Romantic excitement is often stormy, but in our speedy society, dynamic calmness is the new romantic excitement: Calmness Is the Most Exciting Romantic Experience
Calmness Is the Most Exciting Romantic Experience
The 4 Antidotes for the 4 Strongest Predictors of Divorce
Learn how to mitigate the Gottmans’ “Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse” in your relationship. Source: The 4 Antidotes for the 4 Strongest Predictors of Divorce
It’s Not About You
Instead of having an endless list of “pet peeves,” what if you could learn to leave others’ preferences alone and take ownership of your own reactions? Source: It’s Not About You
Are Long-Distance Relationships More Emotionally Intimate?
Long-distance relationships are stigmatized as challenging. Should they be? Source: Are Long-Distance Relationships More Emotionally Intimate?
6 Minutes to Improve Your Relationship
A powerful listening technique for partners and co-parents. Source: 6 Minutes to Improve Your Relationship
4 Things Couples In The Most Healthy, Secure Relationships Do Differently
It’s all about your dynamic and bringing it to a healthy place. Source: 4 Things Couples In The Most Healthy, Secure Relationships Do Differently
Narratives and Resilience
You are the author – what story are you telling? Source: Narratives and Resilience
Three Empowering Ways We’re All the Same
Common (humanity) denominators for bridging gaps dividing us. Source: Three Empowering Ways We’re All the Same
Do’s and Don’ts When Your Friend Has Cancer
Awkward comments may increase the isolation that cancer patients feel. Source: Do’s and Don’ts When Your Friend Has Cancer
Coach Greg Harden On Training Tom Brady and the Mindset Of Champions
Ryan speaks with Greg Harden about how Stoicism influenced his new book Stay Sane in an Insane World: How to Control the Controllables and Thrive, the techniques that he has used to coach so many sports greats to the highest levels of success, the difference between confidence and ego, why Tom Brady likes The Obstacle Is The Way, and more.
Fearful-Avoidant Attachment and Romantic Relationships
Here’s what disorganized attachment can look like in your romantic relationship. Source: Fearful-Avoidant Attachment and Romantic Relationships
What Stands in Our Way of Being Happy?
Teacher and writer Tal Ben-Shahar on the routes and hurdles to happiness. Source: What Stands in Our Way of Being Happy?
Nonviolence Begins Within
“There is always a linkage between the inner journey of contemplation and our ability to work against violence in the world, in our culture, and in ourselves. As long as we bring to our actions a violence that primarily exists within ourselves, nothing really changes. The future is always the same as the present. That’s why we have to change the present.” Source: Nonviolence Begins Within
Saving Private Ryan; Ending Scene
I don’t know why, but every time I watch this clip I weep. “Tell me I’m a good man. Tell me I’ve lived a good life.” Isn’t this all every man wants to hear?
Cage Studies: How Environment Shapes Drinking Habits
What caged animals can teach you about overcoming excessive drinking. Go to the source for an interesting perspective on environment and drinking: Cage Studies: How Environment Shapes Drinking Habits
3 Golden Rules For Finding Love Without Compromising Who You Are
There are men who love your strength and resilience. Embrace them — literally and figuratively! Source: 3 Golden Rules For Finding Love Without Compromising Who You Are
Here’s Why Everyone is a Bit More Anxious These Days — And What You Can Do About It
It’s official – the COVID-19 pandemic officially changed our personalities. Truity research has discovered important shifts in the Big Five Category of Neuroticism, namely that our tendency to be anxious has steadily increased since the start of the pandemic. Source: Here’s Why Everyone is a Bit More Anxious These Days — And What You
Discussing Relationships and Core Wounds with @ashleyberges
I’ve been spending a lot of time lately trying to understand my anxious attachment style. Ashley Berges is a trusted source for great advice as you’ll see here:
6 Things to Remember When You Feel Anxious in Your Relationships
Me? I have an anxious attachment style so I need to read articles like this because I learn things like this:
“When you’re feeling anxious, you might cling, act controlling, or argue over minor issues that make you feel neglected or rejected—all behaviors that can cause someone to withdraw. I can’t even count the number of times I caused unnecessary drama because I assumed that because I felt insecure, someone else had done something to make me feel that way.
Everything changed when I recognized I could pause, recognize how I was feeling (and why), and then choose to respond from a place of calm awareness.
If you can learn to recognize when you’re feeling triggered, you can practice regulating your own nervous system—through deep breathing, for example—instead of inadvertently pushing the other person away.”
Sooo…
“If you feel anxious in relationships and worry about being rejected or abandoned, it may help to read these six things.” Source: 6 Things to Remember When You Feel Anxious in Your Relationships – Tiny Buddha
If you can relate I recommend this book…
What ACEs/PCEs do you have?
What ACEs do you have? There are 10 types of childhood trauma measured in the CDC-Kaiser Permanente Adverse Childhood Experiences Study. The number of ACEs and offsetting PCEs play a huge role in your childhood growth and development and could give you insight into addictive behaviors. Go to the source: What ACEs/PCEs do you have?
Gabor Mate explains the significance of childhood trauma here:
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