Dr. Maté generously shares his deep understanding of childhood trauma, vulnerability, grief, and emotional distress. He explains what real trauma is and how time doesn’t necessarily lead to healing, how vulnerability is ingrained in us since we are young and the importance of these formative years to mold our emotional health, and the societal expectations we always try to meet but have never truly given us real fulfillment. We also exchange thoughts on dealing with grief, how we struggle to identify with the people we look up to, and how childhood experience varies for every child even when they are raised in a similar environment.
What ACEs/PCEs do you have?

What ACEs do you have? There are 10 types of childhood trauma measured in the CDC-Kaiser Permanente Adverse Childhood Experiences Study. The number of ACEs and offsetting PCEs play a huge role in your childhood growth and development and could give you insight into addictive behaviors. Go to the source: What ACEs/PCEs do you have?
Gabor Mate explains the significance of childhood trauma here:
5 Teachings From The Japanese Wabi-Sabi Philosophy That Can Drastically Improve Your Life
Wabi-sabi is a concept that motions us to constantly search for beauty in imperfection and accept the more natural cycle of life. It reminds us that all things including us and life itself, are impermanent, incomplete, and imperfect. Perfection, then, is impossible and impermanence is the only way. Go to the source: 5 Teachings From The Japanese Wabi-Sabi Philosophy That Can Drastically Improve Your Life — OMAR ITANI

What You Need in Your Marriage Isn’t the Problem
It’s how you try to get those needs met that causes problems. Source: What You Need in Your Marriage Isn’t the Problem
5 Things to Know About Setting Boundaries
Here are some things to consider as you initiate and reinforce boundaries. Source: 5 Things to Know About Setting Boundaries
How Have You Grown This Year?
Are you giving yourself credit for how you’ve grown and changed? Source: How Have You Grown This Year?
The One Thought That Killed My Crippling Fear of Other People’s Opinions via @TinyBuddha
I spent years worrying about what other people thought, and it controlled my life, until one thought set me free. Source: The One Thought That Killed My Crippling Fear of Other People’s Opinions – Tiny Buddha
Why Discord, Paradoxically, Is Vital in Close Relationships
“Fierce intimacy” may be the safest route to emotional vulnerability. Source: Why Discord, Paradoxically, Is Vital in Close Relationships
What Is Stoicism? A Definition & 9 Stoic Exercises To Get You Started
For those of us who live our lives in the real world, there is one branch of philosophy created just for us: Stoicism. It’s a philosophy designed to make us more resilient, happier, more virtuous and more wise–and as a result, better people, better parents and better professionals. Source: What Is Stoicism? A Definition & 9 Stoic Exercises To Get You Started
Want to go deeper? Check out this summary of Marcus Aurelius’ Meditations…
Brian Johnson offer’s a great overview here but you have to create a free account…
The Secret to a Meaningful Life is Simpler Than You Think
Unhappy people fail to recognize what matters, instead becoming overly focused on what they believe is missing from their existence: The Secret to a Meaningful Life is Simpler Than You Think
Why community matters so much — and how to find yours
A community can serve as a social safety net, but finding one and becoming a part of it is different from simply making friends. Source: Why community matters so much — and how to find yours
The Most Eye Opening 10 Minutes Of Your Life via @BreneBrown
Brené Brown is a research professor at the University of Houston. Brown has spent the past two decades studying courage, vulnerability, shame, and empathy. She’s the author of #1 New York Times bestsellers: The Gifts of Imperfection, Daring Greatly, Braving the Wilderness.
You define your goals via @davidamerland
You define your goals. They don’t define you. But the goals you set always define who you will become. This is true whether you succeed in them or not, reach them or not.
Amerland, David. Intentional (p. 62). David Amerland. Kindle Edition.
Needless Angers: Can They Be Eliminated?
Anger poisons relationships, yet anger can easily become a too-frequent habit. Learn more here: Needless Angers: Can They Be Eliminated?
The Science of Novelty
How new solutions to old problems can improve your mental health: The Science of Novelty
Setting Goals for a Life Worth Living
Why—and how—to set meaningful goals outside work: Setting Goals for a Life Worth Living
How to Be Resilient in an Overwhelming World
“The key to cultivating internal calm amidst ever-present stress. Hacking our brain begins with a clear knowledge of the three executive systems that run our cognitive processing. We’ll refer to them as the first executive (amygdala, fear response), second executive (frontal-parietal lobe, logic, and problem-solving), and third executive (DMN, empathy, and self-awareness). This control panel of sorts gives us a comprehensive view of the ways that our thoughts, behaviors, and feelings interact at any given moment.” Go to the source: How to Be Resilient in an Overwhelming World
How Facing Fears Helps to Protect Your Mental Health
Learn difference-making tips to conquer your fears at home and work. Source: How Facing Fears Helps to Protect Your Mental Health
5 Ways to Manage Disappointment
Disappointment can lead to a downward spiral. Read this to ‘check yo’self before you wreck yo’self’! Go to the source: 5 Ways to Manage Disappointment
Here’s another post I did on the topic 10 years ago and there’s more reading here…
5 Symptoms of Repressed Anger
What repressed anger looks like. Source: 5 Symptoms of Repressed Anger
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