Delving into the continuous process of individual growth in your relationships. Source: The Lifelong Journey of Personal Development
The Lifelong Journey of Personal Development
The Myth of Common Sense
“A lot of what we call ‘common sense’ is not reasoning at all, but the conclusion that we believe the majority of people would come to in any given situation. Of course, what that means varies from person to person given culture, social norms, expectations, personal values, and so on.”
My ex-wife used to use the phrase ‘common sense’ to normalize her own baises and shame me because I didn’t recognize her preconceived notions as ‘common sense’. For that and other reasons, I find this article worth reading and understanding.
10 Tips for Greater Happiness
Our thoughts and actions dictate how we feel. Source: 10 Tips for Greater Happiness
Begin your day the Stoic way
“The first hour is the rudder of the day” I have heard it said and what you put in that hour can make or break you. Consider starting your day like a Roman emperor!
If you’re looking for a resource to help you, may I suggest the following:
Bonus video:
A Video from Pam Lefkowitz of ROAR!
New blogger and old friend Pam Lefkowitz has finally gone public. She says:
“I used to speak on tech topics but discovered that I’m not very good at taking tech principles and operations from my brain and teaching them to audiences. I can translate tech-speak to muggle-speak, however. I just can’t do it tech to tech. I suspect it’s a case of Imposter Syndrome more than anything, to be honest.
But I *am* very good at soft skills presentations. And, so, I’ve done a number of them. The most recent one was a lot of fun: Ageism in Tech, revisited. I talk about ageism, racism, and sexism in tech. I’ll post it here. I hope you enjoy it.”
If I recall correctly, Pam is the first woman to become authorized as an Apple Authorized Systems Engineer. She’s super smart and super funny. Follow her blog…
Source: A Video – ROAR!
Why Does My Partner Only Hear Criticism?
Andrew Marshall writes “If you love someone and they love you, shouldn’t you be able to tell them if something they do upsets you? It is a beautiful thought and something I’m sure most people would agree on.
But how can you do it in a loving way—a way that won’t be heard as criticism? Having spent 35 years listening to couples arguing, I have also had plenty of opportunities to think about how to turn this ambition into a reality.” Source: Why Does My Partner Only Hear Criticism?
First, I’m not a mental health professional but I’m surprised to find an article that addresses this issue without mentioning confirmation bias or non-violent communication. Let’s look into those ideas in hopes it will add to the original article.
Continue reading “Why Does My Partner Only Hear Criticism?”How People Change
“We create ourselves. The sequence is suffering, insight, will, action, change.” Source: How People Change: Psychoanalyst Allen Wheelis on the Essence of Freedom and the Two Elements of Self-Transcendence
A More Beautiful Question: The Power of Inquiry to Spark Breakthrough Ideas
This book is recommended by Raffaello Palandri here.
Surrender to the greatness that is Bono
Bono sure seems to have a lot of haters but I’m not one of them. Lately, I’ve been listening to his audiobook Surrender: 40 Songs, One Story and I think it’s a masterpiece. Bono has a reputation for being a little full of himself, but I challenge anyone to maintain that opinion after reading/listening to this book!
I recommend the audio version. Hear Bono read the book in his own voice. This morning I pulled two great quotes out of Chapter 22 where Bono talks in part about bandmate Adam Clayton’s battle with alcohol. Here they are:
Here’s the Spotify playlist of all 40 songs referenced in the book:
The One Thing #recommended
The one book that had the biggest impact on my year last year was The ONE Thing. Funny thing is that the book had been on my shelf for at least three years and I never read it. As the woman said ‘when the student is ready the teacher appears’…
The book resonated with me — I had already been thinking along those lines most of my life — and it reorganized my thinking in ways that had a big impact, especially at work!
One of the most important concepts in the book is this: a domino can knock over a domino 1.5x its size…
Resolve to read this book and apply its lessons this year!
My thoughts on @davidamerlands ‘Intentional’
Intentional: How To Live, Love, Work and Play Meaningfully by David Amerland
David Amerland has always been an influential thinker for me — for example, his book on SEO was my college degree in that space! Intentional belongs on my top shelf along with 7 Habits, Getting Things Done, Fierce Conversations, and Radical Candor. If you like this kind of thinking, you will love this book: “Life is complex. We are complicated. There will be times when this value statement will be reversed. What will never change however is the sense of satisfaction that comes from being the sole architect of how you choose to live.” Amerland, David. Intentional (p. 38). David Amerland. Kindle Edition. View all my reviews
How Measuring Time Shaped History
From Neolithic constructions to atomic clocks, how humans measure time reveals what we value most. Source: How Measuring Time Shaped History
btw, if you’re looking for more here’s one of the best books I’ve read on the topic of time and history:
Why You Need Instant Gratification, According to Science
We spend about 43 per cent of our day doing things without thinking about them. For many of these habitual behaviours, we don’t recognise them as such. However, these learned behaviours are necessary for living our life.
Wendy Wood
I’m a huge fan of the book The ONE Thing. In it, the author Gary Keller talks about the idea that you really don’t need to be as disciplined as you think. Why? Because you only need enough discipline to start a habit and the habit then takes over. Go to the source: Why You Need Instant Gratification, According to Science
Resolutions for a Life Worth Living: Attainable Aspirations Inspired by Great Humans of the Past
Life-tested wisdom on how to live from James Baldwin, Ursula K. Le Guin, Leo Tolstoy, Seneca, Toni Morrison, Walt Whitman, Viktor Frankl, Rachel Carson, and Hannah Arendt. Source: Resolutions for a Life Worth Living: Attainable Aspirations Inspired by Great Humans of the Past
Intentional: How To Live, Love, Work and Play Meaningfully via @davidamerland
Can’t wait to dig into this. Author David Amerland never fails to bring interesting thoughts and thinking forward…
Radical Candor Podcast via @candor #recommended #podcast #communication
Listen to the Radical Candor podcast to learn to give and receive radically candid guidance and feedback like a boss: Radical Candor Podcast | Learn Our Feedback Framework
Our Favorite Books of 2020 via @greatergoodsc
Greater Good’s editors pick the most thought-provoking, practical, and inspirational science books of the year: Greater Good
Thank You for Being Late: An Optimist’s Guide to Thriving in the Age of Accelerations
Thomas Friedman has a knack for synthesizing the trends you feel but can’t or don’t articulate. His latest book is no disappointment…
Leaders eat last
My son is a former Marine captain. When he was going through Officer Candidate School, he told me there were times when he was leading a unit on an exercise and he didn’t have a chance to eat. Why? “Leaders eat last” he told me…
“This one choice, whether a leader puts themselves or their people first, determines if they are worthy of our love and loyalty.”
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