of us are doing. Even though we think we should be less distracted by technology, we haven’t admitted the true cost of these interruptions. This week, we revisit our 2017 conversation with computer scientist Cal Newport, and consider ways we can all immerse ourselves in more meaningful work. Source: You 2.0: Deep Work

Where Does Implicit Bias Come From?

Unfortunately, even young kids have mental maps that nurture unconscious bias. Source: Where Does Implicit Bias Come From?

How exposure to different people affects our thinking

“We shape our tools and thereafter our tools shape us”

“The quote “We become what we behold. We shape our tools and then our tools shape us”  is often mistakenly attributed to Marshall McLuhan. It does NOT appear in “Understanding Media”, as Wilson Miner confidently asserts in the presentation below, indeed it does not appear in any published work by McLuhan at all. The quote was actually written by Father John Culkin, SJ, a Professor of Communication at Fordham University in New York and friend of McLuhan. But though the quote is Culkin’s, I would argue that the idea is McLuhan’s, as it comes up in an article by Culkin about McLuhan: Culkin, J.M. (1967, March 18). A schoolman’s guide to Marshall McLuhan. Saturday Review, pp. 51-53, 71-72. The idea presented in the quote is entirely consistent with McLuhan’s thinking on technology in general.”

Source: “We shape our tools and thereafter our tools shape us” | McLuhan Galaxy

Finding Goldilocks: A Solution for Black-and-White Thinking

The sweet spot between opposite extremes is the zone of effective living: Finding Goldilocks: A Solution for Black-and-White Thinking

Leaders eat last

My son is a former Marine captain. When he was going through Officer Candidate School, he told me there were times when he was leading a unit on an exercise and he didn’t have a chance to eat. Why? “Leaders eat last” he told me…

“This one choice, whether a leader puts themselves or their people first, determines if they are worthy of our love and loyalty.”

If you like this thinking, you can get the book here:

Why lifelong learning is the international passport to success

Picture yourself at a college graduation day, with a fresh cohort of students about to set sail for new horizons. What are they thinking while they throw their caps in the air? Why lifelong learning is the international passport to success

25 Ways You’re Borrowing Self From Others

Learning to rely on your own thinking can help you manage anxiety: 25 Ways You’re Borrowing Self From Others

How Anchoring Bias Makes You Dumb

Be warned, your subconscious mind often drops anchor in the strangest of ports: How Anchoring Bias Makes You Dumb

You Must Commit to This Task This Next Year

As a new year is about to begin, many of us are thinking about how we’d like to get healthier, wealthier, and wiser over the next twelve months. Of course, to the Stoics, what really mattered was that final bucket—getting wiser. Understanding yourself and the world better was their primary focus. So if your goal: You Must Commit to This Task This Next Year

Priority Matrix from @appfluence

I am a huge fan of productivity thoughts, tools and tactics and I firmly believe that no matter what business you are in, you can benefit from some intentional thinking in this area. All of us have more things to do than time to do it in and could benefit from a tool that would help us to organize our thoughts and tasks in a more systematic way.

I have been interested in this space since the early 90’s when the company I worked for at the time implemented the Franklin Planner as a means of increasing or enhancing productivity. Franklin Planner was a great way to start but organizing things according to their methodology was as cumbersome as the mass of binders that we had to carry around in order to manage our days.

Almost 20 years ago David Allen came on the scene with his radical ‘Getting Things Done’ approach to time and task management. His ‘mind like water’ approach is perfect for a time when to-do lists must be more flexible while recognizing the context of tasks as well. I have taken his approach to productivity to heart for almost half of my business life and thought of you who know me have heard me talk about it at least once, if not more! What I have never really found is a way to implement his thinking in a way that incorporates the best of software tools, the cloud and a platform independent approach that met my needs. Until now, that is. The tool I want to tell you about is called Priority Matrix from Appfluence.

Priority Matrix is platform independent, based in the cloud, freemium software that integrates with any email platform you’re using including Office 365, Outlook, G Suites and Gmail and it does it seamlessly and elegantly.

Here’s a brief overview:

Overview

Additional Examples

It’s even available for smartphones!

You can find many more of these examples on their YouTube channel here.

This solution hits all my high notes around thoughts, tools, tactics and timing in the productivity space and it meets all my criteria for an effective solution. It is simple, it is powerful, it is platform independent, it is freemium and therefore it is effective. If you’d like to talk about how this applies to you, please use the contact form below!

Supplemental articles

My interview with David Allen…


These thoughts were assembled with care for the important people in my life. If you’re getting this link, it’s because you and your productivity and happiness are very important to me! I hope it benefits you…

Why We Can’t Stop Thinking About Other People’s Lives

Observations on jealousy, social comparison theory, and being human: Why We Can’t Stop Thinking About Other People’s Lives

15 Common Cognitive Distortions

What’s a cognitive distortion and why do so many people have them? Cognitive distortions are simply ways that our mind convinces us of something that isn’t really true. These inaccurate thoughts are usually used to reinforce negative thinking or emotions — telling ourselves things that sound rational and accurate, but really only serve to keep us feeling bad about ourselves. For instance, a person might tell themselves, “I always fail when I try to do something new; I therefore fail at everything I try.” This is an example of “black or white” (or polarized) thinking. The person is only seeing things in absolutes — that if they fail at one thing, they must fail at all things. If they added, “I must be a complete loser and failure” to their thinking, that would also be an example of overgeneralization — taking a failure at one specific task and generalizing it their very self and identity: 15 Common Cognitive Distortions

The Surprising Benefits of Journaling One Sentence Every Day

“From 1986 to 2011, Oprah Winfrey hosted The Oprah Winfrey Show. It was the highest rated talk show of all-time and familiar to nearly anyone who owned a television set in North America at that time.

Throughout the 1980s and 1990s, the “Queen of All Media” built a brand that stretched far beyond the television screen. She went on to become a billionaire, a well-regarded philanthropist, and a recipient of the Presidential Medal of Freedom. And as she was busy working toward these otherworldly accomplishments, Oprah relied on a simple habit: journaling.

Journaling is simply the act of thinking about your life and writing it down. That’s it. Nothing more is needed. But despite its simplicity, the daily journal has played a key role in the careers of many prolific people.

As you might expect, journaling is a favorite habit of many writers. From Mark Twain to Virginia Woolf, Francis Bacon to Joan Didion, John Cheever to Vladimir Nabokov. A journal was rarely far from any of these artists. Susan Sontag once claimed that her journal was where she “created herself.” 

Journaling has been utilized by scores of brilliant thinkers and inventors. Charles Darwin. Marie Curie. Leonardo da Vinci. Thomas Edison. Albert Einstein. Similarly, leaders and politicians throughout history have kept journals in one form or another. People like Thomas Jefferson, Winston Churchill, and Marcus Aurelius. In the sporting world, athletes like Katie Ledecky, winner of multiple gold medals, and Eliud Kipchoge, the world record holder in the marathon, rely on journals to reflect on their daily workouts and improve their training.

Why have so many of history’s greatest thinkers spent time journaling? What are the benefits?”

Read on: The Surprising Benefits of Journaling One Sentence Every Day | James Clear

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